Help with strategies to not be seen as an ATM/whale.

She has GPS. Move on to someone else who is more reasonable.

Find a girl willing to do it for $100. You'll find one eventually.

Here's something to think about. If you're willing to pay $250 for a VIP that is just high contact lap dances, and there's 3 other guys a night willing to pay the same, she has no reason to have to accept sex with you for $100 on top of the VIP fee.

If you're in a club where extras aren't prevalent, but they can be had, I like to go for the girls in the middle of the pack, they usually are more flexible and open in their personal rules. Just be careful, there's plenty of girls in the "middle of the pack" that think they are a member of the "A team."

That's just a theory I use, everyone has a different way for this to work...

-->"She has GPS"

I disagree. He trained her to consider $350 the price for high contact dances. She would be a complete idiot to accept the same amount to have sex, given that all indications to her are that she has a live one on her hands, and it's worth the risk to bid him up.
This is a lesson-learned moment. Don't pay for a no-extras dance, the exact same amount you want to pay for FS, and then expect to get FS at that price.

Cut your losses and move on, and do yourself a favor and don't overpay in a way that will sabotage yourself

The main thing that is going to hurt you is if you only and always spending on her, no matter what. After a couple of visits where you spend with others, she might develop a new appreciation for you.

@subraman... He's paying $250 for high-contact VIP. He's offering another $100 for FS, for a total of $350.

I also think you're the victim of GPS. If you're really desperate to fuck her ITC, then up the offer to $150 for a total of $400. That's still overpaying for 30 minutes in a glorified walk-in closet. If she says 'no', then tell her that you're moving on, but the offer stands if she becomes willing.

Make sure that *all* of these negotiations take place before you pay the club for the VIP room.

You could also offer her $350 OTC for 1 hour, which is pretty fair if you're renting the hotel room.

I mostly agree with others here, though. Move on to green pastures.

What does GPS stand for ?

Plucko

Golden pussy syndrome I believe. Lol

I'm thinking about just being honest with her. I'm pretty sure I'm going to do it at least once because I've been anticipating it for a while. Maybe I just let her know that at that price it'll be a one time thing and then I'm moving on but if we can cum to more reasonable terms it'll be a few times a month thing. For VIP fee and another $150 I'd be doing that shit every week. As long as it's as good as I'm predicting.

-->"He's paying $250 for high-contact VIP. "

Lonewolf: I don't think so, or my reading comprehension is in the toilet. Here's his exact words:

-->"I seem to have already set a precedent that I'm willing to spend $350 on her for just really good high contact dances."

He's paying $350, not $250, for high-contact VIP, he's set a precedent at the price (that is, he's given her $250 VIP plus an extra $100 just for high contact in the past). At least, that's how I read that sentence. He's also offering the same amount, $350, for FS. Which seems crazy...

The customer has all the power, unless he doesn't act like it. The customer can find another dancer at the same club, at a different club, hire an escort, and on and on.
When quoted a ridiculous price, no matter what you are buying, walk away. Then, see what happens. Maybe the price will suddenly come down or maybe you'll find better value elsewhere. What you won't do is be treated like a sucker.

First of all realize that most ITC isnt that great. You cant go all Tony Danza on them and have to be somewhat discreet. That said here is what Id do. Next time youre in the club dont buy any dances from her. Buy her a drink and act like a gentleman and when she asks you to VIP tell her I think Im going to venture out a little tonight. Pick a sleazier looking gal and take her to VIP, trust me she'll be watching who gets her 250... Not because you want to but because youre proving a point that you and your wallet run the show. She either gets the hint and calculates future income lost or she shrugs it off. Act like a boss. Chicks dig badasses.

Why not tell her that you'll pay your price for full service and her price if you cum? Be sure to masturbate beforehand.

Pistola is right on! ITC-FS is not great at all compared to the comfort of an OTC experience in a hotel room. I would try to set up OTC instead, with your pitch that there's no risk of getting caught in the club, and she gets to keep all the cash. No tip out or VIP fees! Once you get her to agree to OTC, then you can really figure out how much her pussy is worth to you (and her)!

@subraman... You're right. I read that wrong.

Be polite, but don't spend another cent on her. See if she changes her tune. If not, find another dancer.

Cut bait. You've already demonstrated you'll shell out for a private room, find a new chick who you can negotiate up front with. With luck the blonde will come back with a new attitude when she starts losing out.

Ish: evidently, my reading comprehension *is* in the toilet, since I thought you were LW :)

"As long as it's as good as I'm predicting."

I hate to say it but you might be setting yourself up for an expensive lesson in disappointment...like getting yourself up for the latest and greatest movie only to walk out thinking, "it wasn't as good as I expected."

My brother finally convinced me to buy a pair of MX boots for my dual sport riding but kept warning me I'd absolutely hate them the first couple of times I rode. I fully expected to have a horrible experience and after using them yesterday on a long ride, I actually didn't think they were that bad...much better than thinking they'd be the bomb, then be pissed that I couldn't get my toe under the shift lever.

In clubs that have ITC FS, every dancer has a price unless she just isn't going to do it. I think anything over $200 (not counting dances) is kind of stupid, but I'm sure some girls have a much higher firm price. That way they're not fucking 10 guys a night, but are still banking coin.

Some of are more wealthy members here pay a LOT for ITC sex in some form and it's their money so I'm not throwing stones. For OTC I'd spend a LOT more money on a girl. I don't go to the club specifically for orgasms because the few times I came ITC I felt pretty weird about it afterwards.

If you don't want to be treated like an ATM then don't act like one.

You're welcome. ;)

But ok, to elaborate, this means saying no to her the next time she asks. If she just sits down to chat without asking upfront, you should be pro-active by saying something like, "[Insert name here], I don't want to waste your time, so I need to let you know upfront that II'm not going to be taking you back tonight." If she asks why, which is likely given your history, just tell her that you want to explore your other options a bit.

I should just add that delivery matters. She won't be confused about why you are really saying no and the odds are good that she will walk regardless of how you deliver this, which would be enough of a win as you would stop burning money for low ROI activities. However, if you can manage to deliver this in a calm and friendly way (some guys can do this and others just can't for one reason or another), there is a chance that she might stick around and make a counter-offer. After all, now she is starting at 0 rather than $350, which is a dramatically different position from which to bargain.

"You cant go all Tony Danza on them..."

What does that mean?