Have you ever lived in a hotel(+bar)? (Best for playboy lifestyle?)
Beat100
Note: I understand living in a hotel might not be for everyone. However, I wanted to share my experience. Hopefully, it will help those who are very interested in those types of living arrangements.
Also, I'm talking about having a private room equivalent to a studio apartment size, not a small cramped space. This distinction is crucial.
I was trying to live the playboy lifestyle for a while and tried different places to live. I have concluded that living in a hotel plus a bar/club is one of the best. I have tried it for two months, and this is what I found.
Super Positives
-The party comes to you. If you live right on a bar/club, there will always be new people coming.
-A fresh supply of hot girls who are always coming to have fun and party.
-Excellent logistics. You are only one elevator ride away from your private room. This logistic does away with having to drive to a place, having to "bar hop," or having to take the girls from your place, which will make you lose the girls more often than not.
--Lax enforcement to no enforcement of guest rules: Depending on which apartment complex you live in. There are all sorts of guest rules in "high priced apartments" where you need to register your guests. Some even take weeks to get approval. Meanwhile, in the hotel, I took an SB to the hotel's cafeteria and then went straight to my room and had no questions.
-Less loneliness: There will be more fun people you can socialize with at a hotel. This fact has been a drawback at the "luxury apartment complexes" I'd live in(hint they aren't luxurious. It's just a fancy marketing name they use). There are usually older couples with the "get off my lawn" attitude. This fact means that they'll try to "police" the building and have all sorts of mundane rules.
Positives
You could get all of these in an apartment complex, but even then, at a hotel(+bar), it might more convenient.
-Cleaning services. If you live in an apartment, you will have cleaning services more readily available to you. While in an apartment, you will have to hire them independently.
-Food, while you can cook your food, there is also food that can easily be provided to you. While it might be slightly more expensive, it's even more convenient.
-Noise cancellation room, you can live on the upper floor where you won't hear anything. If you work from home, you can tune out. Moreover, most of the parties happen on the weekends.
-Centrally located: Most of these hotels are centrally located in a downtown area similar to the apartment complex, which also has the same up.
Drawbacks
Most of the drawbacks are how the system is set up. For instance, if someone backs your room one day. However, all can be overcome if you book with anticipation. Another drawback might be the price; however, if you know the staff, there are ways around this.
Also, I'm talking about having a private room equivalent to a studio apartment size, not a small cramped space. This distinction is crucial.
I was trying to live the playboy lifestyle for a while and tried different places to live. I have concluded that living in a hotel plus a bar/club is one of the best. I have tried it for two months, and this is what I found.
Super Positives
-The party comes to you. If you live right on a bar/club, there will always be new people coming.
-A fresh supply of hot girls who are always coming to have fun and party.
-Excellent logistics. You are only one elevator ride away from your private room. This logistic does away with having to drive to a place, having to "bar hop," or having to take the girls from your place, which will make you lose the girls more often than not.
--Lax enforcement to no enforcement of guest rules: Depending on which apartment complex you live in. There are all sorts of guest rules in "high priced apartments" where you need to register your guests. Some even take weeks to get approval. Meanwhile, in the hotel, I took an SB to the hotel's cafeteria and then went straight to my room and had no questions.
-Less loneliness: There will be more fun people you can socialize with at a hotel. This fact has been a drawback at the "luxury apartment complexes" I'd live in(hint they aren't luxurious. It's just a fancy marketing name they use). There are usually older couples with the "get off my lawn" attitude. This fact means that they'll try to "police" the building and have all sorts of mundane rules.
Positives
You could get all of these in an apartment complex, but even then, at a hotel(+bar), it might more convenient.
-Cleaning services. If you live in an apartment, you will have cleaning services more readily available to you. While in an apartment, you will have to hire them independently.
-Food, while you can cook your food, there is also food that can easily be provided to you. While it might be slightly more expensive, it's even more convenient.
-Noise cancellation room, you can live on the upper floor where you won't hear anything. If you work from home, you can tune out. Moreover, most of the parties happen on the weekends.
-Centrally located: Most of these hotels are centrally located in a downtown area similar to the apartment complex, which also has the same up.
Drawbacks
Most of the drawbacks are how the system is set up. For instance, if someone backs your room one day. However, all can be overcome if you book with anticipation. Another drawback might be the price; however, if you know the staff, there are ways around this.
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I'm guessing you can talk to the management and agree on a monthly price, I have a friend who told me he befriended the managed a good a deal. It's not openly advertised but definitely possible.
If nowhere else, try an apartment complex nearby a college campus. If the complex is nearby the “bar strip” students like to go to, then even better.
And Apts above clubs or bars are never considered nice.
A playboy lifestyle is just about image and lacks any real substance and that's tge kind of women it attracts too. Plus it gets old.
For this reason I could never imagine living in hotels, at least any more than I already do. I am a food snob and get tired of road food very quickly. When I have a trip that will be 5+ days, I target hotels that include real cooking facilities so that I can make a few batches of very good food and eat it off of them for most of my stay. A Residence Inn is not sexy or a great party spot for sure, but a simple Uber can take me to where the action is.
Different strokes for different folk. I've used to eat the same cafeteria food for years and never got tired of it. They don't necessarily need to have a club but a bar, yes, I've stayed at a bunch of them.
Name a single hotel that provides the ability to cook for yourself AND has the type of club/bar that you were talking about, with hot girls coming to party.
You post about it like you're looking this shit up online on the fly. Look I get it - whatever life you have sucks so you sit there in your living room living out these fantasies on the board and in your head. But you should learn to pickup when it's getting a little rich and just move on.
Most women won't see living in a weekly or a hotel as a plus....
===> "I don't carry around "seasonings". "spice racks" or "Butter." Most of the times I buy a sandwich and some water."
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt in assuming that I misunderstood your points. But putting food in the "Positive" category when your hotel diet consists of sandwiches and water is a bit of a stretch. For many, including myself, that would be a shitty way to live. Food is a major expense for people staying long-term or even living in hotels precisely because, contrary to your opening point, they cannot normally cook in hotels. So they must source their food elsewhere, which, also contrary to your opening point, is often far more expensive than preparing it yourself.
In any given week in a normal road hotel (without kitchens), I'm easily out of pocket $3-400 just for food and sometimes more once I get sick of routine takeout grub and buy a few nicer meals. I can't even get out of a freakin' Waffle House or an IHOP anymore for less than $12-13 after tip. There's nothing "playboy" about living off of sandwiches for two months in order to keep your expenses down and a lot of people aren't going to be willing to do that, so for most the food situation would be a negative over that long a haul rather than a positive.
Anyways, recommendations for people who want to cook when facilities aren’t always reliable...
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You need a lot more than the instant pot to cook real food other than maybe white rice. You also need basic cooking utensils (a knife for cutting, something to cut on, and serving size spoon for stirring/scooping), oil so that anything you're frying won't stick, at least basic seasonings, etc. Also you're going to have limited cold storage for food because at best you'll get one of those mini-fridges that some (not all) hotels make available, so whatever you buy will have to be in really tiny amounts, be cooked up right away and without a lot of leftovers, which means that you would have to shop for groceries almost daily to use it with any consistency. Then there is having to clean it in the tub every damned time you use it since it won't fit in the bathroom sink.
Now is all of this possible? In theory sure. But it's not practical for most people traveling for work or fun. Even less so if you do not have a car on hand and a lot of free time to burn trying to make it work.
Oh, and beware the smoke detectors in most high end hotels. They are set to be very sensitive, so even if you overcome all of the other challenges, using one of the instant pot's most useful features - frying/browning - could set of the fire alarms if cooking the dish throws off any smoke at all.
Take it from someone who has been traveling regularly for the last two decades and has tried every single permutation in order to avoid eating too much takeout, including hauling a slow cooker, hot plate, utensils and seasonings in my car to these hotels. The reason I choose extended stay hotels with kitchens when I go on long road trips is that they provide the fridge space, stoves and cooking gear necessary to truly cook. And even then my free time is not endless so I have a couple of big cooking nights and then eat off of the stored leftovers (in the full size fridge and freezer) on the other days.
But fundamentally, I already stated my opinion at the beginning of the thread, that there’s probably more practicality in other ways. Unless one wants to be a nomad playboy. 😁
Agreed. I cook all my food on the instant pot and have no issues.
@rick
You seem much more precise and rational with your latest post. I'm not trying to convince you. I'm saying that we might have a very different view of what a playboy lifestyle might be. While sandwiches and water were an exaggeration to make a point, there are such delivery options of frozen meals that delivered a three-course meal at $150+ per week. Depending on the delivery service, that's $600-700 per month. Moreover, I mean by more convenient because I used to eat at hotels that offer a buffet, even a plant-based buffet, maybe you don't like those foods, but I found them delicious.
I was getting those deliveries both when I lived ina hotel and when I lived in an apartment. As you said, " I get sick of routine takeout grub and buy a few nicer meals." I never do these. For instance, I'm sure others are even more regimented than myself and will even spend less. The whole emphasis of the "Playboy lifestyle" is to live in an affordable place and be able to bang a lot of girls, not to be able to buy fancy meals. Again, maybe that is your definition of a "playboy lifestyle" it sounds more like a "baller lifestyle," which is very different.
Full bar, gambling, girls and hookers were readily available.
Let me translate this silliness into a reality version that would be more probable. You take up residence in one of those aging Ramadas that still has the social/dance attached to the lobby. Every so often you find some drunk ass 30 something looking to keep partying once the bar is closing so you come to the conclusion that you're a playboy. The Ramada gives you a free buffet breakfast, so all you have to do is walk down the street and grab a box of freezer burritos or other frozen dinners to nuke for your remaining meals for the day and you think that you've beat the system. A playboy in his own mind is born.
The reality is that this is a shitty way to live. It may be novel for a little bit, but it gets old fast. I did it in my early 30s, when I had a house with a dock on a state pond with the state forest in the backdrop. It was a gorgeous location and I had the gift to gab - I was getting more tail than I could shake a stick at. But no pussy is free, especially civvie pussy when it's attached to a girl who is lonely.
Maybe you never got that whole sow your oats thing out of your system so you have a romanticized view of it, idk. But for me that alone would be less appealing than it is to you. But to have to live a shitty quality of life to make it happen? Ugh - no bueno.
Also keep in mind that part of living like a playboy is the ability to offer a really good time. For me that included drunken fun on my private dock and in the pond, good meals cooked in my kitchen or on my dockside grill and my delicious (high alcohol content) apple martinis to seal the deal. A dude living in a hotel room? LOL - you'd be scraping the bottom of the barrel.
You have already conceded a bunch of my points. "3rd of 4th iteration." You said this is not for you and it's fine. You seem to have all these high standards for everything. I told this to a bunch of my friends "urban professionals", "PUA's" and others, and they all thought it was very cool and they want to do it. In fact, a bunch of them are already doing this by living in apartments very close to the city center. It's not a fantasy neither for them nor for myself, we have already done this and will continue to do so. Also, I don't drink, I would only drink the occasional drink for the date and that's it I'm not interested in that. Nor do I care about a nice location nor backdrop, big city life is where it's at. Also no point in continuing these conversations I might not reply anymore.
Right, because drinking with hot girls is a real impediment to getting laid. They much prefer it when you let them drink alone. 😉
Luckily most girls go to bars/clubs in groups and at least one of them will pick up his creepiness, so I'm guessing that this isn't as successful as he would like us to believe. But I wouldn't be surprised if he picks up the random drunk bar hog now and again. If his culinary preferences are any indication, he's not picky. A playboy indeed. ;)
It's not about impressing girls, it's about getting laid. I've done it before and had no issues.
@heaving
From my experience, it depends on the community that you are around, there are communities which are bad with old people doing their events. When I was at the hotel my PUA friends would always visit me. What I've seen is that It's usually old people who have all these high demands who like living in fancy apartments and spending tons of money. I never use the kitchen and it offers me zero value. I have seen my neighbors though and they are the "get off my lawn" type who grills their burgers, drinks his beer while his 50-year-old wife keeps nagging him to buy more stuff for their apartment. I rather keep all the money.
Unless shes so drunk shes passed out or you drug her and need to carry her to your place I guess