dancers demanding tips
galiziabob.sabbatical
Arizona
Ok so I am still learning. Trying to read and contribute to this site as much as I can. How do you guys handle girls stating how much I owe plus mandatory tip of 20% let's say. Or mandatory $10 etc. Got a dance from Naomi from BSC Phoenix. 5 dances. Cute smaller blonde girl, tight little body and very sexy to me. She demanded when I was done that I work her $125, not the $100 for the 5 dances then a tip if I so choose. I am the type of guy that likes to tip if it's genuine, and if they do good. I tip my CF anywhere from $5 to $20 or more most times because she is nice, humble, knows what I want and she knows that I will continue to bring my business to her. When girls demand I give a tip, it makes me not want to ever get a dance from them again. Am I wrong here? Any tips appreciated.
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It is really (really) poor form to 1) ask for a tip and also 2) not tip for above and beyond service.
25 - I am afraid of girls in their underwear. Can you help ?
If a dancer tells me what to tip - that will piss me off. It’s not her choice - because it’s not her money. Dancers get too comfortable demanding money from customers - and telling a customer what to tip is an easy mistake.
I’ll listen and then I’ll decide what the dancer deserves. If she goes above and beyond - then she gets a nice tip. If she isn’t good - her tip will be significantly lower.
In the past it seems the rule-of-thumb on TUSCL is that if she asks for a tip then she does not get-one (especially if she did not go above and beyond).
Too many guys are just plain intimidated by these girls I really don’t understand it myself.
Select the girl you want and approach her yourself. Start feeding her money and turn on some charm and let a front room makeout session ensue. Then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room.
Then take her home with you and continue to see her regularly.
If you do things this way, you will not have need for visiting strip clubs very often.
You shouldn't take the way things are offered in strip clubs at face value. They are fine tuned well oiled machines for separating marks from their money.
SJG
Glenn Gould
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZF2kE3c…
Dancer: Don't I get a tip?
Me: You might have, until you asked for one.
The issue I've had is girls asking money for their time when I pass on a dance. But it's easy enough to say no.
Tip or no tip? That's up to you. If they don't ask for it, great. But they will start to expect it. If they do ask for it, you decide. I take every dance (if it's a new girl) on a case by case basis. "How do you guys handle girls stating how much I owe plus mandatory tip of 20% let's say. Or mandatory $10 etc." -> I could give a shit what a dancer's standard tip rate is, but I don't. She's not a fucking waitress, she's a stripper.
"I tip my CF anywhere from $5 to $20 or more most times because she is nice, humble, knows what I want and she knows that I will continue to bring my business to her." -> Good for you. You like what she's dishing up, and she likes getting a tip. Win-win. Now...if "Naomi" heard from your "ATF" that you're a good tipper, and the usual tip is 20%+ when you get dances, is her asking for a tip her problem or yours? Is your ATF and CF the same person? If not, you might want to reconsider who's who.
Your interactions with the talent don't happen in a vacuum. Coworkers gossip. Sometimes about customers. And whether or not you're spending more money in front of the jilted stripper is probably only important to you. You making it known that you're intentionally trying to rankle a stripper because she insulted you (by acting like a stripper) only makes you look petty and vindictive. If the dancers notice, the best result is they don't care and think you're an idiot. Otherwise that's the path to making drama where you didn't need drama. Strippers make plenty of drama all on their own.
"When girls demand I give a tip, it makes me not want to ever get a dance from them again. Am I wrong here? Any tips appreciated." No, you're not wrong. If you're going to be a regular somewhere, the best thing you can do to help yourself is make it clear what your boundaries are and to be consistent with the dancers. Word will get around. For new clubs, just go with the flow.
I was at a club the other day and a dancer I'd just wrapped up a VIP with decided to tell me her asking price for how things went was usually double what she'd quoted me before the session. She'd said the rate she gave me was the starting rate, and since I was listening I did remember her saying that. But, if you go in with a price and no upsell gets discussed the entire time then it's a gray area. If I draw a hard line, I can just say here's what we agreed on and for her to piss off. That probably would have worked, since she'd basically already said she'd take the rate she quoted. However, she'd also delivered the most intense VIP experience I've had in a while for a rate that was almost silly for how hot she was. So I split the difference and we both walked away content.
It's rare I meet a dancer I'd go out of my way to see again. If I meet one, am I going to scrap a possible repeat because I have a rule that's more important than leaving things on good terms with a 9 or a 10 I'd like to visit with again?
I knew she had gotten into some rough stuff - when she brought up money. She asked for a tip once - and I tipped her $100. I saw her several times after that - and she never asked again.
She then stopped stripping - and started escorting. I stopped seeing her shortly after. I was pretty sure she was hitting drugs at that point - and it was a sad decline.
With the fave I always tip and tip generously. I generally dislike it when anyone asks for tips, but when she first asked, she did it such a playful way, I happily obliged.