How seriously should I take "You don't have to tip just to hang out with me"?

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nightrid3
No, I don't really go there for the sexual stuff, the strip club is on my route back out of work and I wondered why girls wearing wraps were always smoking outside what looked like a bar. Got talking to one of them and just went inside. Pole dancing is physically impressive but definitely not a turn on to me. Private dances are hit or miss, but most of the time I end up asking to stop early and do something else.

I've heard the best way to know if a stripper is mildly into you in some way, is to take money out of the equation. But what about when that's turned on its' head and it's the girl that suggests it? This has probably happened four or five times over spordiac visits in the last 3 years or so.

Oh yeah, just noting that it's usually not busy when I go in. Obviously this arrangement wouldn't be in place when it is. Tl;dr strippers are people too?

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jackslash
4 years ago
If you take money out of the equation you will be very lonely in a strip club.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
jackslash she was the one to take it out of the equation. It's only after I prompted her about four times to take it that she accepted it. I've been the one to be paid, at least with free soda, several times by the girls using their free soda privilege to get one from us both. But that was a while ago.
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DeclineToState
4 years ago
^You got a free soda? Way to go! Good on ya, mate.
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wallanon
4 years ago
Just see how long the girls are fine hanging out with you and not getting paid. If you're not getting dances and she's not getting paid, are you at least enjoying the company?
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rickdugan
4 years ago
===> "I've heard the best way to know if a stripper is mildly into you in some way, is to take money out of the equation. But what about when that's turned on its' head and it's the girl that suggests it? "

Try it for a month for real and see how it goes. It's one thing to for her to say it but then "grudgingly" take your cash anyway. It's quite another for her to actually not get paid. Then come back and tell us how it went.
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8TM
4 years ago
There’s one club I know where the girls barely ever work the floor and just sit around and talk to dudes for hours. Those dudes can’t ALL be SDs/pimps/dealers/whatever, at least I don’t think. Maybe this is a club like that.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
desertscrub not $4 here. If you're talking about usd, $9 and a $3 surcharge if you don't have cash. Strip clubs aren't just in the u.s, in case you've never heard.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
desertscrub You misunderstand. The only other place I've seen a surcharge is using an atm that isn't yours banks'. And that's like $1.50. Having the club charge so much extra for drinks and tipping dollars makes good business sense, does it not? What if your regular is on stage in a few minutes and you've run out of cash? Or you're too horny to care about it when going for a vip?
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Salty.Nutz
4 years ago
"strippers are people too?"

You are correct, and strip clubs magnify the man and woman dynamic. As a man the only thing you can offer a women is a big dick and a fat wallet. Choose what route you take to get the pussy 🐈‍⬛
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nightrid3
4 years ago
Salty.Nutz umm... that last sentence made it clear you didn't read the OP.
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Salty.Nutz
4 years ago
Remember she is probably getting the dick already
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nightrid3
4 years ago
I don't care if she is or isn't?
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Salty.Nutz
4 years ago
I read the post, you arent into sexual stuff and she doesnt want you to spend because youre an amazing guy.
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twentyfive
4 years ago
You sound like her gay BFF not that there’s anything wrong with that lol
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Cashman1234
4 years ago
This whole discussion makes little sense to me.

You stop at a strip club on your way home from work to sit and talk with the girls, and you don’t drink alcohol?

So, the girls chat with you, and you allow them to get free sodas for the privilege of hanging with you?

I must have entered some sort of twilight zone where dancers don’t like money and they buy drinks for customers!

Next, you are going to tell us about her asking if she can pay you to fuck her in VIP!

Is this in the US?
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nightrid3
4 years ago
Cashman1234 I said it was a while ago. It was a group of friends so I guess they felt like all doing it. No, I don't drink alcohol there because I would probably be disrespectful to the girls. Not in the u.s but I've been to a few clubs in L.A.

Twentyfive well I do have a talent for being able to correctly guess how tall their heels are.

Salty.Nutz I don't know what locker-room talk is like for girls but I imagine I don't get talked about at all, or someone says "Oh I've seen you with so and so, he seems ok"
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Cashman1234
4 years ago
It was not in the US. It would be disrespectful to dancers to drink alcohol?

Where was this?

This sounds like either fiction - or trolling. The details seem to change with your responses. I’m calling BS!
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wallanon
4 years ago
Started to write a reply earlier then got distracted. Here's as far as it got and I'm bored with it now.

What is the point to this thread? Every reply from the OP seems to be about what the point isn't. There's a lot of dancers that will hang out with a customer that doesn't repulse them between paying customers or hustling for dollars. It beats sitting alone if they feel like company and some managers frown upon too much phone time. Or she's trying to keep the possibility open that you'll spend on her later. Or she's playing the long game that you'll decide to spend on her if you haven't before. If there's really a personal angle to it, you're probably not going to see it ITC unless...don't feel like spending the time to finish up the thought.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
desertscrub what's so weird about being online at 11:30am?
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Icee Loco (asshole)
4 years ago
It depends on your relation with the girl. But if youre just a customer quit tipping and you'll find out

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nightrid3
4 years ago
desertscrub so your side of the world has a ban on being awake overnight? Interesting, what a phenomenon!
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Cashman1234
4 years ago
I think this is a fictitious story made up to create interest and make the op seem that he is able to handle himself in a strip club.

It would be easy to make up a story, and then change the details when there is criticism.

It’s different in Australia clubs! The dancers buy drinks for the customers here! They are more relaxed - and they like sitting with me for free!

No! Don’t criticize me! I’m from a different part of the world! I post on a primarily US site and expect the members to know I’m from Australia when I post!
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nightrid3
4 years ago
Cashmean1234 you clearly can't read. Please quote me where I'm apparently saying they've purchased them for me. I don't have the time or patience to address the rest of your bs.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
Except for, how the hell am I meant to know it's u.s-based? Why are there clubs from other countries listed on here, hmm?
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wallanon
4 years ago
Ok, settle down. Me personally I don't care if you're not in the US. I know people in Australia and they're cool. If it wasn't so difficult and expensive to get there I'd go visit. If you're getting trolled it's because you're not giving people a reason to take your comments seriously.

You keep picking and choosing to who to respond to, and it seems like you're more interested in debating about whether or not you're from Australia than about whether or not you've gotten what you were looking for out of the thread you started. If you have a point to make in all of this please make it.
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Icee Loco (asshole)
4 years ago
No hes getting trolled coz the geriatric trick clique are trolls
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nightrid3
4 years ago
Yes I pick and choose because I'd be here all day if I didn't.
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NAAAASTY
4 years ago
Believe their actions not their words.

NAAAASTY
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Cashman1234
4 years ago
If you are an actual customer who has been in a strip club - write a review.

Ask Founder to add a listing if your club isn’t part of the listings. Describe the club interior and give details.

It’s pretty easy to see this is a primary US based site. Most of the members review US clubs. There are Canadian and Mexican clubs reviewed too. It doesn’t require much insight, unless you aren’t able to understand basic logic.
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nightrid3
4 years ago
heaving no phones allowed by either the girls or customers. They aren't even allowed to carry them
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