Having too many favorites
theDirkDiggler
Illinois
Fast forward to my current situation. Now when i'm going to a club, i don't have a clear idea of whom i'm going to dance or VIP with. Before there were two or three usual options, sometimes only one, particularly when the ATF was involved. Now it's more like 5+. Old favorites and new favorites and still i'm intrigued by the new girl i haven't tried yet, although i kind of got into this situation by trying out all these new girls. Basically, i have limited time and money so it's been a bit of a struggle navigating this situation. I find myself more relieved actually, when less favorites, or even only one or two are working that shift.
I don't want to sound like i'm complaining; i'm not. But i no longer think this is a good problem to have. I like the idea of having plenty of favorites available, but there's just this growing opportunity cost of picking "wrong" or picking too soon as well as all the other time (and money) consuming aspects of having favorites. I guess it really is true you can't have your cake and eat it too. On the bright side, i will say that my recent SC experiences have probably been better than they have ever been.
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My current dilemma is whether to spend some cash on an 18 year old dancer I met who's been texting me vs saving that cash for a biz trip to Chicago in a few weeks.
I'm in my mid-30s, so 18 is a bit young, but she really wants to spend some time together. Then again, when I'm in Chicago, I'll be wishing I had more than a little $ on me.
The clubs i go to now, i try to maximize my experiences with as limited number of girls as possible. This was easier when at one of the clubs, i had a clear ATF. But then she left that club and i had a slew of new possibilities and some old ones available. Since then, i developed "relationships" with several new girls there that rivaled if not even exceeded the ATF is some ways. And since i no longer have a clear ATF there, my new "favorites" have no issue camping on my lap until we get dances and even linger on after that, which is another issue altogether.
To make things more complicated, the ATF went to a different favorite club of mine where i didn't usually have regulars or favorites. The turnover was just that high. But this was the club where i tried out new talent while i was doing the "onegina" thing with the ATF at the other club. So in THAT time i had also developed "relationships" with some amazing "baby" strippers that actually stuck around there as well as a couple hot MILFy girls in the dayshift there. The ATF doesn't work a lot, so i've only seen her a couple times at her new club so she hasn't really dealt with this issue with me yet, although i was already starting to have the converging/conflicting "hook ups" with the other favorites over there.
So basically, i'm going through my budget quicker than before. I tend to leave the SC with an empty or near empty wallet now than before where i often would have a bit or quite a bit left over. But i'm having better experiences overall than before as well. And ironically, this is happening while i've been burning out a bit, but that's a whole another story as well. So i'm not enjoying this anywhere near as much as i would have say, i don't know, five years ago. All of this has pretty much taken place in just the last few months or so, so it might settle down soon. Or get even worse...
Then reconsider whether you're needing to spend what you're spending. If you're questioning it, maybe try giving yourself time off? I took a few years off a while back. It was a nice break. Hobby's more fun now. Less waste.
"ATF". This is just one of those things that people either get or don't. If there's ever more than one, you're doing it wrong. But I can see the point in having a club favorite. There's something to that. Maybe that's a term someone can coin.
I've probably been burning out for over a year off and on. By that i mean not getting as much out of my visits as before. Maybe it's kind of like a drug addict building tolerance or something. Combined with a little bit of SC malaise or fatigue. But in general and certainly recently which might be compounding matters, i've been getting all that i realistically expect and then some from my SC experiences, so that issue is something i have to figure out on my own. That whole idea of being careful what you wish for. Maybe a break is in order, but it won't be anywhere near a few years, or even a few months probably. It doesn't feel like a waste for me anyway.
As for ATFs. It's always changing, evolving, a process. The current ATF is still my favorite, so longer than any other (well over a year now). Just not as clearly as before. The previous ATFs obviously are no longer ATFs. I remember when i told the previous ATF that she was my new favorite, displacing the ATF before her. She said, "why don't you like her anymore?" And i said, "i still do, but others came along. You came along." She then quit the club/industry before she could be displaced by the current ATF who at the time blew them all away. I think Club Favorite or Current Favorite has been in use here. Maybe Favorite So Far, but that's a pretty lousy acronym.
And sometimes you'll be eating away and enjoying it and then you see another new item, say on someone else's plate, that you didn't see before, but it's something you know you'll like just as much if not even more so that what you're eating now. You're thinking, i didn't know that was there; never saw it before. So you go back, and that item's predictably out, and you don't have time for them to restock it. Or you're already getting full, if not a little sick and you have to wait until the next time, but there's no guarantee that item will even be there next time. Okay, not perfect, but about as close as one i could find.
Dude. Club however you want. It's all good. And I get what you're saying. What I'm saying is my ATF was a dish I never got tired of. I'll elaborate on that some other time if I remember. Have fun.
Or, take a break from one or several of these women.