Sex addiction
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So I've been seeing a psychotherapist for awhile now - lots of issues about my wife's chronic dementia/putting her in a nursing home, spending a few hundred thousand on my ATF, guilt issues, etc.
He's an older guy who is very sharp; does lots of corporate workshops; has a small private practice, and we relate well. He says I've got a sex addiction and recommends that I find a sex addiction group to go through a 12 step process like AA or NA. My first thought was to make sure it's co-ed ( happy hunting grounds?) but quickly realize that'd be self defeating.
Has anyone ever known of such a group or been to one? Or even known someone who has?
He's an older guy who is very sharp; does lots of corporate workshops; has a small private practice, and we relate well. He says I've got a sex addiction and recommends that I find a sex addiction group to go through a 12 step process like AA or NA. My first thought was to make sure it's co-ed ( happy hunting grounds?) but quickly realize that'd be self defeating.
Has anyone ever known of such a group or been to one? Or even known someone who has?
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It’s probably a good idea. If you think you can open up and deal with the 12 step process. If it doesn’t work - you don’t need to continue going.
However, i was thinking about your comments and remembering the film Fight Club - as Edward Norton hooked up with a girl he met at addiction groups.
https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=1094…
"Hi, my name is Deuce and I'm addicted to strip clubs and OTC dates with strippers."
I look at it a different way: It's one of the few things we're hard-wired to do, along with eating, sleeping, using the bathroom and protecting ourselves (roof over our head, clothing, etc.). You say I'm addicted; I say I'm just more in touch with what's important in life and makes me feel good. I think it's the people that aren't addicted to sex, that come up with whatever excuse they can think of to avoid it from religion to monogamy to whatever, that are missing out. Take that, Doc.
(Of course, if you're spending beyond your means such that you can't do the other hard-wired things, yes, you have a problem. But if you've got those other things set ... eh, I think you're good.)
Sex is not a disease, sexuality is a healthy, integral and important part of people's lives. Treating sex as dangerous, unhealthy and destructive stigmatizes many people. The label of sex addiction gives false excuses for the selfish, narcissistic and destructive acts that some, leaders and celebrities engage in, and distracts from the real issues involved in their choices.
Like most TUSCL members have acknowledge; they will consider the time and money spent on a DS and an ATF as a good deal.
The best portion of your life will be the time you spend with someone who matters to you.
2009? That was nine years ago, you old fool! Go take a nap.
That said, I can't put gawker on ignore. He is the #1 source of crazy stories on TUSCL. You could sell stat stuff as a novel!
My shrink has no gripe with healthy sex or even some not so healthy fucking around, but when it interferes with other things one should be doing.... it's just a piece of me doesn't want to be told what I SHOULD do. I dated a 41 year old civilian last weekend. We hadn't seen each other in 24 years and texted a lot beforehand. She even snuck in a text that she has Herpes which told me that she was ripe for the picking.
Now in a strip club she'd be a 5 or 6. Her face could pass for 30 easily. But I'm spoiled when I've been banging a 9+ for 8 or 9 years, even if it's been crazy shit. I don't know
I tried to stop external sources - cut off accessing web sites - and otc - and it just doesn’t work over a few months.
In my view, I haven’t found the desire to stop. I’m not sure if I will either.
Gawker, if you want to continue, I’m not sure if you are ready yet. You might be thinking that logically it’s a good thing to deal with it. But if you aren’t fully ready to stop - maybe it’s not time?
I am addicted to sex. I’m also addicted to breathing, food, water and shelter. They’re all requirements for a long, healthy life.
IMO a guy not having his sexual needs met will probably be in a worse spot emotionally and probably physically.
It seems you may be overdoing it for some reason and perhaps due to what you're going-thru you're perhaps self-medicating as a way to deal with your current-circumstances.
Of course I love clubbing. But I'm also involved with a new business and spending money on startup costs right now. More Internet videos and fewer club trips for me right now. Every once in a while, I do need a fix. But I feel like I can keep it under control. As long as I can do that, I don't feel too bad.
Sorry about the situation with your wife but that does not mean that you should refrain from fulfilling your basic human needs.
What is a man, if you take away all of his vices? I would never advocate that!
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The ease w/ which many P4Pers can get sex can lead to things getting thrown off kilter where the P4Ping can become a priority over other important things in life - and it seems often times the more one does it the less effect it has and one thinks they need to increase it where it may actually be better to cut-back
In situations like this, cutting out the SCing usually doesn't accomplish much beyond saving a few-bucks but probably leave-one feeling kinda miserable since the original reason for the over-SCing is still there but now not at-least being medicated via SCing