So when hanging out with Dr Evil yesterday, we were conversing for almost two hours before I went to work. (Which is a damn long time for me.)
During that time, I also wasn’t able to act the normal way I do when speaking with a customer. I was completely honest about myself, both personality wise and also my personal background.
After he went off somewhere (Wish I could have said goodbye properly, by the way), I spent the rest of the night stacking dances. What people here call “stripper shit” was back up in full force with topics like my personal background, etc.
I normally can lie pathologically no problem, but hearing my own bullshit was weird when this was directly after hanging out with a TUSCLer.
I don’t say “stripper shit” to patrons offensively. It’s defensive, because if I don’t, then I get stuck with time wasters instead of actual customers.
Which led me to thinking about dancers in general.
Almost no dancer wants to be viewed as a civilian girl. That’s someone who is incompetent at their job.
Which leads to dancers saying SS stuff at each other as well.
During one part of the conversation with Dr Evil, I said that I didn’t really notice that much hatred with SW. He begged to differ. And then I thought about it and I realized I’m probably desensitized because I spend enough time in club dressing rooms.
In my experience, in strip club dressing rooms, it’s acceptable to loudly brag about being a ROB. But only in some clubs is it okay to admit to do extras. And the ones who do admit to it are quick to tell you how they always break a grand or several.
The bravado can be a bit much and I don’t really befriend other dancers at work. I might just be too much of a goofball, lol. The dancer friends I do have, I didn’t meet them at work.
That being said, I don’t view Stripperweb/dressing room talk as hateful. It’s insecurity. Everyone has dealt with boundary pushing customers, both physically and emotionally. The attitude is also more defensive than offensive, in my opinion.
On the surface, it seems like the kind of customer who would write a review being blunt about extras would be more likely to be a boundary pushing asshole.
I assumed that as well. But after spending more time on the discussion board, I suspect now that it’s actually the reverse. It’s out of respect for consent that I think the most PLs try to find an option that is welcoming for himself.
It’s also what I think will keep the dancer directory limited. I believe that most dancers feel uncomfortable being rated and face the possibility of being viewed as something other than how she view herself. Controlling the narrative and all.
I do have to say, it was a welcome break from monotony that I spoke candidly without SS yesterday. But I don’t think I could do that all the time, lol.
"In my experience, in strip club dressing rooms, it’s acceptable to loudly brag about being a ROB. But only in some clubs is it okay to admit to do extras. And the ones who do admit to it are quick to tell you how they always break a grand or several."
You've given me a new view on SS. You're saying SS is a stripper talking trash, maybe making up stuff or putting on a front to a customer to loosen his wallet. Like "you're so handsome" just so a guy will buy some dances, VIP, etc. To me that's just a standard part of the job, not SS.
To me (and I think many other PLs on here) SS is when you set an OTC date with a stripper and she flakes, or they miscount a song set, or they txt you to come see them at the club, then you txt them back and they never respond. That's true SS in my opinion.