The Appeal of Stripclubs

Strippers have people skills out the wazoo, and are extremely good at making an average schlub wandering in feel like he's the President or something. In short, being in a strip club makes a man feel important in the ways he wants to feel important and rarely does.

That's actually the main draw, and then on top of it the strippers are hot, and at least appear sexually available in the way even wives and girlfriends often are not. Usually seeing some titties in real life requires a bunch of back and forth that is more like a job interview than fun, even if you're the kind of guy who aces both interviews and first dates.

Much like nekkid pictures online, there is the luxury of choice, something most men are often denied. If one club's women aren't up to your standards, simply go elsewhere, and get what pleases you.

Unlike online porn, though, strippers are real people in the present, affecting all five senses, not just the one or two that porn relies on. So their appeal is just that much more powerful.

The typical strip club experience is of a man sitting comfortably at a booth, sipping a drink at his leisure, pretending like it's no big deal while a woman hotter than most displays herself for him and he can watch as much as he wants (usually looking at women he desires is treated as a sort of crime), or, perhaps the even greater luxury, he can blithely ignore her. Like a sultan would.

Then, when he does, the stripper in all her professionalism drifts his way and gives him her attention without him doing much to earn it, and as I said the typical stripper doesn't just show her goodies, she is an expert at exuding idealized femininity and making men feel important. For an actually important and powerful man this may be how most people approach him, but for the guy at the bottom of the ladder this is a desperately addicting experience. Nowhere else in his life does he get to feel anything like this.

Then it's back home to his wife, and feeling mundane, feeling unimportant, even back to having his sexual needs unmet, which is an unexpected but super common experience in marriage. Back to arguing with the girlfriend and feeling inadequate for some reason or another. Or back home alone, to feel altogether unvalued by women.

Some men hope to date and have sex with the strippers, but most have few illusions about it. It's that rare feeling of being important to sexually attractive women that draws them back, again and again. For most men the titty bar is the only place they ever get to experience that, but it's something they start yearning for as soon as they enter puberty, or even earlier.


by /u/AttackPug
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