Married Dancer - Comes on strong REALStrong

she sounds like fun!
i wouldn’t worry about her being married...
she probably would have a boyfriend or fuckbuddy anyway...

Cute

This is one of those stories that's so unbelievable that I hesitate to post it. But, there is a still-active (I think) married stripper in my area, who is an absolute legend of amazing service. If she were a football player, we'd be retiring her number when she left the business, and definitely hall-of-fame at her first eligibility. She is... I dunno the right words, "drunk with power", maybe? ... about her high demand, she basically comes out and chooses who she'll dance with next. The forums are full of stories, "I'd seen her for a year, she asked me for a dance, I wasn't ready yet so said 'no', and then she blacklisted me and refused to dance for me." PLs either dance for her when she comes over, or she doesn't dance for them again. Unbelievable, right? Can be confirmed on any SF-centric stripper forum, the PLs will all know her name and where she works.

Anyway! it sounds like you're having an amazing time. There's no real problem here, except the one in your head. She doesn't have a problem, her husband doesn't have a problem -- very likely, if she's so open that you're openly texting, it's an open marriage, exactly the same as with the stripper above, where "marriage" doesn't remotely mean to them what it apparently means to you. Given that any "problem" here is 100% in your head, and not anything external, I think you just gotta do you. If you can get past it, sounds like you'll have an amazing time. If you can't, you get to go back to whatever the other strippers have to offer.

Nothing wrong with married dancers. They know the score. What is worse is dancers that just get new boy friends and think that they are in love. Now they don't want to do what they used to do to honor their new boy friend.

I'm guessing he knows what she's doing. My ATF's SO did.

Lots of people are in open marriages or are swingers. What you have probably come across, assuming this is a real story, which I believe, is lifestyle couple. I’d be willing to bet her husband gets excited hearing about her adventures at work which turns him on even more.

I’ve seen couples like this time and time again. You need to do your part to keep their marriage exciting and take this as far as you can and go with it. This is THEIR fetish and she wants you to support it.

I knew a stripper for about a year in a large city who was up for anything both ITC and OTC. About mid-way through that year she got married, but that changed nothing regarding her ITC activities. The guy she married did not seem quite like a total loser, at least he had a steady job. But he was a loser at marriage. This was his third marriage to a stripper, and each was much younger than he. In this case he was 30 years older than the girl I knew. Given his record I didn’t have any qualms about doing what I was doing with the stripper because I had little faith that this third marriage would last either. Btw, she told me he was well aware of what she did in the club. His only requirement was that she didn’t do it “too often.”

SC...but there always exceptions to that BF phenomenon too.

Cute for sure. Keep your fingers and tungue inside her at all times and enjoy the ride

^^^ you should cum work for me

Its like being with a porn star, its just their job

Just ask her not to talk about her husband as it ruins the fantasy. Problem solved.

I stopped paying attention to whether or not strippers have boyfriends, girlfriends, fiances, husbands or wives long ago. If she says "yes" to what I want, I don't really care who else there might be. It's her issue to deal with. If it ever *becomes* my issue, I'll deal with it. I've only had that happen twice, and both of them worked out in my favor.

My ATF is married, and so is the MILF. The ATF's husband is benignly tolerant, and the MILF's doesn't know (as far as I know). Two of the girls I currently see ITC are married, and it hasn't been an issue. A couple others have live-in boyfriends who, if their facebook is to be believed, aren't douchebags or losers. Quite the opposite. Hasn't spoiled any "fantasy" for me.

I had a married fave once and not coincidentally she was one of the only strippers that I talked more about my wife to. Personally it's a non-issue for me but I don't ever want to know or see a dancer's SO (male or female or married or not) the club. I want the fantasy that I'm her sexual "SO" while I'm in the club and so I don't want her real SO there to kill my mood and fantasy.

If a stripper doesn't have a husband she has a boyfriend. If she's willing to suck and fuck, who am I to object?

I prefer married. A wedding band is hot and if she goes on a bit about her husband hotter.

Sounds like you're starting to develop some feelings for her, because otherwise I don't understand why talk about her husband would bother you. I could be wrong, but that's the vibe I'm picking up from your complaint and from your description of the escalating interactions.

Contrary to what others are saying, I believe that you should cut this one loose. While I definitely agree with others who say that this girl could be a lot of fun, I'm not sure that your head is in the right place to enjoy her without added complications.

Interesting point rickduggan. I don’t have those feelings so it’s more disappointed and caution. Frankly I have seen several dancers OTC and I scatter myself to several clubs around the US. This one would be high on my list for OTC but that is my disappointment probably. Usually my faves have a relationship going on (even if they don’t tell me it would be odd if they do not). They usually discuss them openly and I am cool with that. This dancer seems to have a great relationship with her husband and she is proud of it - so she talks about him more. It’s different than I have experienced - I am very experienced btw

If you're having fun and she's having fun then why stop? Enjoy it while it lasts.

Interesting that many SO of strippers believe she comes home with $300/$500 on average after tip out by doing floor dances. Just like we all believe she doesn't do this with everyone !!!

One of my 3 CFs has a hubby that knows she meets me (and others) and just asks her to be honest about what we do !!! So she will call him occasionally and describe what I am doing to her in vivid detail. When her mouth is full, zi have to describe when she is chin to the balls, slobbering on the balls or swallowing the load !!!
She even sent him close ups of me in her mouth, kitty and rear at times. Different strokes for everyone I guess.

Fair enough Drum, but that raises other questions. You've been molesting her ITC and texting her a lot, but you've never broached OTC? Is it the husband talk that's holding you back? If so, do you think you might be doing this by design to keep you at bay?

Do I think you should confront her? No. Guys who complain about shit like that look over-emotional and jealous. But I do think that you need to push the OTC angle now and, if she refuses, then shit can her. If talking about her husband is indeed a ploy to hold you off, you'll certainly know it then.

Seriously now, what's the point in burning time texting with a chick who you don't have an attachment to and who isn't fucking you? After all, you really don't have feeling for her, right? ;)

@Subraman - damn that's happened to me in Austin - banned by a dancer! So it won't be the same SF dancer you mention. But seems it's more common than we think.
Don't want to threadjack this post - will start a separate post sometime later.

I attempt to not learn too much about strippers lives. This is one of the reasons why.

I’ve fucked married strippers before. It wasn’t a problem for me at all. The basic conversation only provided the dancers marital status - nothing more. I doubt there would be anything that would cause me to not be comfortable - but I’d rather not ask too many questions (and possibly find a trigger that decreases my desire or performance).

To the OP - I’d say it’s best to find another girl. The marriage thing has gotten in your head - and it’s not an issue for her. It’s an issue for you.

My bet based on rickdugan’s response: she’s rickdugan’s wife.

The brilliant way to proceed: do to rickdugan’s wife whatever rickdugan would do to a random heroin addict!

I’d normally say “no disrespect this is just for a laugh” and that would normally be true but rickdugan claims he’s ignoring me. So no harm no foul!

(Or “no fowl” as juicebox69 would rite)