Observation
When the dudes who “dated a stripper” are smugly above all of the devious hustles of the strip club and come into the club to let us know that.
But dudes who used to work in the industry in some form or fashion, as in ex club staff, or in one particular case last night, a man who worked in the peripheral of the sex industry with porn stars and I think to strip clubs as well...are more prone to dropping money easily and don’t care.
Lol!
But dudes who used to work in the industry in some form or fashion, as in ex club staff, or in one particular case last night, a man who worked in the peripheral of the sex industry with porn stars and I think to strip clubs as well...are more prone to dropping money easily and don’t care.
Lol!
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Part of this may come from ego on guys part who have "dated a stripper" thinking they can do the same thing again with another dancer with ease. And thinking they got one dancer and so the rest should bow down to them.
A guy dates - or bangs - a stripper - and he then thinks he can bang every stripper who comes over to chat.
Guys who have experience working in the club business know the truth, and they may have more appreciation for many of the folks who work in clubs - and they tip based on their knowledge of the club.
Where as those who were strip club or sex industry staff, would not think like that, it all being rather matter of fact.
I can see how this would be.
My view is that a man who is cheating on an SO, by going to strip clubs, he is at the cock roach level, he is having to shell out lots of money, but cannot really be open about his life and get personal and OTC with the girls.
This was me, trying to survive a death trap marriage.
A guy who works at strip clubs or otherwise in the sex industry, he probably feels more solidarity with the girls, not a racket to beat.
My own view is that using strip clubs as your primary form of sexual gratification is a sorry state of affairs.
The best use of strip clubs is:
1. To imbibe the sexual aesthetic, the dolled up girls dressed to please, and sexual experts. You can partake with them, but this will not be your primary mode. You will take what you learn and recreate it in your outside life in some way.
2. For just the power trip, See, Want, Get, getting the girl you have selected, dressed and painted up as she was when you first spotted her.
3. And then for those extremists, to have strip club dancers be your outside life and outside relationship.
But then notice, neither of these three uses requires going there very often. Your life is more about those you know outside.
For me, my organization will offer a strip club quality experience on a nightly basis, for our people, and at no extra charge.
I think lots of guys, you basic customers, are going to see the strip club women as being all about money, and as having lots of power. And this is true, but only to a point. It applies only in that venue. Wrong to see the women or the club as a game to beat,
Being in a strip club, especially a higher end showier club, like in San Francisco, it is like being a kid in a candy store. But it is so very expensive, and you really want longer term more private encounters with the women. But just dropping more money is not the best way. You need to get them outside, and you need to get to more personal relationships.
It has always been like that since the advent of patriarchy, dividing women into two categories, one for public prestige and social standing, and the other for sexual desire. And this view is expressed all the time on this board.
In my organization we will be collapsing these distinctions.
SJG
Red Tails 2012
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RhDmGR1c…
SJG
I think the ones who succeed the most tho kinda succeed by indirect communicating it. Not showing up to the club and talking dancers ears off.
That is not good.
SJG
Worst thing possible would be for a man to become like women by gossiping with them.
SJG
w.r.t. staff tipping when they visit - as others have said, they know the biz from firsthand experience and from firsthand-experience know how important good/proper tipping is.
I think that is what some of these guys don't get when someone like me walks away. I am used to getting money from all types, and will literally walk away while someone is still trying to talk to me if I feel like it.
They don't understand that that opens more doors to relating to them than it closes.
SJG
Just curious.
SJG
I mean, sometimes watching the game play out can be enjoyable as well.