Strip Club Customer Etiquette 101:

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• verizon

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  3 years ago

  I agree with most. 1, 11, 12 are the points I would adjust or eliminate. Then there is #7, everything in life is negotiable.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  3 years ago

  "1) Don’t go to a strip club if you are broke..." Overall, I would agree. "2) If a girl sits with you and you like her: ask her if she wants a drink and tip her for her time..." If a girl approaches me and I know I'm not going to buy dances, then that's the first thing I (politely) tell her so that she can move on to someone who will buy dances. I'll buy drinks, but I don't pay for small talk. That said, I don't waste a dancer's time. "3) If you find a girl you like: make an effort to see her on stage..." Reasonable but not required. "4) Don’t ask what her real name is, we have stage names for safety reasons..." Reasonable. "5) A strip club is not like speed dating..." Sure ... as long as the dancer realizes that I'm not a walking ATM. "6) Please don’t touch without asking..." I would expand this one to say that not all dancers have the same boundaries for all customers. That's one of the reasons why I don't talk about specifics in my reviews. "7) Don’t try to haggle dance prices..." Baseline, vanilla dance prices ... mostly agree. Depends on the club and their dance price policy. But when it comes to extras, that's a whole other thing. "8.) Don’t ask how our boyfriends/partners/spouses/families feel about us dancing..." I've never done this and I never will. I would assume that the answer is a lie. "9) Don’t talk shit about the other dancers..." Something else I'll never do. "10) Don’t ask us if we can find cocaine/drugs..." Depends on how regular you are at the club, but overall I agree with this. 11) If you want to watch the game or talk to your buddies or there for the bar..." Meh. Depends on the club. Not on board with this one. "12) Don’t just watch and/or stare. It’s extremely rude." Yeah, I get this, but some guys are going to window shop. "13) No photography or videos without the dancer's explicit consent." No brainer. No, never. "14) Even if you are a friend of a dancer, please tip her." That's between the dancer and her friend. "15) Don’t out a stripper if you see her in public..." Nope, never. Also, for a lot of guys there's a degree of mutually-assured destruction attached to doing something like that.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  3 years ago

  The etiquette is just common sense. If you argue against it....well....
• RonJax

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  3 years ago

  Good list and the grammar isn’t as bad as advertised
• Uprightcitizen

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  3 years ago

  Wiffle looks pretty standard good etiquette but #7 is subjective if the client is extras oriented. Yes regular dances are standard and if a client is trying to take down those rates GTFO
• Playademan

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  3 years ago

  9) Don’t talk shit about the other dancers. Everyone likes something different. Just because she isn’t what you want to see does not mean she isn't what someone else wants or is bad at her job. Oh and we have feelings too. Agree with most and with the adjustments others have made. However for this one, I don’t do but..........it’s usually other girls coming up to me to talk shit about other girls lol.
• docsavage

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  3 years ago

  I don't have a a problem with number one, don't go to a strip club if you are broke. I do have a problem with the idea that some dancers have that they are doing a customer a favor just by being there and doing a stage show for him. I've had situations where a stripper says something to me like "this isn't a free show" while I'm sitting in a club. This is after I've paid an entrance fee to get in and then been required to buy an overpriced drink. The attitude behind girls saying that is that I must spend money every time on the girls in the club to be fair to them. Sometimes I just don't see a girl I like after watching a stage rotation and then leave. Sometimes the girls on stage are so unattractive I almost feel like they should be paying me to sit there and watch them. Sometimes the dancers look ok but are obnoxious, arrogant or unpleasant. There should never be any belief on the part of the dancers that they are doing the customers a favor just by letting the customers be in the same building as them. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars on dancers over the years but there have been a hundred times I've been in a club where I regretted every second I spent there after I left.
• wiffle shwaffle

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  3 years ago

  "I don't know if any club would go after it in court." It's not always about the club. It doesn't mean I won't sue. I've worked with girls who've broken phones. What's someone going to do? Take the dancer to court and explain to the judge why they thought it would be okay to take photos and videos of a dancer without her consent? Please. I've dumped drinks on guys who've taken photos. I don't give a fuck. Shit on me and I'll shit on you.
• 623

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  3 years ago

  Taking photos in a public place is not a crime. What is done with said photo after might be, if it is used for commercial purposes without permission or an official release. If it is used for extortion or blackmail or a host of other crimes then that is illegal, but not taking the photo itself. Assuming the establishment has a policy against taking photographs they can trespass you out of there but technically they cannot impounded your phone or force you to delete said photo. On the other hand, if they are 6’8” 300 lbs and named Guido, Knuckles or even Bob, you might want to make amends. A person assaulting you for talking a photo (or for any other undesirable behavior) is guilty of assault. A person who would take pictures in a club (or on a nude beach, etc.) is a total dickwad asshole but not a criminal.
• twentyfive

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  3 years ago

  Most of this stuff is pretty basic but the overall tone is crap, sounds like someone who is tired and worn out, the vibe here is lousy.
• wiffle shwaffle

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  3 years ago

  Except strip clubs aren't considered "public".
• wiffle shwaffle

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  3 years ago

  Quick and simple Google search to back that statement up. As an independent contractor, I've had to authorize the use of any photos taken of me by club photographers to be used or discarded on my contracts. [view link] As to my above comment where I said I worked with people who've taken matters into their own hands and I've poured a drink on somebody, we basically had to be our own bouncers at that club in downtown Detroit. There were only two bouncers at that club and they always worked the door. We didn't have bouncers on the floor watching for our safety. So I do recognize that none of that was okay, but given we had to basically fend for ourselves at that club, we had to get a little bit aggressive sometimes. Especially after home Tigers games when everybody was drunk, rowdy, demeaning, and absolutely just fucking ridiculous. We watched out for each other and if someone saw a photo being taken of someone else, they would usually approach the customer and ask them to delete it. If the customer decided to be a fucking asshole, that's when we would take some sort of action. So it wasn't like we were just eagerly aggressive ready to beat these customers' asses. I'm done explaining my statement now. I don't regret having poured a drink on someone before for being a fucking asshole after I asked him to delete a photo of me and I would do it again if I had to. Idgaf.
• wiffle shwaffle

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  3 years ago

  Here are some answers to the legality question. [view link] Ever since I started dancing in 2013, I have always been told it is illegal to photograph or film in a strip club without permission. It was explained to me in detail once before why and how it's illegal, but I can't find that law and I've been looking. Either every manager and bouncer I've had in the past several years have conspired to lie to me, or it really is illegal. At Deja Vu, of all places, they also said it was illegal. They're the ones who stated the law to me. It was something like how you need a distribution license and consent to film pornography. And at strip clubs, you don't have that consent. So if it were distributed (even on Snapchat for example) the legality comes into play.
• wiffle shwaffle

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  3 years ago

  And if you're all going to mansplain to me about how what we did to protect ourselves is assaulting customers for taking photos, then you're all also completely minimalizing and dismissing how often and frequently dancers are assaulted and touched without consent. But who cares about sex workers right? Because taking a photo of them is so much more important than being considerate of a dancer's safety or identity. Why the fuck did I even bother posting again here. God damn. 🙄
• loper

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  3 years ago

  Some of these I could turn around. 1. Don't go if you're broke. And you, don't assume that I'm an ATM. 2. If a girl sits with you and you like her .... And you, if you sit with me and it's clear I'm not into you, please take the hint. 5. Not speed dating. True, but there's nothing wrong with fantasy either, as long as it doesn't leave the club. If I can't pretend to have an emotional connection, I'd rather not bother having a physical one. 7. Don't haggle dance prices. Agreed, but you, please don't have your own special, higher, dance fee. And, if you do, state it clearly up front. Also, state if you have a special fee for what is fairly normal at that club, such as touching, or nude. 9. Don't talk shit about other dancers. Likewise, you, please don't talk shit about other dancers. 11. Strongly disagree. If I want to go to the strip bar to watch a game, that's between me and the bar. 12. Don't just watch or stare. And you, if I'm watching and staring, it's a hint that I'd like you to come over. Presumably you're there to make money, not to stare at your phone. Most of the rest of these are simple respect, and I wouldn't disagree with them at all.
• twentyfive

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  3 years ago

  ^ It’s pretty basic few here disagree with anything but the author seems bitter and angry and misses the point of why customers even go to a strip club, one things for sure the author isn’t a dancer I’d enjoy spending time with seems to me she’d rather waste my time arguing
• loper

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  3 years ago

  Also, 5, not speed dating. Likewise, just because last time I was at the club I spent time (money) with you, don't assume that you're now my strip club girlfriend. Chances are I'd like to try out someone else this time, so don't block.
• twentyfive

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  3 years ago

  To me respect should be a mutual thing, the tone here sounds to me like strippersplaining, if this is a recurring topic on your groups seems to me there’s a large number of angry people who don’t feel very good about themselves
• Studme53

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  3 years ago

  Good etiquette and common sense. The girls are there for their job and they’re human beings.
• loper

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  3 years ago

  Another thing about #11. (founder, I really want that edit button!) The club has bartenders, waitresses and cooks, all of whom are also there to make money. If I go and don't find a dancer that appeals to me, but I'm enjoying the vibe regardless, who are you to say I can't support the other workers there?
• rickthelion

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  3 years ago

  You forgot the rick rule: there are no rules for ricks. ROAR!!!
• rickdugan

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  3 years ago

  Whoever wrote this comes across as both uptight and burned out. Don't get me wrong, I agree with a lot of this. But the telltale sign that a girl is on Burnout Row is when she starts obsessing over who might be getting a "free show." IME, once a girl gets it in her head that the club has too many cheap asses who won't pay her it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Her attitude becomes bad and she starts pulling back on her stage performances, which in turn lead to less tips and fewer sold dances. IME once this starts, the girl is a short timer in the business.
• shadowcat

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  3 years ago

  This is old but I still find it humorous. Stripper Rant 1) Hey you over there, holding that one dollar bill in your hand with a death grip and waving it around at me like it's the fucking deed to Trump Towers... what the fuck do you want me to do, grow another pussy?!? It's a fuckin' dollar, put it down on the tiprail and blow my world away already. 2) You losers that come into the club for a lapdance with NO underwear or boxers and thin-ass, nylon shorts, so we slip and slide on your hard-on (which always feel like a sharpie pen ~ fine point)...fuck you. 3) You with the thick-ass jeans, this was an impromptu visit, eh? 4) Don't pull my thong up during a dance and ask me if it felt good. IT DOES NOT FEEL GOOD. 5) Hey you, Loser, the one counting out the 20 bucks in one dollar increments, rubbing your fingers between each one to make sure you are giving me just that one dollar. Yes, you. 6) No I will not just let you "slip it in real quick" for $50 more bucks. 7) Yeah, my tits are real. As real as my affection for you. 8)If you cum in your pants, you have to tip me an extra $100 for being a lame-ass who can cum in their pants from a lapdance. 9) Stop asking me out. You're a smelly, fat loser and the only reason I'm smiling and cooing at you is because I want your money. Outside of the club I wouldn't even fart your way. 11) Stop bitching at me about the goddamn two drink minimum. First of all, your breath ranks (what'd you have for dinner, garlic and shit?), you're about 172 lbs. overweight, and you look like Jay Leno. More importantly: I don't give a shit. 12) Don't bitch at me about the $10 non-alchoholic beer either. Hide a bottle of Jack in your coat pocket next time like everyone else does. 13) My horniness is in direct proportion to your income. 14) No, you CAN'T SMOKE. Dumb. Ass. 15 )Boys, don't sit in the front row with your "homies" and act all engrossed in some deep conversation during a girls performance because you want to look like you're too "cool" to notice the hot, naked girl in front of you. It's a clear sign that you ain't getting any. 16) DON'T SIT IN THE FRONT ROW IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO TIP. Fer chrissakes!!!!!!!!!!! 17) "So what do you guys do when you're on your period?" Answer: I lap dance with guys in dark pants. 18) STOP trying to grab my tits!!!!!!! That's extra. 19) SHOWER FIRST, you nasty fuck! 20) I had a feeling you weren't going to tip me, so I took extra care to rub my lip gloss on your collar and wear extra glitter lotion and obnoxious perfume before our dance. 21) Hey cheapasses: please don't come to my work. Just stay home and jack off to "Desperate Housewives" instead. It will save us a both a lot of unpleasantry. 22) Stop asking me why I do this job and try to get all psychologically analytical on me. For the money, you moron, that's why. 23) No seriously, my real name is Sparkle. 24) NO, I will not take a dime sac for payment. I can tell it's oregano anyway you stupid mutherfucker! 25) Sorry, I don't do that. Ask the ugly girl at the bar with the black roots and overbite. 26) I can see it's your first time at a strip club. Let me explain the dynamics to you. If you want a fuck or a blow-job, go to the ugly chicks. Hot girls don't have to do "extra services." I can give you some recommendations for a small fee. 27) It is not okay for you to bounce me on your cock like a baby on a knee. Not okay. 28) Stop complaining about how short the song was. It felt like the fucking maxi-single to me. 29)Yes I will fuck you, but only for 10 grand. More if you're ugly. So basically, more. 30) DO NOT come into the club looking for a girlfriend/date. It's like me going to PETA looking for a steak. 31) Girls--what's with the pole smell? Can we do a little hygiene check? Nothing than worse than twirling around the pole and getting a whiff of stale pussy. 32) Girls--stop lip-syncing to the song you're dancing to on stage. Especially if you don't know all the words. 33) Girls--if your toes curl and hang over your platform shoes a la' Fred Flinstone, you need to go up a size. 34) Girls--drowning yourself in Angel perfume is just as bad if not worse than the BO you're trying to cover. Take a goddamn shower, you smell like lapdance funk. 35) Hey DJ! You suck! 36)Girls--may I suggest complete sobriety before getting tatted up? Tattoos should be meaningful, or at least semi-meaningful, or at least semi semi-meaningful. That fucking dancing llama on your ass is so lame. 37)Girls--some songs just should not be stripped to. Please. No Disney soundtracks (you know who you are, you fucking weirdo), Sade, Boys II Men, or Bjork. For the love of God, Please. post id: 145791048 email to friend
• rickdugan

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  3 years ago

  1) Agree that there's no sense in going to a club when broke. 2) Agree about offering a drink if she sits with me. Whether I tip her beyond that depends entirely on how entertaining she is. She is always free to get up and move on if I am not lucrative enough for her. 3) Agree about stage tipping girls I like and I do. 4) Agree in theory about pressing for a real name, but that's something that can be decided by each guy and gal. A bit uptight on this one IMO. 5) Agree that it's not a place to search for love. 6) "Please don’t touch without asking" is a bit uptight. I understand about not molesting a girl on an open floor, but if I'm tipping her there will be some incidental contact and if I'm in the back there will likely be more contact. 7) Disagree. Grown adults can certainly negotiate their terms, including dance prices. If a guy intends to buy multiple dances, there's no reason why he and the girl can't come to an understanding if they are both willing. 8.) Agree. Asking how your boyfriends/partners/spouses/families feels about you dancing is a d-bag move. 9) If Shamu doesn't want her feelings hurt when guys in the audience gasp in disgust, then she should either keep her fat ass off stage or stop double fisting Twinkies. 10) Agree about drug seeking requests. 11) Disagree. It's not my job to make you more interesting than the game or my buddies, it's your job. Maybe if you stopped obsessing over who is "consuming your labor for free" you might actually become more interesting than that game. 12) Disagree to an extent - I'll watch what I want. Do agree though that creepy death stares are no bueno. 13) Agree about photography and videos. Those guys should have a baseball bat pounded into their nuts. It's not only dancers who prefer discretion - so do many of the guys ITC. 14) Meh, idk. If the girl really had a head on her shoulders she would discourage real life friends from coming in and burning up her work time. 15) Agree about not outing a stripper.
• gammanu95

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  3 years ago

  Good post. I'm glad you're staying with us.
• Studme53

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  3 years ago

  Shadow - that post is funny and pretty bitter. You’re right though, very dated given the “jerk off to Desperate Housewives” reference. Btw - Eva Longoria and Nicolette Sheridan were very stroke worthy back in the day.
• JimGassagain

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  3 years ago

  Rick Dugan nailed it when he said OP is burnt out. This list is common sense and should be more for the OP than the PL. Pot calls kettle black. Bacon!!
• rickdugan

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  3 years ago

  Jim, the OP clearly said that she didn't write the list. She just copied and pasted it. Don't be a twat.
• Cashman1234

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  3 years ago

  There is something odd that happens when a guy enters a strip club. It’s like entering a fantasy world. Things are so different in the half light - and simply stepping past the threshold causes things to change dramatically. An old, ugly, sloppy, 50 something becomes desirable! Beautiful, half naked, and half your age, women flock to you! The widgets you sell become the most interesting stuff on earth! Don’t get me started about how well endowed you become when you step inside the club - but it’s better than any of those super pills in my spam messages! So, basically common sense is gone. The challenge is for the customer to not lose his common sense. The list posted by Waffle is largely common sense. None of the authors points should seem far off - especially for experienced club goers. But there’s a challenge to not losing common sense inside the odd world of a strip club. I know from experience - as it can be easy to think there’s some reality to strip clubs. Likely the only reality is the money that you can spend. If you choose to act like a fool - there may be more reality that comes your way - like lawsuits or arrests.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  3 years ago

  The legality of taking pictures in a strip club is a sink-hole debate because many privacy laws will vary by state (as will the recommended punitive actions). Also, there's not a lot of historical case law from which you can build an argument because none of the involved parties (the club, the dick-mop who took the picture, or the dancer) are attracted to being in court, putting real names on the record, or the possibility of press coverage. At the club where I'm a regular, the DJ makes occasional announcements that taking pictures or video is not allowed by club policy. If they catch a guy breaking that rule, I suspect that there's a very low chance that it'll go to court. But I think there's a very high chance that he's going to suffer some combination of (1) being thrown out; (2) being banned, (3) getting punched by a bouncer, and/or (4) going to the ER with a stripper heel buried 2 inches into his temple. Bottom line ... Taking video or pictures in the club without permission is creepy as fuck. Don't be creepy as fuck.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  3 years ago

  I would say that the list Waffle copied is mostly targeted to newbies and infrequent club-goers. It's not for guys who like strip clubs so much that we hang out on a website dedicated to strip clubbing. I have gone to strip clubs with newb guys who will nudge me and say "Hey man, I think she really digs me!" And I'm left looking for a diplomatic way of explaining that they're older by 30 years, fat, and have a face that looks like a foot. Guys like that will get more epiphanies from that list.
• 623

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  3 years ago

  Creepy as fuck and perpetrated by losers and frat boys acting like frat boys but still not illegal. And by the way, strip clubs are public places. They may be private property but they are (mostly) open to the public. There can be no expectation of privacy in a public place. Just like in a casino, you can be trespassed if the owner decides too, but you cannot be charged with a crime.
• Subraman

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  3 years ago

  These lists always contain a list of generally good advice, advice that is specific to the type of club the author works at, and just plain subjective preferences of the author. To me, the advice in the last two categories casts doubt on the whole thing -- and article that wants to be generally applicable SC advice, should stick to generally applicable SC advice. While I agree with a lot of the points, the ones I'd question: "If you find a girl you like: make an effort to see her on stage." A lot of guys hate sitting at stage -- I know, I'm one of them, and not the only one. This is a pretty optional thing. This is nothing more than a preference, and plenty of other ways a PL can take care of a stripper "Please don’t touch without asking" is never going to happen, and every guy who goes to an SC is going to roll his eyes at this. There is advice to be given to PLs about touching, but this is so restrictive, unrealistic, and unreflective of how touching works in most strip clubs it makes it easy to ignore everything else. This needs to be re-thought and re-written "Don’t try to haggle dance prices." I'm fine with that. Negotiation over extras is the rule, not the exception. As noted she may be anti-extras so wouldn't have noted that, but an actual useful general list of advice could include it. "Don’t ask us if we can find cocaine/drugs." I never have, and never would, get my drugs from a bunch of strippers. That said, every club I've ever been in, especially weekend nights, has a busy drug trade run by the strippers. Many of them encourage it -- a guy who is doing coke off the stripper's ass in the VIP, is a guy not spending time groping her, and a guy who isn't going to be able to get it up so she won't be fighting him off in non-extras clubs. I've heard this view expressed by strippers any number of time. I realize this is circular -- guys want drugs, so strippers make money supplying drugs, so guys know they're available, etc. But the fact is, although I don't take part, there's a drug market at every big SC, and the strippers who are in that market have helped normalize PLs asking for drugs. They're not going to stop asking as long as it's available. How about just saying "no, I don't have them"? "If you want to watch the game or talk to your buddies or there for the bar, you should go to an actual bar where the bottled Budweiser is much cheaper." While I think it's best to at least tip the strippers on stage if you do this, the fact is, this isn't your call. The strip club sets the policy on how to attract customers. Not every customer who walks in will spend money on you specifically, or any dancer. Every business in the world faces this. Retail stores have people who come in, try on the clothes, then go buy online elsewhere (in fact, you, the author of this, do it too). Every street performer has some people who watch some of the performance but don't put anything in the hat (in fact, you, the author of this, may have done this too). I could go on and on. Grow up and realize this is how businesses work. Not everyone who comes in is there for you, or will spend on you. If you get angry over this, you'll get angry over it forever, since it's not something that will ever change. If lots of your customers are doing this, maybe a discussion with management on what types of customers they're attracting, and with the other girls or with yourself to understand why dancing naked you still can't get anyone's attention, is in order. The mirror may have some answers for you here. Not every customer of a business is going to behave the way you want. I mostly agree with the rest, but the tone is really off, if this were an article you'd want PLs and potential PLs to read and learn from. I'd re-write in a completely different tone. The tone here is meant more as a vent to get upvotes from other strippers, not to convince SC customers of anything.
• 623

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  3 years ago

  If you don’t want people to watch the game sometimes maybe you need to work in a club with no TVs?
• twentyfive

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  3 years ago

  “The tone here is meant more as a vent to get upvotes from other strippers, not to convince SC customers of anything.” Excellent well said Subraman that was my entire point and exactly what I took from this little rant.
• wallanon

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  3 years ago

  "I would say that the list Waffle copied is mostly targeted to newbies and infrequent club-goers." I dunno. Every time I go to the club I see obvious regulars who could use a look-see at the OP list. I think I've seen this list before, though. Don't spot anything on it I have a problem with. Everyone can have their own opinion on things. So far as what I pay as a customer, dancers can ask for what they think their time is worth and I'll let them know if that works for me. Sometimes it doesn't work out. Most of the time it does.
• Subraman

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  3 years ago

  I don't think this is targeted to newbies and infrequent club goers, it's targeted at other strippers to get upvotes. The tone is the venting tone other strippers love; someone trying to convince their customer of something would use a completely different tone.
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  3 years ago

  Taking videos or pics in a club is illegal. Because of the various stages of nudity you'll be charged as if you were taking pics or videos in a dressing room or rest room. And yeah its a generic list asking guys to not act like assholes
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  3 years ago

  My personal take on the rules.... 1) not going broke is common sense. There's no point in going if you can't afford it. 2) offering her a drink is basic politeness 3) only see someone on stage if you want to. Its not a big deal. 4) lots of girls give their real name first. With social media and everything its not a big deal 5) I've picked up plenty of strippers at clubs. Its an ego boost. They show their interest though. Its okay when it's mutual 6) touching anyone without signs they want you to is creepy 7) clubs have prices posted or ask the staff. Never pay more or less than the clubs rate. 8.) Dancers bring kids and family life up all the time 9) Dancers talk shit about other dancers to customers all the time though 10) there's always dancers who sell drugs. Or can get drugs and resell them to customers 11) nothing wrong with being a bar customer at a strip club 12) staring without tipping ir rude 13) don't film or take pics.... 14) tip friends more. Show support 15) I don't know anyone who hides being a stripper
• Icee Loco (asshole)

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  3 years ago

  Desertscrub its a pc guide. Basically it says spend money don't touch don't try to talk. Just give your money and go.
• JimGassagain

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  3 years ago

  ^^ why are you always having the shits so bad? Is your asswhole too loose to hold your excrement in your bowels? Bacon!!
• Flyer78

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  3 years ago

  The people claiming that photos are illegal in a strip club are completely incorrect. The test for photography (and many other things) is something called "reasonable expectation of privacy." People are confusing public PROPERTY with public ACCESS. If you are on private property that is open to the general public -- i.e., any retail establishment -- you DO NOT HAVE ANY EXPECTATION OF PRIVACY. From the Quora link upthread: "Photography is legal, including video, anywhere that people can gather. The law only forbids it in locker rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms, and changing rooms. So yes, someone can legally film in a stripclub." Here is a more general discussion. [view link] Hint: Anywhere that it's legal for the business to film their customers through the use of surveillance cameras, it's also legal for the customers to take pictures or video.
• rl27

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  3 years ago

  1) Don’t go to a strip club if you are broke... I don't, that doesn't mean I am going to spend money if none of the dancers appeals to me. 2) If a girl sits with you and you like her: ask her if she wants a drink and tip her for her time if you don’t/can’t get a dance. If a girl sits with me, it's likely I am already considering asking her for a dance. If I don't get a dance then it's likely her attitude problem, in which case I have no reason to tip her. 3) If you find a girl you like: make an effort to see her on stage. That's a given. First if you see a hot girl on stage you like, approaching her for a tip is typically the easiest way to ask for a dance. 4) Don’t ask what her real name is, we have stage names for safety reasons. Never do, and personally I don't care if Anastasia's real name is Betty, in fact if I knew her sexy Anastasia was Betty I probably wouldn't be as inclined to get a dance. 5) A strip club is not like speed dating... I don't go there to date, I go there to get a lap dance, and if it's the right type of club to get off 6) Please don’t touch without asking... This often depends more on the club than the dancer. In the right clubs, you don't even have to ask, because the moment the dance starts you are already past third base and heading home. 7) Don’t try to haggle dance prices. Not typically a problem. In most clubs prices are already set, and in clubs where it says "prices are set by the dancers" or something similar, if he prices are too high then I say no and go on, in which case if there is any haggling it's the dancer doing it. 8.) Don’t ask how our boyfriends/partners/spouses/families feel about us dancing. Never do, since I don't care. Even so, I still hear far too often about how some dancer broke up with her boyfriend or got disowned by her parents for dancing. 9) Don’t talk shit about the other dancers. In my experience it's usually the dancers talking shit about other dancers. 10) Don’t ask us if we can find cocaine/drugs. Never even enters my mind. If a dancer is getting too many questions on this, maybe she should choose a different club. 11) If you want to watch the game or talk to your buddies or there for the bar, you should go to an actual bar where the bottled Budweiser is much cheaper. Stop pretending and stop consuming our labor for free. If I am at a strip club to watch a game, it's not going to be for "the big game," but usually a known blowout match say such as OSU vs the Akron Zips. That way I can take in some of the game while watching hot ladies on stage, and getting some dances once the score is 21-0. Also in some clubs game day has a lot more 2/1 dances. 12) Don’t just watch and/or stare. It’s extremely rude. Depends on the context. If there is a hot gal on stage doing an amazing dance, I will just watch because I don't want to interrupt her routine. Once she takes a slight break then I will head up to tip her, unless my jaw is hanging to the floor stunned at the sheer awesomeness I just witnessed. If it's a guy watching a dancer give a dance to another guy, then yeah that's rude. 13) No photography or videos without the dancer's explicit consent. It is illegal to take photos or film and you can get sued. No argument there. 14) Even if you are a friend of a dancer, please tip her. If your friend was a waitress or bartender you would tip her, there is no difference. No argument there. 15) Don’t out a stripper if you see her in public, online, or in person. Also protect her safety by keeping the name of her work place private. No argument there. Although that does go both ways. Once had a dancer working the cash register at a department store during Christmas ask me if I was going to be at the club that night.
• mark94

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  3 years ago

  If you think about applying the rules to any sort of business, such as a car dealer, the rules mostly make sense except for the part about only going to the business if you plan to do whatever the sales person tells you. In any business, it is up to the sales person to make a convincing case before parting with any of your hard earned business. It’s okay to go to a business and window shop. A good sales person can quickly identify the window shoppers and move on to a live prospect.
• mickey48066

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  3 years ago

  Some strippers think they are entitled to a big payday just for stopping by or simply being up on stage. No one deserves to be disrespected or cheated financially but it is comical when some of them think that gracing you with their presence entitles them to something. It needs to be earned.