Bar side tipping
bullzeye
New Hampshire
Rick’s post got me thinking about a topic I previously have not given much thought about. How much/when/how often do you tip a dancer when you are talking to her barside?
Up to now, it really hasn’t been a concern. I either went to the rail and tipped a dancer or got dances (LD/VIP). But the more I club, the more I find I’m getting to know some dancers and we spend time kibbitzing before they give me dances. It’s actually not too bad and it builds up a little anticipation. But, I have no idea how much to tip them or how often. Some dancers have mentioned this to me that is what other guys do.
One could say just take a dancer to the LD area but frankly once I’m there, I wanna spend my time with the contact not the chit chat.
What do you guys do?
Up to now, it really hasn’t been a concern. I either went to the rail and tipped a dancer or got dances (LD/VIP). But the more I club, the more I find I’m getting to know some dancers and we spend time kibbitzing before they give me dances. It’s actually not too bad and it builds up a little anticipation. But, I have no idea how much to tip them or how often. Some dancers have mentioned this to me that is what other guys do.
One could say just take a dancer to the LD area but frankly once I’m there, I wanna spend my time with the contact not the chit chat.
What do you guys do?
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I also buy dancers drinks when they sit at the table with me.
Hence the barside tipping. For some girls, it's an excuse to drink while getting paid something. For others it's a way to pick up a few bucks on a slow night. Yet for others it's a way to pocket a bit of cash without having to crawl on a guy's lap. For some it is probably combination of all of these.
In a similar manner, I don't tip a dancer for just talking with me; its part of their sales job. On the other hand, if the dancer is handsy at the table, then I'll tip her for just sitting with me, even if I reject a private dance.
By the way, I'm not sure that analogy extends to the car sales person--- I've never found a car salesperson whose sales pitch included a hand job. :)
Girls asking for tips after minimal interaction is just trashy and annoying as fuck to me.
This doesn't mean I'm going Mr. Pink style and never tip - but asking for a tip after 2min of chat or ending one dance with "tips are always appreciated"....get that shit out of here.
But, you can sometimes get around that by discreetly tipping at the table, or by tucking a buck or two in their costume every few minutes. And, as Subraman has noted time and time again, a table full of food is as good as, or better than, a tip for keeping them around.
Sometimes, I get to the club, and there's literally no girl I'm interested in getting VIP dances with. But a stripper comes up, I let her stay her usual one song, and I find her fun to talk to. I'll ask her if she drinks and if she says yes, well at least my trip isn't a total waste -- now I have a fun drinking buddy. As long as I have no more interesting options, I'm fine with this -- I've already cleared my calendar and driven over an hour there (and face another hour home), just turning around and going home is a colossal waste of an afternoon. Whereas I can enjoy drinking for an hour with a rockin' fun chick, even if she's not my type. I will definitely tip her for the hour. I hate to say it, but since the clubs here currently take 100% of the first $150 the girls make, and 70% of the next $150, giving her even $60 that the club can't touch (since it's hand-to-hand instead of as a dance) is a pretty big win for her, especially if it's a slow time and there's no real opportunity cost for staying with me.
I realize many of you guys have a different agenda - if she's not hot enough to do dances with, she's not hot enough to hang with. I am sometimes open to other diversions if the trip is otherwise a bust.
I don't think there's really a serious risk of this becoming customary, especially in the area in which Clubber clubs. It's not unheard of in some of the northeastern clubs, but not exactly routine even there. Here in the south, most girls initially act very surprised. For guys who buy dances, I think that most of these girls know that a little romancin' is the cost of doing business. In the rare instances where I'm clubbing someplace with fully private and fun back rooms, I generally don't do it either.