Hi, again!!
Hey, not sure who’s still here from when I was last active on this site. How is everyone??
Anyways, I would like to get some feedback....I have been hooking up with my co-worker for the past 3 months. He just got out of a long term relationship and I am not looking for anything exclusive. Recently, he’s been acting rude/ disrespectful.. I am aware we are just fuck buddies, but I think it’s entirely possible to be fuck buddies while still remaining respectful of one another. Am I tripping or is he just an immature asshole? I’m 25 and he is 23. Thanks!
Anyways, I would like to get some feedback....I have been hooking up with my co-worker for the past 3 months. He just got out of a long term relationship and I am not looking for anything exclusive. Recently, he’s been acting rude/ disrespectful.. I am aware we are just fuck buddies, but I think it’s entirely possible to be fuck buddies while still remaining respectful of one another. Am I tripping or is he just an immature asshole? I’m 25 and he is 23. Thanks!
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Sorry, but I don't see how I an say anything about the situation you have described.
SJG
One thing I've seen is guys that are getting the pussy handed to them not wanting to give-up that convenience even though they've tired of the girl to some extent, and then they start to act out b/c they're kinda tired of the girl but don't wanna give up the steady supply of pussy.
But again - my opinions should def be taken w/ the proverbial grain-of-salt since I am not seeing things firsthand.
Also, not many guys are level-headed at 23 especially if they are handed pussy free of commitment.
“One thing I've seen is guys that are getting the pussy handed to them not wanting to give-up that convenience even though they've tired of the girl to some extent, and then they start to act out b/c they're kinda tired of the girl but don't wanna give up the steady supply of pussy.“
Thanks for the feedback. I’m probably just going to “ghost” him.
“People learn how to treat you based on what you accept from them.”
If any person is and continues to be disrespectful to you, you should kindly and firmly tell them you are not going to tolerate that behavior and you may need to limit your time with them as much as possible or even cut ties altogether.
And yes you are 100% right he is an immature a..hole, saying he wants to fuck you while in a relationship. You should not accept this type of guys in your life.
I get that you probably are attracted to the “bad boy” types, but you need to choose better partners, sexuality and otherwise.
Good look ghosting him. Stay strong and don’t let him in your life ever again, he should be dead to you.
You deserve to have the kind of guy who treats you with respect.
As simple and straightforward as it gets
Welcome back.
Yes, put him 'behind' you if he's not appreciative. (If the opinion of an old married guy means anything) It ain't gonna work without respect. And not much fun either.
IMHO, No one under 25 should be looking for a committed relationship. He's still looking to see how often he can drop a load and how many places he can drop it. Give him a map to another strip club and move on.
As for your part on this, I hope you can find a path forward where you instinctively know you deserve respect and honesty from everyone - whether you are fucking them or not. Once you get comfortable knowing that relationships (even fuck-toy relationships) require mutual respect, you will never even consider a guy like this again.
@CJkent Right??? I doubt myself often, BUT c’mon....he was consistently informing me he wanted me while in a long term relationship. That should probably say enough right there!! Unfortunately, I don’t have many friends and desire some form of affection, so I accepted it. I could look elsewhere, but I’m at work/taking care of my son majority of the time. Social media, internet, websites, etc. is the only other way really for me to meet ppl.
@papi_chulo yeah, true that. Not going to waste my time on him.
@Meat72 you have to show me yours first ;)
That's all I've got.
First I should welcome you back to TUSCL. This site has been made brighter by your beautiful sweet presence.
I am doing well, and don’t know how everyone else is doing. I am happy to hear from you again.
Back to the topic; You were not put on this earth to endure aggression and/or disrespect.
It doesn’t matter where you interact with people, work, school, home, strip clubs, bars, libraries, hospitals, markets, the street, the Internet, stores, heaven and hell, etc etc etc.
It is essential to make very clear to ourselves and others what we will and what we will not tolerate within any human relationship.
What we can do is to learn how to establish and communicate our limits and the consequences for people who cross them.
Your should stabling your limits and don’t allow people to disrespect you ever.
Think of your son, you are going to be teaching him to be responsible and respectful and to make sure his personal space and his limits are respected.
Remember the best thing we can do in this life is to be happy and do good to others and to ourselves,
Good night and sweet dreams.
Oh, and best to search for a new job. Then you can ghost for good. 😁
(i’m just to frikin old for her to be a fuck buddy. )
How are we all supposed to get lap dances from her if PaulDrake is hogging her all to himself? Wasn't she here before because she was thinking about stripping?
Is it possible that your definition of rude/disrespectful is so unique to you that he is simply clueless about how you want to be treated? This seems unlikely but I have known women who expected to be worshiped and showered with gifts as a sign of respect, and often failed to reciprocate with similar effort in a relationship.
Have you given him any feedback about his behavior. If he is unwilling to hear and acknowledge corrective feedback or unwilling to make an effort to treat you better, then dump him and move on. If he is treating you poorly at this stage of a relationship, then just think how he will treat you when the magic of a new sex partner begins to wear off.
Nice to see you back! ....and your sexy backside
Realistically, may end up sleeping with him the next time we have a work function and we’ve all been drinking. My only excuse is that this “set-up” is convenient because we’re always around each other and he lives 15 min away from me.....but hell if I find someone else who will fuck me better and be sweet then a drive that is a little farther is well worth it.