Platonic Relationship
Vantablack
GOODBYE TUSCL!! :)
I know most of you guys go after strippers in hopes of having OTC fun. Would any of you guys ever settle for a platonic relationship with any of the girls you meet in the club? Or do you guys think that's a waste of time? And when I mean platonic I mean staying just friends with the girl knowing she'll never have sex or get intimate with you.
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No, never done that.
But he snapchatted me not too long ago asking how I was, and when I mentioned my Dallas trip he says we should have met up. He’s been pitching me to buy any one of the varieties of drugs he has, but I’m not really a drug user myself.
So to answer your question...maybe?
That’s when you get invited to hang out and you can meet other dancers. In my experience, it’s usually a small core of dudes who seem to just date/hookup with multiple dancers. My ex boyfriend knows more dancers than I do, lol.
I know one that can hold down a discussion on many of the classics. She brought up Lysistrata on one of our dates and how it related to the discussion we were having. She probably knows some Plato if she knows Aristophanes.
So stripper or non-stripper I enjoy platonic relationships. Doesn't mean you got to be pussy whipped or BFFs.
But I'm not giving any money to the platonic friend. Period.
Some people mention paying for a platonic relationship. That is not a platonic relationship. While I would not do that, I will not criticize someone that does. To each his own
It's the "settling" part that I trip on. It implies I badly want to have sex with her, but instead I'm going to bite my tongue and "settle" for being friendzoned, while pining away for her and fantasizing that she'll change her mind. This is crazytown -- no, out of the question.
If you remove the word settle and just ask, would I be friends with a stripper? Sure. Hell, I've even maintained friendships with strippers after they "Retired" and I was no longer interested in them sexually, but we stay in touch over social media, even go out for drinks occasionally. One thing about strippers, they're fun to hang out with and talk to (I realize opinions vary on this point, and some of you would rather get a sharp stick in the eye than just talk with a stripper), so sure, absolutely. Having young, fun, female friends is not a bad thing.
Pros:
- I get to hang out with cool people outside of the club for free.
- I get invited to parties with other dancers or similarly young, hot women.
- I invite dancer friends to my parties (which results in much better parties).
- When I’m in the club, they’ll chill with me for free, help me pick out other girls, give me discounts on dances, or generally work to make my experience better.
Cons:
- One won’t dance for me anymore because she gets self-conscious trying to pretend to be sexy in front of me.
- You have to be good with boundaries in the club so they don’t dampen your experience by unloading all their emotional baggage on you.
@Subraman
I liked my ATF for a while knowing something romantic between us cannot exist, so me and her are just going to be friends. It's probably better off this way
Do I want a platonic friendship with my ATF, sure but just that and nothing more. Wouldn't want to marry her.
However, as Subraman noted, I’m not convinced that “settling” is the right word for this. They are each good people, and the absence of sex isn’t a detriment at all.
I have another girl I see at the club whenever my ATF isn't available. However I haven't seen that other girl in weeks
That said I'd love to sleep with her, it just hasn't really come up.
Are you starting your pimpin career? Just stay off my turf instead of trying to be like lil_balls ;)
That said I'd love to sleep with her, it just hasn't really come up."
@jester214
Hey me too! Except I'm only stuck with platonic because that is as far as I can get right about now. Escalation to something more would be ideal, although very hard to achieve.
I'd never want that, but I'm not going to tell you that you're having fun wrong.
Personal opinion... leave this other dancer behind and go to another club where you can just have fun sans complexity.
@Vantablack posted: "Hey me too! Except I'm only stuck with platonic because that is as far as I can get right about now. Escalation to something more would be ideal, although very hard to achieve."
Why? I missed the part if you asked her out? Or the part where you asked to fuck her for money. And the part where she turned you down. It's probably too late to change things around for her, but really it's not very hard to achieve. Really it's not. It's not like men who date or prostitute (is that a verb?) women like your ATF are brainiacs or all that successful. So why it is hard to achieve? Think about it. All 15 y/os like yourself really ponder that.
In the mean time, try a new club and some new women like @Call.Me.Ishmael suggests.
But if you're this guy https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/231624-f… then it can get to meme-level pathetic. It's that word "settle", that indicates that you badly want to sleep with her, but will settle for being friendzoned, that can lead to a lot of frustration or misery -- even if you're getting a little temporary high when she deigns to give you attention.
1. Lack of ambition
4. A slob (being out of shape, dressing poorly, or lack of style)
10. A bore
11. Lack of balance. A balanced person is someone who can juggle a lot of things and still give them proper time and attention.
*Four Reasons you can't stop thinking about that guy you just met (written by a woman)
1. He exudes confidence
2. He manspreads . . . sort of.
3. He is clummy with his guy friends.
4. He is calm.
^^I think a lot of guys (like fishsticks) haven't figured out on their own how to build lust in a women or how to use tension, particularly sexual tension, to flirt with a girl and pique her interest & curiosity. That's if you're slob appearance, not necessary good looks though that helps, doesn't make her run away at first. I'd wager 1&2 get her motor running and 3&4 let her know she won't have buyer's remorse (a/k/a social proof).
^^But really if I wanted to distill it down to the pure form.
1. She said she said yes because I was confident and she just HAD TO SEE (emphasis hers) out if I could back that up.
2. She said she was curious what Miss So-and-so had, because I was friends with or was dating her competition.
3. Not boring. She was looking to break out of a routine or boredom and I offered what they all want. Adventure, excitement, a day out. Either something novel, a break from comfort, or she trusted me enough to follow me and see where it might lead. She said you grabbed me but you looked like you knew what you were doing. Universally I'm told some of the best dates they had were (1) when I told her I was going to date her instead of asking as the confidence was intoxicating and (2) when we'd leave early morning before dawn to go do something, then she'd fully wake in the jeep or the truck on the way, seeing the fog settling, then I'd hand her a mcmuffin or croissant sandwich, eating it on the way. It didn't matter what activity I had planned (economizing by using the drive-thru), but the ride there was always memorizing for her.
Maybe what I wrote it helpful or maybe it's not. Once it dawned on me that football players and other cavemen were having better luck that me they weren't brainiacs, I turned my luck around. So where's the problem?
I just asked her and she seemed very open to the idea of spending time outside of the club. I'm gonna try to make it happen this weekend.