FIRST SA DATE!...
Call.Me.Ishmael
Rhode Island
... was a total bust.
We met at a small bar. The problem wasn't that she was extremely dishonest about any one particular part of her profile. Rather, she was a little dishonest about *every single* part of her entire profile. By compilation of small/moderate lies (or delusions), she ultimately wasn't someone that I wanted to touch, or to touch me.
After the first drink, I told her that it wasn't going to work out. She was both extremely irritated and confused, and wanted to know why. I calmly told her (a) that she wasn't what I expected (true), and (b) that this sort of thing (SA) really wasn't for me (not true). I didn't want our rapid "break up" to turn into a loud spectacle, so I wanted to put some of the blame on myself and not make it all about her.
The other issue was that she had driven a fairly long distance through crap traffic to get to me. I offered to give her gas money plus some WA (walking away) money. $80 total. She wasn't happy with it, but I avoided a meltdown in a public place.
After that, I found a decent restaurant and had a good meal + beer.
I may give SA another shot, but I definitely need to refine my filters. That wasn't fun at all.
We met at a small bar. The problem wasn't that she was extremely dishonest about any one particular part of her profile. Rather, she was a little dishonest about *every single* part of her entire profile. By compilation of small/moderate lies (or delusions), she ultimately wasn't someone that I wanted to touch, or to touch me.
After the first drink, I told her that it wasn't going to work out. She was both extremely irritated and confused, and wanted to know why. I calmly told her (a) that she wasn't what I expected (true), and (b) that this sort of thing (SA) really wasn't for me (not true). I didn't want our rapid "break up" to turn into a loud spectacle, so I wanted to put some of the blame on myself and not make it all about her.
The other issue was that she had driven a fairly long distance through crap traffic to get to me. I offered to give her gas money plus some WA (walking away) money. $80 total. She wasn't happy with it, but I avoided a meltdown in a public place.
After that, I found a decent restaurant and had a good meal + beer.
I may give SA another shot, but I definitely need to refine my filters. That wasn't fun at all.
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That said, she made herself out to be someone who was perfectly willing to make me happy, but *also* wanted to hang out, talk, and socialize. She REALLY didn't, and what I think she actually was is a refugee BP girl trying to steer clear of SA's not wanting her doing business on their site.
Also, she claimed to be a college student, but when I asked what she was studying she looked like a deer caught in the headlights. She also reeked of cigarettes, yet her profile said she was a non-smoker.
Also, when we met:
SA GIRL: "I've been looking forward to this all day, Jeff."
ISHMAEL: "I'm not Jeff."
SA GIRL: "Oh God! Joe!"
ISHMAEL: "Nope."
SA GIRL: "It starts with a 'J', right?"
ISHMAEL: "No..."
SA GIRL: [biting lip] "Whoopsies."
Which was fine. I already knew that I was going to use the escape hatch on this one.
The worst is when she says she has no kids on her SA profile. Then when you are in the hotel room peeling each other's clothes off, you find out she was lying about the whole kid thing. Yuck.
ISHMAEL I'm not one for a lot of back and forth before I meet someone but I do ask some basic questions to weed out the pros and the scammers. If I get one or two word answers or a press right off the bat about money I simply excuse myself and move on.
I'm meeting my regular SA ( been seeing her whenever I am in one part of the country since January.) tonight and possibly Friday before I leave the area.
There are good ones out there--she's a grad student which for me at least is the right age and the right reason for her to be on SA.
I’m 50% positive with mine so far. Although this one hit 18 year old I’ve banged a few times tells me she hates sucking dick and charged her last arrangement extra to do it. She’s gonna be on the back burner from now on with that attitude
I’m actually waiting to meet another right now! :)
I’m juggling texts with about 8 or so. One wants to fly in to meet and wouldn’t let me get her a ticket, wants to pay for it herself. Refreshing.
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But instantly texted me after and wants to meet up again.
She told me some stories of the other guys she's met on SA. Some weirdos out there! LOL! You know who you are! :D
I laughed. Then I remembered doing something similar about 30 years ago after meeting a gal through some telephone hook-up line. I went to her apartment to pick her up for a night out. She was dressed up and ready to. I didn't like what I saw. I told her I parked far away and would pull up the car. I didn't return. I was young and selfish and had absolutely no conscience. No way I could pull that kind of stunt now and not feel guilty as fuck.
This is a strip club website, right? I guess you’ve helped make our point.
Over the years a lot of what I do depends on my mood and where I am located at the time. Stripclubs for me are more of a spontaneous decision---I'm not doing anything so I'll go to the club. SA, at least for me, is a more planned out undertaking.
There must be quite a few backpage girls struggling to find places to advertise. SA might be a natural spot for some. However, it seems that it’s not a fit for this girl. Remembering names is important in the SA world. For a backpage whore - names aren’t as important.
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^^ This is the best description I've seen. SA reaches the demographic I'm looking for, but it can take several weeks to find the right match.