Proper etiquette outside a club. And inside
MeNotYou2
So, what is the proper etiquette when encountering a dancer outside a club..
1) if you randomly encounter them by themselves (and you are alone as well)
2) you randomly encounter them and they are with someone (and you are alone).
Now let’s look at this the other way. You go to a club and encounter someone you know at said club
A). You encounter a guy you know from outside the club while at the club
B). You encounter a women you know from outside the club at the club (not dancing or working )
C). You encounter a woman you know from outside the club and she IS dancing.
I have had a few of these happen to me. Which is odd because I live a reasonably distant from the clubs I used to frequent (I was out of the game for several years due to family issues)
#1 at a restaurant (she was along at the next table
#2. Was at a Store she was with her daughter
B) i ran into a waitress i new (from a restaurant outside the club) and she was at the club with a large group of guys and gals
C) I encountered a girl I worked with sister dancing at a local club. We knew each other as she had been at the office several times and I had been at there apartment at least a dozen times (and yes we had been introduced and talked on multiple occasions). She pretended not to know me… but she avoided me completely every time I came in. This was at my favorite club. My ATF (of the moment and the dancer referred to in #2) noticed that she was avoiding me and would occasionally bring it up…
BTW did I mention the sisters were identical twins (auburn hair). And no I am not making this up. Sadly I never made it with either sister…. Sigh….
1) if you randomly encounter them by themselves (and you are alone as well)
2) you randomly encounter them and they are with someone (and you are alone).
Now let’s look at this the other way. You go to a club and encounter someone you know at said club
A). You encounter a guy you know from outside the club while at the club
B). You encounter a women you know from outside the club at the club (not dancing or working )
C). You encounter a woman you know from outside the club and she IS dancing.
I have had a few of these happen to me. Which is odd because I live a reasonably distant from the clubs I used to frequent (I was out of the game for several years due to family issues)
#1 at a restaurant (she was along at the next table
#2. Was at a Store she was with her daughter
B) i ran into a waitress i new (from a restaurant outside the club) and she was at the club with a large group of guys and gals
C) I encountered a girl I worked with sister dancing at a local club. We knew each other as she had been at the office several times and I had been at there apartment at least a dozen times (and yes we had been introduced and talked on multiple occasions). She pretended not to know me… but she avoided me completely every time I came in. This was at my favorite club. My ATF (of the moment and the dancer referred to in #2) noticed that she was avoiding me and would occasionally bring it up…
BTW did I mention the sisters were identical twins (auburn hair). And no I am not making this up. Sadly I never made it with either sister…. Sigh….
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There was a single time when I was sitting down for a coffee in a coffee shop. A dancer I knew came in, got a coffee and bagel, sat down, and then noticed me but didn't give anything away. She took out her phone and sent me a text: "Can I come over and say hi?" She handled that well.
Situations A, B, and C: Though there may be a few exceptions, I try to leave before they see me. I'm private about my clubbing. If it's a guy (or woman) who hasn't talked to me about liking strip clubs before that, then there's a good chance that they are also some degree of private about it. So, why take a chance on an awkward encounter? Also, there are other clubs.
Situation C ... Many years ago, I went to the Foxy Lady. A dancer touched my shoulder to ask me for a dance, and when I turned around I saw that she was a woman who worked at my day job. Literally two cubicles away from me. She was a complete wreck, even though I explained that I wouldn't tell anyone at work (and I didn't). She lasted at the day job for another week and then quit. It wasn't remotely my fault, but I still felt bad. She liked working there. If I'd seen her first, I would have bolted out of the club and not gone back for a good long time.
Also by the time she was dancing at the club I was no longer working with her sister or really even talking with her.
And being a single guy I could care less who knows I go to the clubs. So I never had a worry about that.
And yes she was pretty hot. About 5-10. Curly auburn hair athletic figure. And the sister was pretty nice but the dancer was more ummmm. Bitchy. That was how I knew which was which. That being said I would have taken a ride if offered but she wanted to avoid me so I didn’t push it.
Oddly my ATF tried a couple times (I had hinted that I was acquainted with her, and apparently the dancer told my ATF that she new me OTC. And mrt ATF had a minor thing for girls e dry once in a while so so she wanted to get together just the three of us but that never happened.
No about the only regret I have goes a lot farther back and has to do with someone different…
Mostly I was just wondering what folks considered proper…. And I was curious to see if I could get a bit more activity going on the forums. Back in the day I used yo be active on a bee forums that have long since gone the way of the dodo. Ah good old twosheds….
I sometimes run into a club bouncer in my gym. We've said hi, but that's as far as it went. What happens in the club stays in the club.
I've never run into anyone I know from the outside world ITC, but given the circles I travel in (family and religious/charitable) I'm not shocked by that. But I'm sure it will happen some day and my approach will be the same - I won't throw it in his/her face by approaching him/her. If they approach me I'll deal with it, though I'd much rather be approached by a girl who is dancing than an acquaintance from my social circles who just happens to be in the club.
I also turned around in the courtroom while trying a case one day to see a dancer I had done rooms with sitting in the courtroom. She was so stoic that I actually decided it wasn't her, left, went back and asked. She said she wanted to be discrete. Very cool.
I once saw a local bikini barista (and sometimes dancer) I frequent entering her apartment and I turned before she saw me, because I figured there’s some chance it would cause her a lot of anxiety if she thought a customer knew where she lived.
First time, at a shopping mall. I was solo and so was she. I was going into Macy's and she was leaving. I briefly made eye contact. She did the same but, I saw she was with a guy, so I walked on. She did the same. We talked about it later at the club and had a good laugh. The guy was her off and on boyfriend. On at the moment we saw each other in the mall. She was appreciative that I didn't say anything. I got a great VIP from her too.
Second time, I saw a stripper, we were both with our spouses. Traci (the stripper) and I were in the middle of a continuing affair, but we had not planned on meeting. It was a random thing at a movie theater. We both played it cool and I don't think either of our spouses was any the wiser. At any rate, we didn't cool the affair. For that matter we are still continuing affair even though she is divorced and remarried, unhappily. I am divorced, happily. We have since discussed what we would say if a chance encounter with spouses/significant others/kids happens again. We don't know each other, we don't speak, we don't even acknowledge each other. Text later.