Having too many favorites

This is what I'd like to call a good problem to have! It can be tough juggling multiple highly competitive or at least jealous women. But I'd rather that than sitting around a club with nobody's attention.

My current dilemma is whether to spend some cash on an 18 year old dancer I met who's been texting me vs saving that cash for a biz trip to Chicago in a few weeks.

I'm in my mid-30s, so 18 is a bit young, but she really wants to spend some time together. Then again, when I'm in Chicago, I'll be wishing I had more than a little $ on me.

I’m having the same problem. Where it feels strange between SA and SCs not having 10+ women in my life, it starts to feel lonely having anything less. I need to pick my favorite of that group and just focus on her for the sake of wallet.

I like having a number of favorites.

I have four faves and only two work at the same club and I see them the least. This works well because I get all the benefits of a regular but also variety when I want it.

The only favorite I have is the lady sitting on my lap grinding away at that moment. Otherwise, it's just a transaction y'all take this atf and favorites shit way too serious.

Back when i frequented a club where i "sampled" numerous hotties, this wasn't a real issue. Sure, it could get expensive, but i only spent the bigger money on my top two or three girls there and even then it wasn't all that much, but enough for them to remember me and come back to me every visit. Even then, i knew i was in "trouble" if all of them worked the same shift.

The clubs i go to now, i try to maximize my experiences with as limited number of girls as possible. This was easier when at one of the clubs, i had a clear ATF. But then she left that club and i had a slew of new possibilities and some old ones available. Since then, i developed "relationships" with several new girls there that rivaled if not even exceeded the ATF is some ways. And since i no longer have a clear ATF there, my new "favorites" have no issue camping on my lap until we get dances and even linger on after that, which is another issue altogether.

To make things more complicated, the ATF went to a different favorite club of mine where i didn't usually have regulars or favorites. The turnover was just that high. But this was the club where i tried out new talent while i was doing the "onegina" thing with the ATF at the other club. So in THAT time i had also developed "relationships" with some amazing "baby" strippers that actually stuck around there as well as a couple hot MILFy girls in the dayshift there. The ATF doesn't work a lot, so i've only seen her a couple times at her new club so she hasn't really dealt with this issue with me yet, although i was already starting to have the converging/conflicting "hook ups" with the other favorites over there.

So basically, i'm going through my budget quicker than before. I tend to leave the SC with an empty or near empty wallet now than before where i often would have a bit or quite a bit left over. But i'm having better experiences overall than before as well. And ironically, this is happening while i've been burning out a bit, but that's a whole another story as well. So i'm not enjoying this anywhere near as much as i would have say, i don't know, five years ago. All of this has pretty much taken place in just the last few months or so, so it might settle down soon. Or get even worse...

"So i'm not enjoying this anywhere near as much as i would have say, i don't know, five years ago."

Then reconsider whether you're needing to spend what you're spending. If you're questioning it, maybe try giving yourself time off? I took a few years off a while back. It was a nice break. Hobby's more fun now. Less waste.

"ATF". This is just one of those things that people either get or don't. If there's ever more than one, you're doing it wrong. But I can see the point in having a club favorite. There's something to that. Maybe that's a term someone can coin.

My advice is to stick with 1 girl at a bar. We all get that urge for variety and my MO has been to find another girl at another bar or another few girls at other bars for that need. My reasoning for this is simple. Whenever I get sloppy and have more than 1 fav at the bar, the lesser of the options gets clingy and annoying. I find if I only dance with the lesser options on the days when other girl is off on vacation it makes the experience easier. I've even had the lesser option girls call my fav from the dressing room and on the days she isnt there they tell me as they know this will increase thier options for a dance.

@wallanon I've probably been burning out for over a year off and on. By that i mean not getting as much out of my visits as before. Maybe it's kind of like a drug addict building tolerance or something. Combined with a little bit of SC malaise or fatigue. But in general and certainly recently which might be compounding matters, i've been getting all that i realistically expect and then some from my SC experiences, so that issue is something i have to figure out on my own. That whole idea of being careful what you wish for. Maybe a break is in order, but it won't be anywhere near a few years, or even a few months probably. It doesn't feel like a waste for me anyway.

As for ATFs. It's always changing, evolving, a process. The current ATF is still my favorite, so longer than any other (well over a year now). Just not as clearly as before. The previous ATFs obviously are no longer ATFs. I remember when i told the previous ATF that she was my new favorite, displacing the ATF before her. She said, "why don't you like her anymore?" And i said, "i still do, but others came along. You came along." She then quit the club/industry before she could be displaced by the current ATF who at the time blew them all away. I think Club Favorite or Current Favorite has been in use here. Maybe Favorite So Far, but that's a pretty lousy acronym.

I just thought of an analogy that describes my issue somewhat. It's kind of like going to a higher end buffet and you only have limited stomach space but almost unlimited options. And you're not the type that just likes to try just a tiny bit of everything. You prefer large servings of your favorite items. In fact you eat much more of your very favorite items. But even your absolute favorite item, you don't want to eat only that and that every time.

And sometimes you'll be eating away and enjoying it and then you see another new item, say on someone else's plate, that you didn't see before, but it's something you know you'll like just as much if not even more so that what you're eating now. You're thinking, i didn't know that was there; never saw it before. So you go back, and that item's predictably out, and you don't have time for them to restock it. Or you're already getting full, if not a little sick and you have to wait until the next time, but there's no guarantee that item will even be there next time. Okay, not perfect, but about as close as one i could find.

Or to carry the analogy further. Maybe you fill up or over fill up initially on one or two items you thought you would really like. But they're not as good as you remember for whatever reason. But you have to finish them or you'll be charged extra. Then you try a different item at the very end and realize you should have tried that in the beginning, but can't enjoy it as much in your current state. These are the analogous dilemmas i face in the SC, lol...

"Or to carry the analogy further. "

Dude. Club however you want. It's all good. And I get what you're saying. What I'm saying is my ATF was a dish I never got tired of. I'll elaborate on that some other time if I remember. Have fun.

I agree. With the ATF, every time i dance with her, i am reminded why she is the ATF. I never regret it, but every time isn't always the same quality. Anyway, the other issues unrelated to the OP i have to sort out, but this current one is curiously perplexing...

Even though I have four faves, I still have my ATF DS as one of them and absolutely I see her the most. All of them are drop dead gorgeous, sexy, provide excellent tease and LDK service, and any of the other three would be an ATF but for my ATF DS. She truly is all-time favorite and dream stripper after dozens of faves and ATFs in the past. I have been on a splurge seeing all four but now that I'm cutting back I'm going to just see my ATF DS more and the others a lot less. It was a good couple of months run, though, but in the end it just reaffirmed why she still is ATF DS.

If you have too many favorites, then it may be time to cull the herd a bit. Every favorite has an expiration date, after which the experience gets sour. Don't let guilt or some other misplaced emotion prevent you from simplifying your entertainment.

So many beautiful ladies. They're all my favorite for the time I get to have with them. There's only so much time and money. Why over think it? Spend on what looks good or feels good that night. That's my motto.

This is called analysis paralysis. Walk into the club and pick the dancer that matches your mood and current desires. You'll make yourself mental worrying about making the absolute best choice in every instance. That's impossible to do.

Or, take a break from one or several of these women.

^^^. Ishmael +1

I probably actually agree with RD. A pecking order does have to be established. And then it is what it is.