Another first for me.

If she's giving you a handy and letting you rub her clit in a regular LD, then she's definitely at the tipping point from a boundaries perspective. Maybe she's reluctant to do VIP because she doesn't want anyone (someone she knows ITC, other dancers and/or customers, etc) to develop certain opinions of her? Maybe she doesn't want to have sex where others can watch her?

Idk, if you can't entice her into VIP for whatever reason, maybe you could entice to do OTC. If her concerns are reputation or privacy based, a private venue might be just the ticket to push things over the goal line.

Oh, and yes, I've met a few girls that don't like guys going down on them. For some it is just not comfortable and they get more from penetration.

Good luck!

I would "assume" that she may honestly not like-it although receiving oral sex seems to be something most people enjoy (giving it is another thing) - but I wonder if perhaps she thinks there may be some risk associated w/ having someone's mouth she doesn't know be in contact w/ her private-area.

^ similar to PLs that are not comfortable receiving BBBJ but are ok w/ CBJ

"perhaps she thinks there may be some risk associated w/ having someone's mouth she doesn't know be in contact w/ her private-area."

Maybe you could offer to take out your dentures?

Maybe she just doesn’t enjoy being eaten out by random men at the club..? Like with kissing, that’s very personal and intimate to some girls even if they are ok with other sexual things.

Not even just men at the club but someone she isn’t dating. I’ve know girls who say they only feel comfortable doing that with a serious boyfriend and not a casual fuck buddy

"... Maybe you could offer to take out your dentures ..."

I already take off my back-brace so I can bend-over to eat her out - how much do I have to take off - my toupee also?

I’ve run into the same thing. What a given woman is good with and where they draw the line really varies. And the reasons vary too.

It could be something as simple as worrying about STDs or that purity ring..LOL

I have been with 2 women that didn't like receiving oral. At least one would suck dick all night long. I mean she fucking loved it.

I've encountered a few in hk.

I met a dancer from Peoria OTC while she was vacationing in San Antonio. She was happy with DFK and BBBJ but when I offered DATY she refused, insisting that it made her feel like a dog is licking around down there. I decided to not ask how’d she know that and went with the BBBJ. My own SO is not into DATY, which explains the major attraction to clubbing for me. Now I frequent a club where 3 different beautiful black dancers appreciate my love for eating pussy.

It seems like there are endless permutations of what specific activities different dancers will or won’t allow.

I'm yet to find one that allows BBAS at the bar

Flagooner, sounds like you’re going to the wrong bars. You might get better results st Follies.

All dancers have boundaries. Some more than others. You ran into a boundary.

When otherwise permissive dancers have laid out limits to me, the three most common (in no order) are: no kissing, no DATY, and no anal.

Sometimes, the motivation is intimacy (kissing) and sometimes it's disease risk (DATY).

It’s just one of that dancers limits/dislikes - that’s all. I wouldn’t read more into it. Since you were working her clit so nicely - just keep working that button until she cums hard.

if a women was giving me a handy and didnt want me to DATY id consider it a compliment. I have been getting the opposite unfortnately. Dancers cant wait to shove thier sweaty crotches in my face, but when it comes to BJ they want to play with it through my sweatpants SMH