Turning down sex

Blasphemy 😂

Yes I have, my friend and this girl weren’t going out but they were fucking. She wanted me. I said no. Teenage virgin at this point. But I would love another shot to say yes. She was a busty blonde goddess. I had integrity at that point and I should’ve banged the shit of her and worried about the consequences later. It still bothers me.

Yes, with a very good looking young woman hitchhiker.

Numerous times with coworkers. One time with a stripper. Once with a married friend who looked like Barbara Eden. Once with a Karate student. Once with a college student. At this point in my life, I regret every single one of those I did not fuck !

October of 1975. Freshman year of college. The hometown friend of a girl who liked me, but to whom I was not attracted came up for the weekend. She had been up many times and I had a wicked crush on her. Listening to the Dead in my room and she comes in to chat, all drunk and doing drugs too. Eventually sat on my lap and started kissing me. Concerned with how fucked up she was I passed and subsequently asked her out 5 failed times before giving up and regretting it for the rest of my life. Sir Galahad was a stupid fuck.

@gawker

At least you got to live to regret it.

Messing with police officer's SO is a Bad idea.

There have been a few:

A cheerleader in High School

Ex-wife's co-worker

Ex-wife's boss

A college student

A friend of a girlfriend

I have said no many times for what were good reasons at the time. I can’t really say I regret saying no since under the same circumstances I’d say no again. I wish some of those circumstances were different, but they weren’t.

No use crying over spilt milk. It’s a good thing I can make bad decisions at strip clubs without all those problems. Just different ones.

I was sexually assaulted.... raped basically, by a girl when I was 16. I was drunk and she knew I liked someone else, I said no but she kept sucking my dick. When I started getting hard she tried riding me but I told her to get off and when she saw I was serious and wasn't staying hard, she got off and apologized.

I've said no to fat bitches when I've been sober... and I've turned some down when I've been in relationships.

Yes, I have turned down outright offers for sex on several occasions (and I’m not even counting any of the financially motivated offers of sex from desploogination service professionals).

As best I can recall, all of the women I turned down after they had invited me to fuck them fell into one or more of the following categories:

1. Insufficiently attractive

2. Untrustworthy (word would get out and fuck up my marriage and valued extramarital relationships)

3. They were GFs of close buddies (sometimes I fucked them anyway if I felt they could be trusted to keep a secret)

4. Suspected to carry STDs

5. Couldn’t fit them into my schedule

6. Offered herself up for slaughter when I was really sick and running a high fever

7. offensive body odor (including that revolting tuna casserole koochie stench)

A few times that I can think of offhand.

Once in college, a hot Asian girl was drunk and in my room trying to get with me. I really wanted her friend and I was close with the Asian girl's family, so I didn't do it.

Another time, a hot Asian girl was on my lap in an overcrowded taxi when we were barhopping and she was touching me all over, trying to get me to hook up with her. I was married and passed.

I wish I could go back in time and take advantage of both opportunities, especially since I wound up getting divorced. Also, I've never been with an Asian girl, so I really regret it now.

Another time in college, a cute girl I had hooked up with, but not had sex with, was standing outside my door drunk wanting me to let her in. I was drunk too, but craving coke more than sex, so I didn't let her in and started doing lines instead. Another poor choice, although I enjoyed it at the time.

Good story gawker. And I would have done the same thing. I would not mix sex with an employee. That could go wrong in so many ways.

I have only turned down girls that were offering it for money. And those were all times when they were asking for a lot.

Yes, a couple of times in college I was approached by girls I didn't think were that cute and turned them down. What I failed to realize then, and have been kicking myself ever since, is that they had really nice bodies and, if they were horny enough to come on to me like that, they could've rocked my world sexually. I have few regrets in life, but looking back on situations like that, I know I should have gone for it.

A few times in my younger years. It was under circumstances that there could have been social or job consequences, and they weren’t hot enough to justify the risk.

A few bigger women I flat out rejected.

One assured me that she gives amazing bj's. I worked with her dad, and he was like 30 feet away at a crowded bar. She was a big girl and I wasn't drunk or desperate enough.

Another was a thick girl, not as big as the first one. I knew her for years and just wasn't attracted to her. She told her friends on several occasions that "tonight's the night" that she was going to get with me. So one night she followed me home from the bar at like 1 or 2am. Knocked on my door, I let her in and we talked and drank a beer or 2. I was pretty plastered and tired as hell, so eventually I told her I was going to bed. I woke up at like 5 or 6am and found her in bed next to me, I quickly checked my pants to find them still on, belt fastened and shirt still partially tucked...so I figured nothing happened. I got up and went to the couch. A few hours later I heard her say goodbye as she was walking out the front door.

Also had a GF that pissed me off one night and she wanted to fool around. I told her I wasn't in the mood and I dropped her off and went back to my place. She didn't like that one bit and got even with me by driving to my place, coming inside and forcing me to fuck the shit out of her.

I also had one time in college that I wanted to, but my lieutenant refused a direct order to put on his poncho. She was pretty hot and felt like shit, I had to do the it's not you it's me thing. She turned out to be a huge whore and even bigger bitch. I do kinda regret that one, but after I got to know her, and pretty much hate her, I always loved thinking that she had to live with me not being turned on enough to get with her. She probably never gave it a second thought. Lol

I used to teach as an adjunct after work. Still in my 30s, I remember one student in particular that asked me out. She was attractive-- but back in those days I had some sense of morality and declined.

Shit, now I wouldn't think twice about going for it.

The were a few for the same reasons already mentioned but the one that stands out most goes back to when I was 19 and dating a 17 yo. I really didn't understand the legalities of her being under 18 and her mother was a cop.

I initially avoided having sex with her but since we were an item it had to happen. When it did, she passed out during foreplay. No alcohol or drugs were involved. It scared the hell out of me. She finally came to after about 3 minutes but I wanted no more of that and broke off the relationship. I have never heard any explanation from any one on why it happened.

My first job out of college was as an Engineer for a large manufacturing company. I worked for the Plant Superintendent who was a gruff old man. Not all that friendly. When I told him that I was going back to Graduate School, he called me in his office. He told me when he was young, he made mistakes. I said what mistakes? He said, I passed up Pussy. I said why? He said that he was cocky and thought he could get better or that the girl was not worthy of him. He said sex was easy to find when he was young. He said now that he is older, it is much harder to find and he is sorry he did not get more when he could. His one piece of advice to me as I was leaving my job and going back to college was Never Pass Up Pussy. My friends and I referred to this advice as (NPUP) and referenced it often. Perhaps the best advice I ever received. NPUP.

^ NPUP - that would be a good tuscl username

I've passed on opportunities with various co-workers over the years. I don't regret any of those because those girls would've never kept their mouths shut about it and the consequences wouldn't have been worth it. Well, I suppose I regret one of those because she was sizzling hot, but she was also my admin assistant.

The one I regret is a Puerto Rican chick I met when traveling Europe during summer in college and we spent a week together sharing room as we traveled through cities we had as mutual desinations. She said she was a virgin and wanted to save it for marriage. We made out a lot in shared room and final night she opened her legs and said let's do it. I declined based on what she'd stated about virginity. My youthful chivalry has since died and I regret that one.

Random Memory’s story was similar to another that played out over a few months and ended today. I was a high school principal and retired17 years ago. I received a phone call from a former student who called to thank me. She’s in her 40’s and is a single mom of 2. We talked and I took her out to dinner. She might be in her 40’s but looked much younger. We became Facebook friends and communicated by Messenger and one day she sent me a picture of her partially clothed. I ignored it. Then a couple of pics of her wearing even less. I wrote back saying she’d always be 16 in my mind. Today on Snapchat I got a video of her in bed with a guy her age.

I've never passed up the opportunity to have sex with any girl I can think of. I failed to pursue a few who I could have easily closed the deal with but at the time was not attracted to enough to fuck them.

There have been a few I wish I hadn't had sex with though. Even today thinking back many years, I wish I hadn't fucked a few of them. Nothing bad came of those situations, I just considered those desperation pussy. One was a big girl, not sloppy fat, just big, with way too small tits. She wore me down and I decided to just fuck her as hard as possible. She got more than she was expecting that night.

The first time in a club where "extras" were offered. At that point in time my mongering was limited to "non-extras" clubs. I was traveling out of state this time. She was hot MILFy dancer who said she regularly worked at another club in a different part of the state that had the same ownership, but was traveling that weekend. We hit it off pretty well chatting at the bar and then getting some dances. But I was baffled by the logistics of either 1) hooking up in my car somewhere, or 2) getting back to my hotel with her and then back to the club, so I declined. It was not until a good bit later that I realized that she meant ITC. No one would have known. The upstairs VIP area was deserted except for the 2 of us and there were no cameras AFAIK. **Sigh**.

I had many missed opportunities because I was saving myself for marriage.
Man. if I had only known...

I've turned down plenty of 4s and a few 5s in my day. I'm not saying I never got a drunk bj from a fat 5. But I guess I have standards sometimes.

Sometimes via the wisdom of the penis, you have to turn it down. Can't argue with your own penis.

SJG

I used to make out with my gf in high school when I picked her up in the morning for school. Her parents goes to work before I came over. One day she was in her nightgown and pulled me into her bedroom, pushed my head under it. She had no panties on. We were both virgins.
I saw the bush and ran out of the house. She soon cheated on me with another one of our friends. She's a doctor now. A part of me wondered what could have been, if I fucked her that morning...a rich unhappy doctor's husband?

One girl I grew up with... I don't know what it was about her. She was attractive and generally a nice person. She just really came on to me so strong at odd times that something didn't feel right. I saw her a couple of years ago and it was the same thing. Everything she said or did was like she just wanted to get me into her pants.

Something about her approach just told me to stay clear. Maybe I'm not just a piece of meat....which I was for plenty of other women through my college years.