Dancer Communications
DougS
Florida
Keeping in communications contact with my fav dancers has at times been a real chore. I need to be able to arrange times when I will be in the club to assure that they will also be there. I also need to arrange OTC or what have you. Plus, I like to maintain contact just to keep things friendly, so to speak.
This probably only is a concern when you can't go to the club that frequently, and especially when the club isn't close by.
Normally, we exchange phone numbers but with the hours they keep, and sometimes their lack or reliability, there are times when connecting on the phone isn't as timely as I'd like it to be. Also, the phone connection can sometimes be difficult if the girl has an SO, plus I also have an SO.
Other methods used... calling the club directly - usually a pay phone at the club, can sometimes work, but obviously it has to be ok with your girl. If it's a pay phone number, you obviously have to rely on someone answering it, AND cooperating enough to go snag your girl to come to the phone. If it's not a pay phone, the chances of success rely on how cooperative the answerer (most likely the doorman or bartender) is.
I've also found that giving your girl a pre-paid phone card works very well in increasing chances that she will call. Especially if she can't call from her cell phone because the phone number shows up, etc.
I've also found that I can send a letter to the club, attn: dancer name. That method seems to work great at the current fav's club, as long as you don't need a timely response.
Another possiblity... buying a pay-as-you-go cell phone and sending it to her. I have a buddy that has had good success with his girls, with this technique.
Does anyone else have communications issues? Any other ideas on how better to keep the communications lines open?
This probably only is a concern when you can't go to the club that frequently, and especially when the club isn't close by.
Normally, we exchange phone numbers but with the hours they keep, and sometimes their lack or reliability, there are times when connecting on the phone isn't as timely as I'd like it to be. Also, the phone connection can sometimes be difficult if the girl has an SO, plus I also have an SO.
Other methods used... calling the club directly - usually a pay phone at the club, can sometimes work, but obviously it has to be ok with your girl. If it's a pay phone number, you obviously have to rely on someone answering it, AND cooperating enough to go snag your girl to come to the phone. If it's not a pay phone, the chances of success rely on how cooperative the answerer (most likely the doorman or bartender) is.
I've also found that giving your girl a pre-paid phone card works very well in increasing chances that she will call. Especially if she can't call from her cell phone because the phone number shows up, etc.
I've also found that I can send a letter to the club, attn: dancer name. That method seems to work great at the current fav's club, as long as you don't need a timely response.
Another possiblity... buying a pay-as-you-go cell phone and sending it to her. I have a buddy that has had good success with his girls, with this technique.
Does anyone else have communications issues? Any other ideas on how better to keep the communications lines open?
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Admittedly, at times, I have jumped through hoops to make some of my connections, but the rewards that the effort has reaped is, in my opinion, well worth it.
The thing about dancers is that part of the reason they dance is because of scheduling flexibility. If a lady has a thousand dollar day on Tuesday she may take Wednesday off - no matter how many emails or phone calls she has made telling her regulars that she will be working.
Always have a plan B.
I remember one dancer gave me her number and I eventually stopped calling her since I usually saw her in the club when I went to visit. A few weeks went by, then months. Then I thought, hmmm, I never even tried to call her. I figured she must not have wanted to make that long distance drive to where I live at especially after the police stopped her for doing 95. I didn't even feel a need to ask about that one. Seems like yesterday for me though and that was over a year ago.
You can get discouraged from calling someone if their phone system doesn't seem to work correctly or they don't return your call quickly enough. I think I would be fine if I didn't talk to a single human for over a week. I already seem to talk to alot of people for business so relaxing for me is staying away from the phone.
I've known strippers whose regulars actually got them standard cell phone accounts. The account usually got cut off within a month after he found it didn't make any difference in her staying in touch.
You just have to know which niche you're in, and adjust expectations accordingly.
I once had a fave who I gave up trying to phone. She'd have a new number each month, or she'd usually ignore my messages. Then, out of the blue, when I came into work one morning, the secretary told me I might want to play back the message on our answering machine in private. (Back before we had individual voice mail.) My fave and her stripper friend had found my work number in the phone book (I'd given her my home number repeatedly, which she kept "losing") and left a salacious message, which everyone in the office had played and replayed, of course.
Sorry for not having much in the way of helpful ideas. The paradox, I've found, is that girls I can rely on to return my calls tend to stick to a reliable schedule anyway. The girls I really wish I could coordinate with because their schedules are so erratic are the same ones who I can never get a hold of. Of course, they're the girls I'm drawn to and get more excited about seeing.