Stripper Mode

2/25/2018 6:27:19 AM

Hey everyone. I just wanted to share a story. It really got me thinking about if my stripper persona is really left in the club. Here's how yesterday afternoon went.
I don't have a car so I use Uber everywhere I go for the most part. Is it expensive? Hell yes. Anyway, so I call my Lyft and wait outside for it to show up. It was kind of the pretty with the sun out (I live in Dallas) so I was looking pretty good. I get into my Lyft and I see an older white gentlemen. I don't know if I did it unconsciously but after I thought about our encounter, I can say with absolute certainty that I went into "Stripper Mode". Stripper mode is my alternative personality. Inside the club, I take on a new identity. I am way more talkative, flirty, and playful and I really just think about selling SS. On any typical day, I sit in the back seat and I am just on my phone. Not today! I sat in the front seat and I was immediately all smiles and questions.
It was around 3PM and when he asked how my day was going, I responded with "My day is just getting started". He then looks at me, smiles, and asks me where I work. Without batting an eyelash, I told him and we started to talk about the industry, my experience so far, and his experiences. I kept dropping small flirty statements to try to get him to come to my club. I kept him laughing and smiling for the entire time. We got to my destination and I gave him my Google Voice number (everybody should have one by now) to set up a time for him to come in and see me.
Here comes the point: Before I started stripping, I vowed that I would keep my civie life separate from dancing. I don't know if both worlds are starting to mix or if the dancer in me saw an opportunity too good to miss. Either way, I have yet to figure out if I should be ashamed or proud. My hustle is becoming better but is it starting to change the real me?

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Mate27

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7 years ago

Pandora’s box

Warrenboy75

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7 years ago

From every girl I have met in the business eventually they do mix and you will change.......the longer you stay in the business the more you will change.

It is neither something you need to be ashamed of or proud but it is something to ponder.

I've dated two girls who are strippers--and by date I mean no money exchanged hands to spend time with either---both changed the longer they stayed....the catch is of course the money is so good as is attention you receive from guys.......but your friends will change---as another current topic being discussed on here now---you may even start dating within the club since at first in some ways it's easier to deal with guys who know .........your world changes and your view of men does as well.

Call.Me.Ishmael

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7 years ago

Your job, no matter what it is, changes you. People who say otherwise are deluding themselves.

The question is whether or not you are okay with that.

twentyfive

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7 years ago

Every thing that you do changes you sometimes for the better some times for the worse. It’s your call many strippers make bad decisions, some don’t.

Bj99

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7 years ago

When you are doing it longer, the stripper mode won’t be as exaggerated, or such a rush, and you will feel more yourself at work. When you do have to really turn in on, it will come more naturally, and it will be easier to turn off too. It reminds me of when I first was out of basic training. I felt so different, and put of place off base. I was calling everyone ma’am and sir, ask where the “latrine,” was. Shortly after being at permanent duty, it fades.

Do keep an eye on how your job changes you. It can help you to sorta separate yourself from your looks, so that you have more confidence as a person, but still have pride in your body. Never hate on other girls, and continue to educate yourself, and to have interests beyond yourself. Make sure your job is contributing to being someone you like. This stuff will help ensure that the negatives of the job don’t take over.

flagooner

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7 years ago

You might want to consider getting a pimp for protection.

DeclineToState

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7 years ago

Wow good responses you’re getting here Amelia, I suspect more good ones incoming. I got nothing better than what’s already said

DeclineToState

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7 years ago

I wrote that before flag said get a pimp!

Papi_Chulo

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7 years ago

A stripper is a salesperson and good salespeople try to maximize their opportunities.

One's job will have an affect but one should not allow it to negatively change you as a person - the important thing is to stay centered and keep one's priorities in place - both dancers and custies can get too caught up in the SC-lifestyle where it becomes the main-thing instead of a means to an end.

sinclair

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7 years ago

Lyft drivers do not make a whole lot after gasoline, car maintenance, car depreciation, app fees, etc. You are soliciting a broke guy to come see you. Rideshare is a job people do to get by and pay bills, not become rich.

flagooner

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7 years ago

@Decline
Do you want to update your comment to say that the responses are great and not just good now that you have read mine?

DeclineToState

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7 years ago

Humor is all good. Lots of laughs to be had in this joint

DeclineToState

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7 years ago

Oh I mean humor is all great

Huntsman

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7 years ago

I would think a lot of how you do will come down to the self esteem you have now and how important your non-stripper life and goals are. If you can stay centered, you’ll be fine. If you’re kind of blowing in the wind in life, it might be a tough job to maintain because then the money will make your decisions for you.

Any job changes a person. How much it changes a person depends on how grounded they are in the first place.

flagooner

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7 years ago

^ +1

Papi_Chulo

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7 years ago

^ - 1

orionsmith

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7 years ago

Uber driver could be anyone trying to make some cash. I have wondered how much money someone could make driving for uber. I wondered if I could visit a strip club and pick up a ride going back and forth, one hour both ways. However I bet uber may restrict alcohol consumption and I like to drink a little bit and stop and pick up a snack at a fast food place.

Bj99

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7 years ago

I honestly keep my home location private. A sexual single woman should be a bit paranoid ab some things. I am also very careful ab what customers I trust to give me rides. And always follow your spidey senses. I will normally give customers my phone number, but there’s been times when it just didn’t feel right, and I didn’t. You have to realize that you are making yourself more vulnerable and your sexuality will come across when you don’t mean for it to. I think it’s best not to flirt w Uber drivers. Just as I advise the guys here to always pay for sex, if they are married, to keep relationships from getting complicated, I think we need to separate our personal affairs for the sake of safety, even if it costs us a little money.

flagooner

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7 years ago

Being careful isn't being paranoid, especially in this industry.

SirLapdancealot

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7 years ago

Are you changing from who you were or are you becoming more of who you really are?

JohnSmith69

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7 years ago

A stripper should never let a guy know her personal identity unless she's knows enough about the guy to trust him. I know several strippers who have gotten into serious trouble by violating this rule. You told some random uber driver about your job and he has access to your personal information. You need to be much more careful.

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

Stripper mode works inside of strip clubs, because strip clubs are very artificial and controlled environments. A girl can come on to one guy, flirt with him, play with him, and then ditch him and try the same with someone else with zero fear of repercussions. Strip clubs could not exist if those were not the rules. But the outside world is usually not that way.

SJG

georgmicrodong

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7 years ago

Amelia, did you, in fact, have him pick you up at your house? On the surface, that seems ill advised, however, I know several dancers who have taxis pick them up at their house, so maybe I’m just overly sensitive.

Papi_Chulo

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7 years ago

On average not a good idea for anyone to be able to link your stripper-life and personal-life - but it's not a HUGE RISK - it's not as if 50% of the guys you meet will stalk you if given the chance - but since it *can* happen, best to try to avoid it even if it's a small percentage chance it can happen.

Analogous to strippers knowing a PL's real-identity - sure she can use it to extort you but how often does one hear about that?

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

AmeliaSmith, tell me if this is right. The big expanse in the number of dancers seeing customers outside, and in the ITC club mileage seems to have occurred in the 90's, and I think it is because of cell phones.

As I see it, before that women were very guarded about giving out telephone numbers. But with cell phones, being able to change a number easier, caller id, and being able to block calls, they started giving them out very freely.

So where as it used to be that strip clubs were an ITC only experience, now, once a guy has the girl's phone number, she is potentially his escort. And even if there are lines she does not want to cross, eventually she will yield because guys she would go out with anyway, are asking her politely to do P4P.

So then, once she becomes accustomed to that, she will see that the way to rake in the most money is just high velocity ITC. In these places people refer to as 'off the hook', a girl can just go after guys one after another, and rake the money in so much faster than she ever could via OTC.

But to think, that these basic changes in gender relations have come about because of a communications technology.

What to you think.

SJG

twentyfive

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7 years ago

@SJG how in the hell would she answer your questions she has posted that she is 19 years old, stop asking stupid interrogating questions that you won’t answer, and she can’t possibly answer.

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

25, Hang in there, relief is on the way:
https://www.target.com/p/boudreaux-s-pas…

SJG

Schoenberg: Verklärte Nacht, Op.4 - Boulez.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-pVz2LT…

twentyfive

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7 years ago

^^^Hey dope tell me how in the hell a 19 year old is going to answer questions about the 90s she was born in 98 or 99 WTF ?

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

Don't under estimate how smart some women can be.

SJG

Glenn Gould plays Alban Berg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNk_A4Zo…

Do not like this neoliberal Sam Liccardo. More people leaving Silicon Valley than coming.
http://www.santacruzsentinel.com/article…

twentyfive

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7 years ago

Has nothing to do with how smart she is, how in the hell could she know what life was like before cell phones. She’s grown up with them being present constantly, come on man can you even agree to a simple fact, what the fuck is wrong with you?

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

I know huge amounts about how things were before my time. Not all, but lots of young women are even smarter.

SJG

twentyfive

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7 years ago

I see, you can describe what life was like in the first person, you are just being argumentative for the sake of being a dick.

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

25, none of us live in a vacuum, we grow up with older people, and we have books and film. And often we are able to extrapolate from things we saw when we were very young. And we can also glean much from talking with elderly people who often are still living in past times.

SJG

twentyfive

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7 years ago

Whatever to you too, arguing with idiots is making me loose the few brain cells I have left.

san_jose_guy

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7 years ago

Yes, I can see that.

SJG

Glenn Gould
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZF2kE3c…

flagooner

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7 years ago

LOL, 25 is in one of those moods.