The relentless pursuit of favoritism...
PaulDrake
Off again on again PL
I have been thinking more and more that I really hate variety and love having long term favorites. I enjoy the experience so much more with someone over time. It is a major turn on for me to have a stunningly gorgeous girl who has spent the time and effort to learn exactly what my likes are and can give me an intense sexual experience that is exactly what I enjoy. Past that over time you can usually cut through the stripper shit and have more genuine deep conversation.
Earlier this year I went to Mons Venus on a business trip and had an amazing time. But it was almost a little frustrating that I can never see that dancer again so I decided to never SC on a trip again. I only want to invest money close to home where I can potentially find a new fav.
Now I think I am going to take things even further. I probably shouldn't buy dances from a traveling dancer. I have even been thinking of feeling out a dancer right off the bat to see how often she works. Or even ask a manager/bouncer/waitress. If a dancer is the type to work a few days every few months that is not a good candidate for a fav and I shouldn't invest money on her.
Anyone have any other ideas on how to vet dancers for fav status?
Thoughts? Am I pushing this too far? Not enough? Overthinking it?
My 2 exceptions to my favs only rule:
1. My fantasy dream stripper: www.instagram.com/tiyanaj/
2. Nicespice
Earlier this year I went to Mons Venus on a business trip and had an amazing time. But it was almost a little frustrating that I can never see that dancer again so I decided to never SC on a trip again. I only want to invest money close to home where I can potentially find a new fav.
Now I think I am going to take things even further. I probably shouldn't buy dances from a traveling dancer. I have even been thinking of feeling out a dancer right off the bat to see how often she works. Or even ask a manager/bouncer/waitress. If a dancer is the type to work a few days every few months that is not a good candidate for a fav and I shouldn't invest money on her.
Anyone have any other ideas on how to vet dancers for fav status?
Thoughts? Am I pushing this too far? Not enough? Overthinking it?
My 2 exceptions to my favs only rule:
1. My fantasy dream stripper: www.instagram.com/tiyanaj/
2. Nicespice
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It can be a long process, so I find it's best to play the field, enjoy some variety, and when it happens it happens. I try to keep my spending under control while I play the field, and only do a couple dances per girl until one strikes my interest, and then I gradually up the spending to what I would be willing to part with OTC. If I don't have her attention with that type of spending, then it's a good thing I've been playing the field and won't be starting completely from scratch with the next girl.
yes
> Not enough?
No, the other one
> Overthinking it?
What a philosophical question. I'll go with 'yes', but probably over analyzing it (excessive rational thought, ie., "big head thinking") vs. pursuing what you're actually after in the moment ("little-head" or at more advanced levels, intuitive "third-eye" type shit)
> Thoughts?
If you ever had a craving for spinach and then ate some, and felt amazing afterwards, maybe you were low on iron or magnesium. Once you have enough iron or magnesium, you won't get that same feeling from having more spinach. Having a CF is like that. If you get in the habit of over-investing in a CF because at one point, having one made you feel good, you could be missing out.
At a strategic level, I refrained from buying dances from a traveling dancer the other week because I was looking for a low-key chill partner type regular at the time. There are other times, though, where I have been traveling which has made it a now or never type scenario, and I wouldn't trade the memories for sticking to a requirement of having a CF for a month or two.
As far as vetting a fave, know what makes one a fave. Looks, personality, mileage, costs, dependability, ROI etc and see if her actions match your budget. But know that you don't get all the above unless your spending matches.
Personally I have a set budget, and value looks and personality at the expense of premium payment but lower frequency visits.
This only applies if she's a 23rd degree adherent of Hustle Hut. At lower levels, you can lock eyes from across the room and jizz in your pants right then and there.
> But know that you don't get all the above unless your spending matches.
This only applies if she's a 23rd degree adherent of Hustle Hut. At lower levels, you can lock eyes from across the room and jizz in your pants right then and there.
Strip-clubbing is a fairly expensive enterprise and if one has SCed for a certain amount of time one usually starts evaluating their investment and how to get the most out of it (especially if one has been on TUSCL and has learned the many different types of SC-experiences possible).
Getting the most out of one's SCing/investment is different things for different PLs - it's similar to different PLs being attracted to different types of dancers instead of one specific type - but for many it seems that just focusing on a particular fave is how they enjoy SCing the most and feel they are getting the most bang for their investment - there really isn't a right or wrong way to SC as long as one is enjoying-themselves/being-satisfied and not being ripped-off/severely-overpaying.
Anything one does repeatedly for a period of time one will usually refine to try to get better outcomes - for those that like favoritism the pros def outweigh cons; for those liking variety/some-variety then they'll likely choose differently and what works for them.
Depending on your money situation, if you have to be careful with finances, I can understand wanting to stick with the known commodity.
I recall once early-on in my PL-career that one night at an Arlington, TX black-club, I got dances w/ 3 different girls back-to-back round-robin style - all 3 were hanging w/ me - I would do one song w/ one; the next song w/ one of the other 2 girls, then the next-song w/ the 3rd-girl, then repeat - I did about 3-dances w/ each back-to-back round-robin style (total of 9-songs in a row @ $20/song) and at one point another dancer joined in towards the end but only did one song w/ her - I likes me variety the more girls the merrier is how I'm wired.
I just spent two nights in the Toronto area. I had an absolutely mind-blowing, off-the-charts girlfriend experience the first night at a high-end erotic massage place. I can't get this lovely lady out of my head, she was just phenomenal all-around (looks, personality, service). It was the best I've ever had and I know it'll never get better.
The second night, I was planning on hitting another massage place and/or a strip club or two. But I wasn't feeling it. I knew the experience couldn't compare to the night before. I stepped into a SC planning on getting a few dances (I'm not into extras), but my heart wasn't in it, and neither was my cock, so I left after one beer and no dances.
I thought about hitting a different massage place (my gal wasn't working that night, and even if she was I wouldn't have seen her two days in a row for fear of looking even pathetic than I am), but I figured I'd just be flushing my cash down the drain because the experience wouldn't compare. So I just went to Hooters for a couple of beers, checked up the T and A, and went back to my hotel and went to bed.
Once you've experience what you think is the best, it's hard to go back to the rest (for me anyway).
Unfortunately, Toronto is a four-hour drive for me, so I can't see this girl regularly. But I'm looking forward to my next visit, be it in a few months or next summer, but only if she's still working there.
@stripfighter - You are correct that I am a modest spender. However I generally haven't run into my budget being a problem in getting what I want. I tend to prefer girl next door types and strippers that are on the lazy end of the hustling spectrum. But even with higher demand dancers it still hasn't been an issue as I go to the club super early, I don't spend a long time there, and the club takes zero cut and has cheap fees.
But also that said I would say about every 3-6 months you should at least test the waters and scout out new potential faves. I have two other backups that I have just established as faves in the last two months. And even though neither is quite at the level of my ATF DS and her backup CF, both them are getting better and better with each visit and for sure could be long term faves.
Code word for 'someone' enjoyed Dallas so much, she's deciding to move there hmmmmmm??
yeah you're right, just a little teasing of nicespice to get her to move to the Big D... but in defense sometimes her fortune cookie accent makes it hard to understand what she's saying (again just teasing ya girl) :P
be careful, she'll tell you this
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or maybe this
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:)
Were it not for school, I wouldn’t mind moving to Dallas. I’ve always heard this city highest income potential for dancers in Texas. Maybe the odd ass scheduling rules do help out after all.
I agree with the advice above that having a few faves is best. Not only does it give you options when your fave isn't around, but keeps you from getting too wrapped around the axle over one girl.
Respectfully disagree with DC -- the girls can fake chemistry and connection, it's their job and they are *professionals* at it. I'm sure it's harder with a customer they dislike vs one they like, and there may be genuine connection sometime, but most assuredly, a good professional stripper makes every guy feel like he's got a connection with her. It isn't that she might not genuinely like you as a customer -- it's that I am not smart enough to tell which is which, unless she's giving it away for free. That's why I think it's so important to follow the code instead of your gut, she can fool your gut, but even if your gut is fooled, the "no, don't gift her $300 for whatever random bill she claims she can't pay" rule is not
At this point I just watch the stories and hope they stick around to tell how it ends. The last guy I remember on her talking about going on dates with his ATF disappeared after awhile. Think his name was Titus23 or something like that. I always wondered what happened with that relationship of his.
My friend told me he just came back from Vegas and while out there he lucked out and sat at a crap table with Raiders owner Mark Davis. He said no one even recognized who he was, but he was with a drop dead georgous young Asian chick who was just stroking his back the whole time. Have you seen what Mark Davis looks like? He could be a fucking stand in for Lloyd's father in the movie Dumb and Dumber. Shitty bowl cut and all. Yet here he is with this hot piece of young ass. So fuck your 'I'm 29 and workout shit'. It's about money, plain and simple!
Craps table is a good place to be if you're rich and want the hotties to come to you :)
At the least, I can fly to TJ and act like a big shot for a couple days lol.
@TFP
I feel like you guys are indirectly talking about me :D
That's right I'm in love with my ATF and it's real!!! (It'll probably end in flames and failure. Just let me have my fantasy fun! It'll be tomorrow's problem! )
I know the Tuscl line is to prefer faves but having tried that I find that juice isn't worth the squeeze. I'm not trying to tell you aren't having fun wrong. From my POV, they all work for tips and are largely interchangeable with one another on any given night.