How often do women pull the plug on sex after tying the knot?

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• lick-that

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  7 years ago

  Are you serious? Watch Married with Children..Lol
• Doces300

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  7 years ago

  I can only speak for my own marriage. My wife became a lot less sexually active after our marriage. Especially after we had our first child. She even told me once when we were still in our 20's that she would be just as happy without sex at all. Enter my strip clubbing habit. Now funny enough she is happy without sex but she is not happy if I seek to satisfy that urge outside the marriage. So my SC is a secret and has only been exposed once, but she forgave that. We now have sex maybe 3 times a year whenever she wants to because I am not interested anymore. I satisfy that urge with my CF OTC and ITC. I won't divorce her, because I now have significant assets that I don't want to lose in a settlement. Yes I am an asshole, but I can live with that...
• chessmaster

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  7 years ago

  "she would be just as happy without sex at all. Enter my strip clubbing habit."
  
  Lol.
• georgebailey

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  7 years ago

  Total bullshit. Depends on your marriage, and the woman you marry. Unhappy couples fuck less.
• shadowcat

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  7 years ago

  To listen to men talk, it happens to just about every married guy. It's the butt of a lot of jokes. It didn't happen to me. I'm the one that lost interest. After 2 kids she really let herself go physically. I couldn't get it up for her. We stayed together just for the sake of the kids.
  
  Since the divorce I'm trying to make up for lost time by hitting the strip clubs. :)
• RandomMember

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  7 years ago

  Agree with @GeorgeBailey. The whole premise that women entice men into marriage with sex, then turn it off, is archaic. Sex disappears in bad marriages.
  
  
• TXbananas

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  7 years ago

  My wife was kind of a nympho (and fairly hot), but I got sick of her constant bullshit after 20 years and cut her off.
• gawker

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  7 years ago

  There's the old mantra:"there are no frigid women; only clumsy men."
  While sex frequency declines as we age, the reasons are myriad - lack of desire, familiarity/lack of variety, changing hormones, changing bodies, etc. in my case my wife had a full hysterectomy at age 38 and lost all desire. Hormone replacement was fraught with danger at the time so she "put up with it" for awhile, but it wasn't worth the effort.
  I'll admit to being less than a stellar lover except when highly motivated and trust me, at age 72 a young hotbody provides motivation.
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  Lack of sex in marriages seems to be a fairly common thing from what I hear, especially after they have kids and life gets complicated/busy rearing kids and often both parents working fulltime
• bk2016

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  7 years ago

  Sounds like you turned your wife into a lesbian. It took me a while, but you get extra points for doing it so quickly. Congrats!!
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  If one gets married thinking/hoping/expecting to have a lot of sex, then one may wanna reconsider from what I see
• rh48hr

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  7 years ago

  Sex was not an issue when I was married until her bi-polar disorder overtook her.
  
  We were together for 11 years total (married for 7), the first six years were pretty good. the next three it was hit or miss and and the last two pretty much non-existent. Despite the fact I wasn't happy about the lack of sex and dealing with someone with bi-polar disorder who is not properly medicated is hard ... real hard. Through all of this, I did not cheat and I did not ask for the divorce. She did.
  
  I think much of it depends on the couples love and dedication for one another. In my opinion, if you marry thinking you'll get sex regularly, don't get married. There has to be more to the relationship than sex to get married.
  
  This is why I won't get married again, it's not just about the sex for me. It is actually pretty low on the totem pole. I think if everything else is there sex happens organically. I just enjoy having the freedom to do whatever I want.
  
  I talk to friends and they have to "check in with the boss" to do something. I don't have this issue.
• ATACdawg

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  7 years ago

  My wife had a very regular and fulfilling sex life into our early 50s. The "change" basically took away her libido.
• twentyfive

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  7 years ago

  Having children is often a contributing factor, and those couples that figure out how to have some romantic time while the children are small, some times get lazy with one another, another contributing factor is menopause, also as men age one time failures play with their psyche which leads to a lack of desire due to embarrassment there is a syndrome named for this, and of course smoking and diabetes affect many men.s ability to get and maintain an erection which again leads to embarrassment, as you see it is not always the female at fault .
• skibum609

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  7 years ago

  According to reading material or my divorce practice 75% of women lose interest in sex after one year unless men make an effort to make it exciting. My wife has gone through the change and while were not having sex 5-7 days a week like we did almost 30 years ago, we still have awesome sex, albeit less frequently, which at 60 is fine by me after a 65 hour work week. Caveat: No idea why, but in the last 14 months she has gone from bottom 40% in lifetime bj quality to one of the 3 best ever. Its like dating a new person. How a 58 year old woman goes from lick and gag to deep throat and swallow is one of life's amazing mysteries.