Is Purity Culture the motivation behind movements like MGTOW...others?
Beat100
PS: You guys give insightful answers, but read carefully so I can explain. I don't identify with any of this ideologies I am only a researcher who is trying to figure society.
First, I am not a follower of the Protestant religion, much less know its tenants. However, I was reading on Purity culture and it seems to me that it shares many of the same ideas that MGTOW, Redpill and the other manosphee movements have.
Purity Culture: Women who post bikini pictures are sinful.
Purity Culture: You should not marriage, a women who does that.
MGTOW/Redpill: Modern women today are sinful, they have Onlyfans.
MGTOW/Redpill: Men cannot marry in this modern culture, we should go our own way..etc
First, I am not a follower of the Protestant religion, much less know its tenants. However, I was reading on Purity culture and it seems to me that it shares many of the same ideas that MGTOW, Redpill and the other manosphee movements have.
Purity Culture: Women who post bikini pictures are sinful.
Purity Culture: You should not marriage, a women who does that.
MGTOW/Redpill: Modern women today are sinful, they have Onlyfans.
MGTOW/Redpill: Men cannot marry in this modern culture, we should go our own way..etc
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MGTOW are often militant atheists, feeling as put down by religion as they are from women. Most of them talk like they've given up on meaning in life. Purity Culture just expects people to dress modestly, and not kiss or masturbate. Then when you get married, magically flip a switch and be able to satisfy one another completely.
I know a bit about MGTOW, Redpill, and Manosphere stuff, but I don't care a lot about where it comes from and what motivates it. From what I can tell, it's all coming from a relatively small number of people who'd rather naval gaze about masculinity and sexuality rather than go outside and talk to people.
And that's what you should do. Go outside and talk to a human, and worry less about the conversations that keep a few fringe sub-Reddits chugging along.
I'm a Protestant, and I know its tenets. My Church doesn't have any TENANTS.
Ok, lol. I wrote this when I woke up.
@Everyone
You and some guys here have to admit America; especially the Puritans, have very judgmental ideas towards men and women. Hence, you have weirdos like MGTOW parroting similar ideas. These guys have been socialized in that environment with these clear expectation of chastity. How come in places where there's no religion, most people don't care. You can't say there's no correlation.
Hah! Me too! It was very hot and steamy/muggy BTW.
I seriously do not know anything at all about MGTOW, RedPill, or manosphere, this is the first I have heard of any of it. Based on what I have read in this discussion, I'm not sure I need to learn more.
Same here!
And, similar to others on this thread, this is why I most regard Beat's posts as low-grade trolling. Because it's painfully obvious that this is not a place populated by people who would know or care about this stuff, let alone have an informed opinion.
But this only amplifies my believe that Beat is a person who needs to go outside and talk to real people.
Its funny how they'll claim men choose to be successful and develop all these great habits. But somehow getting laid is society's fault and they can't do anything about it.
And op is dc. Its obvious.
If he's paid any attention to discussions, he isn't coming here looking for a representative sample of men. But it seems like enough guys--especially the younger ones like @ICEE and myself--and a few dancers have had encounters with these groups. One of my best friends has met most of the big pickup artist/manosphere guys.
I'd rather have more posts like this, and less political bitching, trolling, or braggy bullshit.
Where else could I ask these questions? I search online, but it seems most forums are highly politicized, and most of them are sex-negative."How did you overcome purity culture and decided to pay for sex..etc." Most people would say, "Paying for sex is exploitation" or "I would never pay for sex or even pay to get a lap dance..etc." These types of ideas come from both the left and the right(progressives and conservatives). I even went to porn forums, and most guys there say, "I would never pay a porn star to hook up; thats' for losers." Yet most seem pretty happy to pay for porn. There's a lot of stigma around sex work, at least in the Anglosphere.
This forum seems like one of the few places where you guys "overcame" Purity culture, and you go to strip clubs and sometimes are willing to get extras..etc. Hence you make for an exciting group to ask these types of questions.
@Tetradon
I appreciate it, man. My main issue with these groups is that they are engaged in some "Double bind." They are willing to help you in one area but radicalize you in another place. For instance, imagine you are a college student; all you are interested in is getting laid; maybe you are not even religious. You discover a "manosphere writer" who promises to teach you how to get applied. He does this. However, at the same time, he writes a lot of posts which "degenerate" the culture has become. It seems that most PUA instructors and manosphere writers are like this. They are willing to help you but also expect you to have toxic beliefs about some and society.
That reminds me of an old joke:
Q. Why do Baptists think it's a sin to screw standing up?
A. Because it looks so much like dancing.
Catholic "purity culture" teaches that even masturbation is a "grave sin," and the only acceptable sex is without contraception between husband and wife. Hence the giant Catholic (particularly Irish) families. It generates its own set of hangups, and fixates on the Virgin Mary's, well, virginity, as some ideal. Hell, Protestants at least allow married men, and occasionally women, to be church leaders. Only Catholicism restricts it to celibate (LOL) males. Growing up with that, I developed a lot of resentments towards Catholicism (most not related to sex). And with sex being forbidden fruit, I fell in love with strip clubs instantly. I still love the subversive elements, doubly so for buying extras, which is a different thrill from civvie dating and fucking.
Back to the original topic, most MGTOW are hostile towards religion, marriage, etc, which they regard as a restriction on male freedom. But rather, most have been burned by women and think all women just want to use and abuse men. As a result, they are resentful of just about everyone except each other. Therefore, they go on "blackpill" forums and jack each other off, or flex on Twitter about what ubermenschen they are (BTW they love Nietzsche). Either way, it's a miserable existence.
If you're doing a research project on this, you might be better served on some of those forums. MGTOW are a fairly recent phenomenon, and this forum skews older (at 41, I'm a baby next to the average TUSCLer). I'd also say forum-goers are less religious and more hedonistic than average.
Hope this helps.
And the manosphere is a fraud. Just a cottage industry banking off incels .