Family friend came into my club tonight.
Eve
Where there's a hole, there's a way. [HIATUS]
And I still don't know who the hell the guy is. I imagine he either goes to the same church my folks go to, or plays music/works with my gramps.
I'm talking to the manager casually, but I can see him staring and grinning at me from a mile away. Eventually, I approach, because I take this as potential interest. Introducing myself, he has no complaints about letting me sit with him. Greetings and initial topic start off casual and pretty normal before he begins asking me a series of VERY personal questions, because I appear 'very familiar' to him. And I mean, very personal. This guy was definitely on to me.
"Did you go to school in the (county) area?"
"Were your grandparents (religious affiliation)??"
"IS YOUR MOM'S NAME (name)?!?"
A few more questions followed, and he asked this as casually as casual can be, almost as if he didn't really care if I was who he suspected I was. What made it worse was that the club was kind of quiet. The music was loud and the room was full of people, but NO ONE was talking. People within a couple feet distance could probably hear what he was saying. I pretty much fibbed my entire way through his interrogation, and he took my word for it - or at least he acted like he did. We had a normal conversation after that, and just to humor myself, I offered him a dance before he had to leave. He declined and said "No way. You're way too beautiful. I don't think I could handle even one song."
Yep. That's totally the reason. I don't even know if I should be worried about this guy or not. It didn't even cross my mind to just cut and run to the dressing room like most of the girls do when they spot someone they personally know in the bar (but they hide before the people can see them and figure out who they are.), cause that would be an instant giveaway, but I have a slight hunch he could see through my ruse regardless.
Maybe this has been asked here before, but it does raise the question in my head. Have any of you mongers spotted an acquaintance/friend/relative/etc dancing at your local clubs? And if you have, would you find it socially acceptable to just blurt out a million life story questions to her for all within radius to hear to confirm who they are?
I'm talking to the manager casually, but I can see him staring and grinning at me from a mile away. Eventually, I approach, because I take this as potential interest. Introducing myself, he has no complaints about letting me sit with him. Greetings and initial topic start off casual and pretty normal before he begins asking me a series of VERY personal questions, because I appear 'very familiar' to him. And I mean, very personal. This guy was definitely on to me.
"Did you go to school in the (county) area?"
"Were your grandparents (religious affiliation)??"
"IS YOUR MOM'S NAME (name)?!?"
A few more questions followed, and he asked this as casually as casual can be, almost as if he didn't really care if I was who he suspected I was. What made it worse was that the club was kind of quiet. The music was loud and the room was full of people, but NO ONE was talking. People within a couple feet distance could probably hear what he was saying. I pretty much fibbed my entire way through his interrogation, and he took my word for it - or at least he acted like he did. We had a normal conversation after that, and just to humor myself, I offered him a dance before he had to leave. He declined and said "No way. You're way too beautiful. I don't think I could handle even one song."
Yep. That's totally the reason. I don't even know if I should be worried about this guy or not. It didn't even cross my mind to just cut and run to the dressing room like most of the girls do when they spot someone they personally know in the bar (but they hide before the people can see them and figure out who they are.), cause that would be an instant giveaway, but I have a slight hunch he could see through my ruse regardless.
Maybe this has been asked here before, but it does raise the question in my head. Have any of you mongers spotted an acquaintance/friend/relative/etc dancing at your local clubs? And if you have, would you find it socially acceptable to just blurt out a million life story questions to her for all within radius to hear to confirm who they are?
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And I certainly wouldn’t have asked all those questions. That’s very strange behavior and I’d be very cautious if he ever comes in again if I was you.
If he comes back you should tell him that you went to school in a Pakistani madrassa but your grandparents were actually Satanists. You have returned to America because you want to learn human sacrifice. Then ask him if you can use him for practice!
I bet you'll get an ace reaction! ;)
As others have already said, just avoid this guy if he does return to your club. Hopefully he will get the hint and leave you alone. If he stops in regularly and ignoring him doesn't work, I would tell club management.
i will throw this out for what it's worth, i once was friends with a certain dancer, our friendship went "bad" because i was being a douchebag by doing quesionable things like genuinely caring about her and warning her against hard drugs, etc, again another story, but the thing is, every time i went into the club and she was there, she would run to the dressing room and then send her buxom blonde friend out to greet me in the hopes of rushing me off to VIP, draining my wallet, and then rushing me out of the club. i never bit, but if that guy ever returns you might want to ask a friend to run similar interference for you
Friend's daughter (3)-crazy horse, brass ass, and flight club
Frat brother's wife - juicy lucy's
High school friend (2)- christies, deja vu Indiana
University friend (4)- PT memphis, christies, brass ass, some local club in vegas
GF's fellow worker (GF with me - both elementary school teacher) some dump in Newport KY
Friend's sister in law - Columbus gold
Friend's cousin - Hustler
My doctor's nurse - Cheerleaders
Sister's neighbor - Alcatraz
There maybe more but that's all that stick out.
It;s creepy to bring up personal questions in a SC within ear shot of others.
One time was talking with one of the University friend and her uncle came in and was acting creepy like your family friend - her family knows what she did for a living so she told him to stop being a jackass ( well not that politely). I always said hi to the ones I knew from outside the SCs and never made a big deal out of seeing them or them seeing me.
Like BJ99 said if he cannot be direct avoid answering/contact with him.
I had no telling what was going through this guy's mind when he first saw me though. He seemed pretty humored by my company. But I'll spare him that if he happens to come in again.
The first girl, I pretended not to know her and got serious shit on this board for taking her to VIP without identifying myself. Ironically, she knew who I was and did not ID herself out of fear she would lose the VIP $$!
The second girl looked just like her mother. I asked if the person I knew was her mother. When she said yes I introduced myself.
Saw both of them OTC multiple times.
For me, an odd effect of seeing someone is I will avoid a customer I recognize to the point of leaving the club. I think it is because I want to keep my clubbing life separate from the real world life. I don't need some guy telling everybody he saw me coming out of VIP at a strip club.
But if I see a dancer I recognize, well we are both in the same situation as far as she probably does not want the real world side of her life to know and neither do I. I trust a dancer I know to be discreet ten times more than I trust another guy.
I agree with you though. I trust a dancer not to out me more than I trust a guy. Especially if the guy is a mouthy drunk, and would likely keep it in til he's drunk at a neighborhood or office party.
I was in a regular bar shooting pool when my younger very religious cousin showed up on stage for a wet t shirt contest. I again approached her directly and have never mentioned it to others
I have never ran into a dancer I had previously known outside the club and only recall running into a former male college classmate from 15+ years prior
Years before, I had seen a girl from my social circle on a cam site and got a private show with her. I told her at the end of the show who I was, and she freaked out a little bit at being unexpectedly recognized, but we kept doing private cam shows and met up for coffee at one point. She said the show wasn't all that big of a deal to her since she had pulled me into "the room" at a party once where she had made herself the main attraction.
Bringing up personal/family stuff sounds pretty weird to me, too. A dancer told me a story once about a guy who was a friend of her grandparents and still expected to do her after using her real name to ask if it was her once they were in the VIP (she hadn't recognized him before). As she told it, he blew it using that approach.