How rough do you like it?

Call me uncultured, but I like to fuck vs “making love” – some PLs seem to want something akin to a romantic honeymoon experience – some wanna have sex like it was a romance-novel and some like to have as if it was porn (I gravitate towards the latter; at least till I’ve gotten my fill/nut then I’m “more patient”).

I’m not into S&M stuff like face-slapping or hard nipple twisting, etc, but I do love to smack that ass; not as hard as I can, but hard enough.

With some exceptions, the ebonies I’ve been with like it hard and are also more prone to be into fucking than “making love” – at times I’ve been told I’m a bit aggressive (may be my Latino DNA); and at times some of the ebonies want me to be even more aggressive – the ebonies, particularly the big-booty-ones, many seem to like their asses slapped hard – the Latinas I’ve been w/ not so much.

I wanna hear Cashman's answer to this question ?

I'm not really into rough stuff. I've had girls want me to choke them. I felt strange doing it and never got anywhere close to hurting anyone.

I like it rough, but one time this girl wanted me to choke her, over the top choke her. Put my weight behind it and she started twitching and thought she was having a seizure or worse. Turned out she was into being choked so much she was Cumming alot from it to the point I thought I hurt her. It was awkward once I figured it out (few seconds) but I was already reaching for my clothes trying to figure out what to do next.

I didn't learn anything, I still like it rough. Had 1 girl that loved being hit, its kinda weird, different not sure it's for me but I do it if asked. I feel like it's a very fine line between rough sex and just beating a girl up but since your dick is out it's okay. Makes me uncomfortable a little bit, kept asking if she was OK. She was in a BDSM club told me I could never hurt her tho

I love spanking my favorite's ass.

I definitely Dominated my stripper FWB. Made her ass red which she loved.

I don't like it real rough. 100 or 120 Grit is my limit.

I like it real rough.

I'm a lover. Not a fighter. Once in awhile I've run across a stripper that wanted me to slap her ass and they never seem satisfied with my love pats. I don't want them getting rough with me either. I bruise easily.

"It was awkward once I figured it out (few seconds) but I was already reaching for my clothes trying to figure out what to do next."

If you choke a gal out, what not to do is bail and hope for the best lol. For all you dudes reading this from mom's basement, go check some other forums that specialize in that sort of stuff before you try it at home. Or let your partner walk you through it if you don't know what you're doing.

I have no interest in rough sex.

I leave that decision to her.

I enjoy rough sex. I’m not interested in anything that remotely smells like making love.

It’s an awful idea to try anything rough when you are ITC. Ass slapping and choking can be fine with the right stripper - but it can easily turn into a bad situation. Dancers may say they love a good ass slapping - but when you deliver a few hard ones - and her cheeks start to burn - and she realizes your hand print is on her cheek for the rest of her shift - it can go bad quickly.

My best luck has been with civilian girls who I meet through FB and some fetlife contact. My rule is very simple - as if something feels off during our initial meet up - I stop. I’ve found a few OTC dancers who say they enjoy it rough - but most don’t want to show visible damage - so that limits the experience.

Finding a location is also a challenge - as I don’t want to bring the girls back to my house to abuse them. Hotel rooms are notorious for thin walls - and I know neighboring rooms can her the slapping and the strapping. I prefer to tie girls when they are standing - with their wrists overhead - and hotel rooms never have exposed beams.

It isn’t always easy - but getting a hotel room during the day - can work best. Put the TV volume up - and then begin the abuse.

Boundaries are discussed in advance - and I avoid girls who say they have no limits. That’s an inexperienced answer - and it means they like having their ads slapped - but not too hard. I will go as far as I can with a true freak. I will slap, beat, choke (out at times), crop, stuff her holes full, burn - and get a bit creative too. Psychological shit works very well too.

I apologize for the misspellings.

can her the = can hear the

their ads slapped = their ass slapped

I’m going hard or I’m goin home

Cashman for the win on this one.

I knew Cash would not disappoint on this answer. I always wanted he and Nicole to get together.

"It was awkward once I figured it out (few seconds) but I was already reaching for my clothes trying to figure out what to do next."

If you choke a gal out, what not to do is bail and hope for the best lol. For all you dudes reading this from mom's basement, go check some other forums that specialize in that sort of stuff before you try it at home. Or let your partner walk you through it if you don't know what you're doing.

My thought was more regardless of what to do next, get help, run for my phone in the car or whatever it was probably better to have clothes on.

I have absolutely no interest in rough sex and don't understand the attraction. As long as no one ends up in the ER, who cares? To each his own.

As it is with so many things, I'm all over the map. With strippers, I'd never say that it's "making love" but sometimes it's slower and more relaxed. That said, I also enjoy more aggressive sex when the mood takes me.

I have no interest in truly rough sex and/or BDSM. If getting off means I have to learn about rigging, knots, and load-bearing beams ... well, it just seems like a lot of work. I'd also never get involved in that sort of sex with someone I don't trust completely. With that sort of sex, if things go wrong it's easy to wind up really hurting someone and/or being in the news as a result.

Not into rough sex at all. I like my sex and violence, but not mixed together.

I saw a teenage girl wearing a Donkey Punch tee shirt out with her parents. The logo was a smiling donkey. I am 100 percent sure none of them had any idea what it meant. That is the type of super rough sex I where have no interest.

From the Urban Dictionary:

Donkey punching involves the male punching the sexual partner in the back of the head during anal or vaginal sex prior to orgasm, to provoke a shock causing the vaginal or anal muscles to contract around the male's penis.

As rough as she likes it. I draw the line at scat, blood and maiming and permanent injury/scarring, but almost anything short of that is fair game if she likes it.

I would be cautious about anything that might leave marks or bruising, particularly with a dancer that you don't know well (as well as you might get to know a dancer...). Once there's physical signs of abuse, it becomes that much easier for a dancer to make your life really complex if she suddenly wants to.

How often does that happen? No idea. The stories I've heard could all be urban legend. But still ... I'd be cautious.

@Call.Me.Ishmael, as many times as a dancer and I have done the BDSM thing, I've never had a problem. I'm fairly cautious about getting in that mode though. I tend to wait quite a while before bringing it up, and then only after she's done so, or I get a firm enough feeling that she will respond positively. I also tend to have long talks about limits and such before even attempting it.

I agree no limits is an inexperienced answer.

Usually I want her to feel it the next day with minimal marks.

Nah, rough is for others, I'll take mine gentle and drawn out. But, have fun your way.