I hear it a lot. Do you like my hair this way or do you like my new outfit, etc? If she is hot, my usual response is "I'd fuck ya". That at least gets a smile.
Women in general fish for compliments. It took me many years of my young adult life to realize that when a woman asks "Does this make me look fat?" the only answer is No.
Not fishing at all, definitely conversation starters.
“Do you like my new outfit?” The sole purpose of that question is to get you to check her out. We’re dancers. It’s part of the gig, big guy.
My first rule is to not waste a dancer's time. My second rule is to say nice things to the dancer as long as the dancer is being nice to me.
So, if a dancer asks me a question like that, I say something nice and don't try to be clever about it. What I think is clever might not go over well with the dancer, and I don't like drama in the club.
Yes, I guess we all get the “do you like my outfit” question a lot. I have two basic responses. If it’s coming from a girl I’m not really interested in who just intruded on my space, I will just smile and say yes, it’s very nice. Even if I think it looks like shit. I will find a polite way to let her know very soon I’m not interested in her so I don’t waste her time (or my time and money).
If it’s a girl I’m interested in, I’ll say yes, but I like what’s in it better. Obviously, this quickly leads to a dance. Or sometimes I’ll say yes, it looks good on you, but I bet it would look better on the floor, which is actually a line I got from a dancer quite a while ago which I thought was kind of amusing.
I always say something nice, regardless. Doesn't cost me anything. Sometimes I then ask her back if she likes my strip club outfit. This leads to a humorous interaction that makes me seem like a normal person.
I get this question every so often but almost never from someone I just met. It's almost always from someone I either previously met or who has been sitting with me for a while.
I'm sure that there are all sorts of reasons for it. Also why does it have to be a singular choice? Maybe she is seeking any combination of affirmation, conversation fodder and getting your attention on her assets.
It doesn't cost me anything to give a compliment so why not? Unless the outfit is truly awful, for which I just tell her that she always looks good but I liked her last one better.
The question I hate from a dancer that I've just met for 10 minutes or less..."What are you thinking?" 99 times out of a 100 they don't want to know the real answer.
SJg what if they want to tell you the truth?
And why cant you tell the truth? Sure they may be offended, but lying doesnt always feel right
It would depend on the situation. But in some cases it may be fine to tell the truth
They're making small talk getting your attention. Seeing if you're into them. They're not looking for validation from strangers at work. Not being able to read social cues is how guys end up acting too creepy in clubs.
===> "Not being able to read social cues is how guys end up acting too creepy in clubs."
Well, I'll agree and disagree. I've never once met a grown man who used the term "social cues" who wasn't a beta bitch pussy. But I agree that guys who struggle to interact with women often come across as creepy ITC.
Yesterday at my favorite club I ran into a dancer that I have previously done 3 VIPs with. She is petite. She asked if her top made her boobs look bigger. She can barely fill a "B" cup. This was not an ice breaker question. I told her "No. Just nice and perky". She smiled at my response and then we went to VIP again. :)
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“Do you like my new outfit?” The sole purpose of that question is to get you to check her out. We’re dancers. It’s part of the gig, big guy.
So, if a dancer asks me a question like that, I say something nice and don't try to be clever about it. What I think is clever might not go over well with the dancer, and I don't like drama in the club.
If it’s a girl I’m interested in, I’ll say yes, but I like what’s in it better. Obviously, this quickly leads to a dance. Or sometimes I’ll say yes, it looks good on you, but I bet it would look better on the floor, which is actually a line I got from a dancer quite a while ago which I thought was kind of amusing.
Do you love me
Did you come looking for me the other day
Who’s your favorite, second favorite dancer
Whats my name
The dancer wants her ego stroked?
This is not my atf btw its a dancer i got two dances with
What kinds of things are done to RIL do strippers pretend to be in love with some guys
They are phrased as questions, in order to get you talking and possibly find out what you like.
The responses are largely compliments. But, you can add your preferences to your replies, so that she understands what you like in a dancer/dance.
If you have no interest in her, you can let her know politely too.
-nervously glances around the metaphorical room in this thread-
I'm sure that there are all sorts of reasons for it. Also why does it have to be a singular choice? Maybe she is seeking any combination of affirmation, conversation fodder and getting your attention on her assets.
It doesn't cost me anything to give a compliment so why not? Unless the outfit is truly awful, for which I just tell her that she always looks good but I liked her last one better.
I always try to give a sincere compliment, even though it might not be exactly what they were expecting.
SJG
Joe Bonamassa
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9McoG2Ld…
Some women will ask, "Do you think I'm too fat?"
You never in any way say yes.
You never guess how old they are either.
Once at the home of a friend a woman asked me how old I though she was. I told her 30. She started screaming. I really felt bad.
Turns out she was 29. But what I had really thought was she was probably 35.
I was 22, so it was hard to tell.
But now I know, you never go along with that, too fat, or how old they are.
It all goes to show you, women can be easy to manipulate, to get into bed.
SJG
Maggie May, original
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOl7dh7a…
If certain guys answer honestly, they could easily get their face slapped!
And why cant you tell the truth? Sure they may be offended, but lying doesnt always feel right
It would depend on the situation. But in some cases it may be fine to tell the truth
SJG
SJG
X
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LInxU2dW…
Well, I'll agree and disagree. I've never once met a grown man who used the term "social cues" who wasn't a beta bitch pussy. But I agree that guys who struggle to interact with women often come across as creepy ITC.
Does this top make my boobs look big? = You ready to take me to VIP?
Maybe I should update my google translate - stripper speak edition!