Feel like an idiot
But who else am I gonna tell? So I'm in the club Tuesday night (my review is posted). I don't indulge often and I don't have a ton of disposable money to drop. I sat and watched for an hour and then took two decent lap dances at $25 each from a nice enough girl but nothing really outrageous. One of the cutest and sexiest girls I've ever seen dancing anywhere performs so I tip her and she looks really hot and even turned on by it all so we hang out for a bit, cabaret a little and then we're upstairs. She offers me the private routine but it's just way out of my budget and of course I haven't even sampled her yet so now we're lap dancing for $40 nude. Incredible. I'm all over her--I've got her by the clit and she's more than a little into it. She looks so fucking hot. She's moaning and the song is ending and I'm out $100 so far and I just can't buy more so I say I've gotta stop, she's breathlessly asking me not to stop but it never occurs to me say I can stay longer but it's gotta be a two fer one--I just say I gotta stop, and she doesen't mention the money either so that's it. I leave her hanging. This girl was gonna cum on my lap. I feel so stupid. In the past I've never been so forward--just accepted my dance passively. This was awesome and I'm really regretting not finishing the job. I even asked her if she wanted to hook up after quitting time--I lost my head. That probably freaked her out--I hope it didn't--I'm really not a stalker. :) Driving home with this girl's smell on my finger was just intoxicating (is that DWI?).
So eventually I'll save up enough money to go back and take her up on the private room but that'll take at least a few months and for now I just feel really dumb--I want a "do-over." :)
So eventually I'll save up enough money to go back and take her up on the private room but that'll take at least a few months and for now I just feel really dumb--I want a "do-over." :)
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Your problem started when you got a second dance from the first girl even though she was nothing special. You should save your limited funds for when it's worth it. If the first dance isn't doing it, more of the same is just a waste. Also, be careful about basing any plans around the sexy girl still being there months from now. It's nice to think about, but not likely.
Sounds like a rookie mistake. Have you been clubbing long? (I see you just recently registered on TUSCL, so perhaps you are a newbie) Anyhow, a few thoughts come to mind. First, there's that kind of mileage to be had in Rhode Island?!! I'd have never thought!!
Don't worry about leaving her hanging... I'm sure if she was as horny as it sounds, that she was able to find relief from the next guy, though it probably didn't leave a great impression on her. It DOES sound like you might've really missed out on a good thing. I know that's not what you want to hear, nor will it make you feel any better.
Best thing to do is take away from the experience, a lesson learned. Like Minnow said, "always be prepared!".
I had an experience remotely similar to yours, many years ago. (I've recently written about it in another thread or two) Anyhow, this chick had me so incredibly horny that I lost all track of time, etc. The only thing that mattered was where she was touching me and where she was letting me touch her. When the effects of my dumbass attack slightly subsided and I realized that I should check my wallet before getting any more dances, I found that I'd already received more dances than what I had money for. Damn, money goes fast when you are paying $20 per dance!
I explained my "situation" to Savanah and she had no problem with it, before the "ew" of my "whew" finished leaving my lips, I found I had no reason at all to feel relief. She was simply planning on marching my ass to the ATM. This is bad, very bad, as it would hit my bank account that my wife would see... very bad indeed. Just as we were standing up to walk over to the ATM, I felt in my pocket and found that I had a few $20s in my pocket. JUST enough to keep her happpy and to keep the ATM entry from my bank statement.
She really wasn't nasty about the problem, but had I either been more prepared (had more money)or had been watching my expenditures more closely, I would've probably been able to time things where Savanah would've been able to give me the "relief" that I really needed, and everyone would've been left with a smile.
Instead, my wallet was empty on the first night of my five-day-long business trip, and I was forced to beg money from my friend and associate to cover my spending for the rest of the week.
It was terrible then, but shortly after - even before the end of my trip, I was reflecting fondly on the pleasure that I experienced with Savanah.
I think the only real regret was that at the end of that dance with the one I liked I didn't think to push for a few free extra minutes. I think she would have agreed but even if not I'd have no regrets for asking, if you know what I mean. This may sound strange but I was far more interested in getting her off than vice versa. :)
But you're quite right--though I've been in and out of clubs for years, I would definitely identify myself as new at it--I thought the surface was the whole picture. I didn't get access to TUSCL until after this experience (my review from this night was my entree)--helpful place indeed. Your advice is well taken. Perhaps I can find a way to grab some extra undetected cash next week or 2 to have another go at it.
Details went like this. Cabaret after my tip along with brief conversation--I let on that I don't like lap dances at times because I don't like to be passive or the only one pleasured--I want to touch her also. She's pretty clear about that--"That's easy" was her answer. In hindsight obviously much better than the "a little" I got from the first dancer I approached with that line on whom I then foolishly spent two dances to see how far I'd get--touched the outside of her kitty a bit and she let it go on but not really. Anyway, so this girl is on my lap and I'm feeling her up and circling her nipple so she says "we'd better take this upstairs," and up we went. Seems one thing the girls are very conscious of is no overtly sexual touching downstairs in public space. She offered me the VIP stuff but it was over budget so we went to the usual dance. She took off her panties and I didn't stop her--this was one piece I got right. :)
So the dance was hot from the start. She got on me facing me after a bit of stick shifting, straddled me and started rocking her clit back and forth on my hard on. We had a rhythm that was working well for both of us and good eye contact as well, and I had a pretty firm grip on her perfect nipples and breasts and also moving my fingers teasingly close to her kitty. Half way through the song she's moaning softly a bit and she turns around and sits on my lap, still rubbing me with her ass but now sort of laying across my lap on her back with her legs open wide giving me full access (even I knew what to do with that invitation). So now my hand is in her crotch, finger on her clit. Stopped for a second to lick it for lube (delicious) and then went to work on it--very effective--she's panting and just looking incredibly hot as I look into her face (nothing really that I like more than a pretty aroused face). Who cares whether she was faking it but I don't think so. We continued that way until it all tragically had to end. I sought a hook up OTC which she declined and I left the club.
Suffice it to say if it was an attemt to create return business for increased cash it was a resounding success. I don't know (yet) what's on offer in the VIP room but when I asked her her reply was "anything we want."
And another point about the "free time" issue. If the girl really wants you to keep going and get her off without paying, she'll tell you to keep going in no uncertain terms. If you have to ask her if you can, she's almost sure to turn you down.
Scott- The feeling you've got going on right now is incredible, taken to the brink and then turn back, adrenaline pumping and heart racing. If you'd gone over the edge you might be telling us all how dumb you were for spending way too much money and how the girl got up at the end of the dance and walked away and up to another customer to repeat the same thing...
You said something earlier (that you were going to try to "grab some undetected cash"...), led me to believe that you are in a similar situation to mine. I'm assuming that you are married and the wife has a very close eye on spending, making it difficult to take a lot of cash along with you on your clubbing adventures.
If that's the case, here's another nugget of advice. Create an entertainment fund. Either find a place to stash cash (your desk at work, for example) or open a bank account. Stuff what ever extra cash you find - winnings from office pools, a few bucks here and there, travel reimbursements, etc. Even if you just stash $10 a week, it will eventually add up to give you some additional spending money.
In my response above, I learned a very valuable lesson. From that point on, I established my entertainment fund and started saving. (after first paying back my friend for the money I'd borrowed) My fund just continues to grow, and now when I have an opportunity to go clubbing, or OTCing, I always have plenty to spend.
Your comment, though, that if I want to see this dancer again waiting a few months is pretty unlikely to succeed was probably right also so I think I've come up with a way to get a single shot as a separate business payment--hopefully next week.
Good job! You DID learn your lesson and also problem-solved by figuring out a way to prevent such an event in the future. If you are also in the same situation where it's difficult to get away and need to devise an alibi, etc., then before you go to all that trouble, you might try and contact that club to see when your dancer is working so that you can plan accordingly. That is, of course, if you hope to hookup with the same hottie, which I'm assuming you do (I know I would).
Good luck with it all, and we look forward to hearing the details!
You state in response to scott1971, "...you don't see a girl you like but you want to have some fun so you settle for a girl who doesn't do much for you, you hook up with her, and that's when you spot the girl of your dreams. That's a common occurance, we've all had that happen...".
I can honestly say that has not happened to me. I am beyond particular as to which lady will get my hard earned $'s! IMHO, settling for a dancer that doesn't "do much for " me, is NOT fun. I would just have a few beers, then not seeing anyone that I wish to spend time with, I leave.
You just contracted a temporary disease called PORS (Penile Over Reaction Syndrome). Nothing to be ashamed of and it usually goes away within minutes after lightening the old wallet! Been there, done that!
Oh by the way, because driving with 'scented fingers'. You could get pulled over for DFD (Diddeling Before Driving). No fine or license suspension.
I think you had a close encounter with either one of two things. An extra's girls who was trying to get you to spend more than you were willing to in the VIP room, or just a plain nasty dancer. Either way, you spent what you wanted, had a good time, and left happy. She did her job and you did yours. The "scent" lingers for a while, and unfortunately the next day or even a few hours later it is gone, but the memory will still linger on.
I would be willing to bet that since this post began you have been back to the club even if your discretionary income is not there just to see her and have a chat. Believe me, we all have.
I have tried mightily--and succeeded--to resist the urge to return to the club without cash "just for a chat." I was, and even remain, very tempted to do just that (and I called the club 2 nights later but she wasnt working that night or I would have done it then) but the reality is, I think, that she'll be much more interested in the chat when I also have money. :) I'm hoping to put it together this week and approach the stage with a tip and a line about "unfinished business."
I feel like returning to the club "just to see her" is a bit. . . well. . . PL-ish. :)
Got you! That siad, I tend to prefer the older, and look first to them.
The longer to wait the better to have. As long as she's not gone by then. :)