Three strippers talk about being a good strip club customer.
The thing I disagreed with most was this: "All three dancers talked about how uncomfortable they feel when customers try to get them to engage in gossip about other dancers."
In my experience, dancers are always gossiping to me about other dancers, and the gossip is mostly negative. They tell me a dancer is fat or is on drugs or has a pimp. They criticize other girls' looks or habits or tats. I don't engage in much gossip myself.
I think the negative comments are often an attempt to pry a customer away from a competing dancer. Once a few years ago when my CF was on stage, another stripper sat down at my table and told me my CF was sleeping with the DJ. This, I later learned, was true. But why would I care? She wasn't my wife or girlfriend, and a hot stripper is sure to be sleeping with someone. As long as she was having sex with me, I was happy.
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I suppose they don't want to hear that Bambi gives better blow jobs than they do. :)
IME strippers normally can't keep their mouth closed talking shit about other dancers
Agree stupid fking article. At a strip club i want to be myself grope a hot dancer and whisper all my dirty thoughts in het ear and she at least pretends she is enjoying all of it...im not at a strip club to be a good little fking church boy.
Dancers with all these fussy "rules" governing how customers should behave think and talk should just work normal receptionist jobs and leave the strip club world to bad chicks with thick skins. Cant play in the big leagues if you cant the hits...
*take the hits...
The part I found amusing is that the writer (Jessie Sage) is a woman who wrote...
“ so I decided to reach out to three current and former full-time dancers — Eden, Sheena, and Iris — asking them what their male patrons could do to make their jobs better.”
...but there was nothing requested what female patrons could do to make stripper jobs better.
^^^ that is right. She is sexist. Thumbs down to Jessie Sage
"“There are some guys who would grab my ass when I walked by, actively groping me, but who were not planning to buy a dance,” Eden recounts, calling this a form of shoplifting. “I am using my body as a form of service, you don’t get to touch it without asking or paying.”"
^^^ interesting comment in the article. If so.eone gets busted with that kind of shoplifting, how can they take back the merchandise?
Oh no. Strippers have not only talked shit about other strippers to me but talked shit about other strippers in front of me. I keep quiet
WHAT THEY SAID...
Sheena, Iris, and Eden all said that it is relatively easy to be a good customer in a strip club: Openly communicate what you want, respect the dancers (including their choices and their boundaries), pay and tip generously for the interactions, and don’t try to push for interactions outside the club. These boundaries help dancers feel safe, respected, and able to really engage customers, creating the best interactions for everyone. “Good customers are willing to engage in the fun fantasy play of what the experience can be, they are there to create a piece of performance art; and we can both enjoy that in the moment,” says Eden.
TRANSLATION: Leave one ball in a jar at the door and everything will be great. 😉
I guess this article doesn’t seem as strident as some similarity themed articles I’ve read. And I agree with some of it. When sitting at stage, don’t be a cheap ass and tip. It’s their job and be respectful. Don’t assume and don’t shame. Those are fair points.
However, respectfulness goes both ways. These types of articles aren’t designed to make that point and I understand that. But it makes these types of articles less interesting than they could be.
^^^im of the thought that as long as a customer is not being outright abusive...everything is fair game at a strip club. A customer doesnt have to spend a dime in the club if he doesnt want to. He can bring up any topic he wants. He can touch her or not touch her. In every business..the customer is always king and the strip club is no exception.
Similarly, a dancer can choose to or not to engage a customer for whatever reason.
"Creating a piece of performance art" lol give me a fking break...this isnt the fking russian ballet....youre parading yourself naked for money. These dancers seriously need to get over themselves....
I believe that no strip club customer has any right to just grab a dancer walking by. If they interact by agreement, then he can, but she retains veto power.
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