Could anyone explain the concept of "Validation' and why incels don't see SW?
PS: I only ask on this board since you guys always give me insightful answers, I'm not trying to offend anyone.
I run into a young incel on some internet forums. I asked him if he wanted to get laid just to see a sex worker. He said that what he wanted was "validation" from women and not sex.
I thought this puzzling, hence I wanted to ask you guys.
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In the real world if you’re not handsome, you can get as much or even more pussy by being either successful, rich (thanks to mom and dad because you can’t be successful on your own accord) or charming.
I’ve seen the ugliest guys in the room get all the girls because they re charming or funny while the good looking guy stands in the corner alone because he can’t carry a conversation.
Perhaps if he took responsibility for being a fuck-up and decided to simply succeed at life then he could get real validation without whining about it. Hard work, confidence and success overcomes most of our defects we inherit in the eyes of the opposite gender. It doesn't start with anyone else but yourself...
So you can get some form of validation from women in multiple ways. You might be a guy with a successful career who makes a high income. That means you can have the impressive house or fancy car or get attractive women to have sex with you or even just spend time with you. That can be a form of validation and ego booster too, just a different type of validation than the female noticing you because you look good. If it's important to you to get women to want to have sex with you based on your looks, then spend time on things like working out and improving your diet instead of your career. If you are doing that, though, a strip club might not be the best place to go to because they are needing to pay their bills and are focused there on who has the money, not who looks the best.
We can ask why they don't just go to prostitutes, but that is beside the point. For one thing, its illegal in most places so some probably are afraid to. Beyond that maybe they want an actual relationship. The reality us the rate of sex overall is in decline (multiple studies show this), and the rate of young men in their sexual prime not having sex is skyrocketing.
The sex harassment laws combined with increasing structural difficulty for the sexes to meet is clearly to blame. Society should address that not accuse the young men of being "flawed" in some way.
Maybe you believe the false narratives in the mainstream media but that says more about you than about these young men who ate struggling in the romance department.
There is nothing special about females other than their anatomy. They should not have so much power due to sex. Men should stick together and stand up for our young men who are struggling with these issues. They need our support not our hatred.
Incels do not want to put in the work. they have absurdly high requirements for the woman and the event. They are not incels. they are vcels. they make choices those choices keep them from getting laid. the biggest is the decision to not try.
clean up
groom
put on clean, undamaged, matching clothing
politely and confidently approach women.
accept that you will get turned down far more often than not. Move on. Confidently and politely.
Don't just play video games with other incels. Be interesting. read some books. watch some movies. go to a museum. develop conversation skills
have a plan to Offer a concrete date. dinner at XXX on Friday night. not "would you like to go out sometime". She may h
Expect to take her out three or four times before you get laid.
Even if it is small studio, have your own place, not you parent's house or a hotel. Keep it clean.
I had a bit in there that she may say yes to the date you offer when she was ready to say no to you. She will accept a second date if she enjoyed the first. they a third and soon you have a girlfriend.
If you don't want to work on yourself stay in your league or a league below.