OTC at a dancer's place?
grand1511
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It's becoming more and more obvious that my go-to club in Minneapolis is in a tailspin that's looking pretty hard to pull out of. Visiting on dayshift to see my CF for at least the past few years I've often been the only customer in the club at happy hour time on Fridays when I'd assume should be a busier time. On top of that, my CF is transitioning into non-sex career work and often is only at the club one day a week. Our encounters have all been ITC going right up to, but not crossing, the extras line. But as I told her today, our time together has been as or more intense than the best actual sex I've ever had.
The past few visits I've mentioned that I don't want to have her slip away without being able to say goodbye and thank her for some amazing times together, figuring sooner or later she'll retire to more mainstream work. I've seen it happen many times before.
Today after our VIP time together, she asked if I'd like her number. She's thinking of seeing a limited number of her most trusted customers at her home, especially if the club closes. Going to work at bigger, more popular clubs is not an option, she said, because some of her mainstream co-workers frequent those places.
Walking out the door I was pretty ecstatic about this new possibility. But upon further review it seems wise to tap into the collective wisdom here to see what I should be wary of if this indeed happens and I end up going for lap dances-plus at her place. Thoughts?
The past few visits I've mentioned that I don't want to have her slip away without being able to say goodbye and thank her for some amazing times together, figuring sooner or later she'll retire to more mainstream work. I've seen it happen many times before.
Today after our VIP time together, she asked if I'd like her number. She's thinking of seeing a limited number of her most trusted customers at her home, especially if the club closes. Going to work at bigger, more popular clubs is not an option, she said, because some of her mainstream co-workers frequent those places.
Walking out the door I was pretty ecstatic about this new possibility. But upon further review it seems wise to tap into the collective wisdom here to see what I should be wary of if this indeed happens and I end up going for lap dances-plus at her place. Thoughts?
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A smart man knows to follow the rule. A wise man knows when to break it. If you've been seeing her for **years**, and there's absolutely no warning signs that are nagging at you even a little bit, that you're not telling us about ... sure, I'd consider it.
On the other other hand, if you counter-offered "let me take you to dinner and then I'll get a hotel room" (or alternatively, if she's worried about discretion, "I'll get a hotel room and we'll order room service and drinks") would she turn that down and insist you go to her house? If so, why?
I think the weirdest thing about this story is: you've known her for years, and never had her number??? And never suggested OTC before? We might have to invite you to Tuscl Institute so our crack team of scientists can dissect your brain :)
A. Waiting in the line that stretches around the block.
I guess I should of closed my eyes
When you drove me to the place
Where your horses run free
'Cause I felt a little ill
When I saw all the pictures
Of the jockeys that were there before me
Personally I would skip the first step and just find a nice new stripper, and new strip club based on your description. It's cheaper that way.
As to the OTC, like others have said I prefer hotels for all my otc activities, but if it's a girl that I have seen and trusted for a while I have gone to her place. The one thing that I won't do is bring her to my place. I have never found a stripper that I trust that much.
Aside from the above I wonder what has your spending been on her?
But to answer the question I'd go over to her place if there haven't been any red flags raised since y'all have been seeing each other at the club. As others have mentioned, the alternative, neutral location would be some public activities and a nice hotel afterward. If she were to turn that down I'd be suspicious.
I've been to two dancers place for otc. However, our first few OTCs were at a hotel. One was in the wee hours of the morning, like 6 am when the sun was coming up so I wasn't too worried. Another because no hotels were available due to a big college event going on. I was skeptical, but everything turned out to be okay.
I asked how dangerous OTC at her place is a while back. Here's a link. Not one single TUSCLer offered a personnel story that gives me pause. There were some what-if's and I-saw-on-tv's but no first hand accounts.
https://www.tuscl.net/?page=post&id=4989…
If you have a great relationship with, go for it at her place. Sounds like you have a good relationship with her that could become great, I probably would try a hotel the first time and decide based on that.
But, I've seen escorts at their place (in-call) dozens of times. I never had any problem. Seems to me it would be safer to meet a stripper that you know and know something about at her place than in-call with an unknown escort.
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When I arrived she was outside in the parking lot still screaming cuz she had found a bedbug in her hair. I went inside & lifted the corner of the mattress and saw hundreds of the little critters swarming on the box spring. For the next two hours I worked like a rented mule throwing the bed in the dumpster, bagging all the clothes in about 20 trash bags to take to the laundry to have it put through a very hot wash, put all food in the refrigerator, and finally have an exterminator in.
She and I went to the hotel as planned, showered together, smoked some weed, and she complained about me having too much pubic hair and I replied that she could use a shave herself. So she manscaped me and I shaved her pussy
After that we used her house frequently cuz she talked me into giving her the money I'd have spent for the room.
There are a couple of other dancers I've been with at their home with no adverse effects
- Seems like she's either stringing you along for money and has no desire to sleep with you, or she's controlling herself because she doesn't want to get in trouble by doing stuff ITC. If its the former, get the hell outa there cuz it's a waste of time. If it's a latter then she'll have no problem with a spontaneous meeting in a hotel. As BJ99 said, get her out to lunch, and then pick a hotel and go.
If you've known her for a while, and she's transitioning into "mainstream work", would lead one to think she's fairly-stable.
In the past, several TUSCLers have posted about going to a fave's home and I don't recall any bad experiences posted except some posting seeing someone at the home they were not expecting (her-mom, her kid(s), sometimes a BF she'll say it's her brother); but that's not necessarily the norm and it seems it works out for most PLs - have also read some posters post their fave's home/apt was a mess.
My only warning is this: be wary about visiting a stripper's place because she knows you're coming with money. Exactly when and how much. Be wary of being ambushed or robbed at her place either by her setting it up, or indirectly like she happens to mention it absentmindedly to someone who takes it upon themselves to wait for you in the parking lot to rob you and she didn't even know. I always say people become funny when it comes to money. Even if things go great for a year and you ORC with her regularly. There's that one day she thinks to herself "ol' buddy is coming here with that $300 at 6pm. What if i....."
So be careful.
Why on Earth would she set up a robbery? Sure she knows you're coming with money. But she also knows she going to get that money after about an hour that could be fun for her as well as you. It makes no sense to screw up what could be on-going lucrative business arrangement.
Not the strippers, or any other group, are always sensible.