Need Advice on Avoiding OTC Strippers Who Are Lousy In Bed
HungryGiraffe
Somewhere USA
OTC is great, but IME a high percentage of strippers are simply lousy in bed. Let's say IME 30% were good to great, 50% were meh and a waste of funds, and 20% were a really bad experience. That's only a 30% positive yield. At $200-$400 per session, that's a lot of wasted money chasing pussy.
Now, I'm trying to figure out how to avoid wasting money on lousy fucks. Seems my screening may be lacking. In a recent experience, I thought I worked hard to literally take the dancer through a checklist of expectations. Despite that pre-OTC screening effort the outing was just meh. Will not repeat.
Even though I asked specifically about DFK, turns out she didn't like to kiss. Although she did a great job of HOP ITC and gabbed about how much she wanted my cock, she was ultra tight and got sore after round one.
There were other attitudinal issues too.
Just so everybody is clear, so I don't get harassed, I'm not trying to brag about OTC or have any kind of system. I've only been fucking strippers for less than 5 years, and as the volume of OTC increases my satisfaction is not keeping up and I'm wasting money. I've had the good fortune of discovering an amazing SB who I been with for over 2 years. Beyond that only a couple ladies are real keepers.
Self-assessment -- I think I'm moving too fast and need to spend more time getting to know dancers. My best OTC experiences have happened after developing an ITC connection and ITC intimacy.
As many have said, arranging OTC (paying hookers for sex) is easy. Finding real enjoyment in the process seems a bit harder. Now, I can understand why a lot of guys don't bother with the OTC path. I'm enjoying the discovery/search process, but just wish I hit a home run every time. LOL!
Your thoughts?
Now, I'm trying to figure out how to avoid wasting money on lousy fucks. Seems my screening may be lacking. In a recent experience, I thought I worked hard to literally take the dancer through a checklist of expectations. Despite that pre-OTC screening effort the outing was just meh. Will not repeat.
Even though I asked specifically about DFK, turns out she didn't like to kiss. Although she did a great job of HOP ITC and gabbed about how much she wanted my cock, she was ultra tight and got sore after round one.
There were other attitudinal issues too.
Just so everybody is clear, so I don't get harassed, I'm not trying to brag about OTC or have any kind of system. I've only been fucking strippers for less than 5 years, and as the volume of OTC increases my satisfaction is not keeping up and I'm wasting money. I've had the good fortune of discovering an amazing SB who I been with for over 2 years. Beyond that only a couple ladies are real keepers.
Self-assessment -- I think I'm moving too fast and need to spend more time getting to know dancers. My best OTC experiences have happened after developing an ITC connection and ITC intimacy.
As many have said, arranging OTC (paying hookers for sex) is easy. Finding real enjoyment in the process seems a bit harder. Now, I can understand why a lot of guys don't bother with the OTC path. I'm enjoying the discovery/search process, but just wish I hit a home run every time. LOL!
Your thoughts?
20 comments
But back to the point...There's no advice I can give. It's a 'crap shoot' as I think you guys say, sometimes you'll get a double six and sometimes you'll 'seven out'.
If you don't feel any connection the sex will be terrible between you guys.
Your looking to match chemistry. The closer the better the sex.
You need to allow yourself to get caught up and infaxuwated with her. This alone will make the sex amazing
One exception to this, at least for me, is that any girl who seems uptight ITC is unlikely to suddenly loosen up OTC. Also, I have enjoyed OTC far less with girls in the 21-22 year old range than I have with girls with a few more years under the belt. But beyond these, IME it is a crap shoot. I tend to repeat with the ones that I like and avoid the ones who perform poorly the first time. Not really much more to be done IMO.
Looking back to my initial more satisfying OTC outings, they were freebies because I let the relationships and passion build. Haven't pulled off a freebie in quite a while during this recent slam bam run. As much as some poo poo non-sex OTC, I'm beginning to like the idea of a real date that naturally leads to sex because there's mutual chemistry. Kinda back to basics. LOL!
Thus one can assume the more one OTCs and the more one chases after it instead of it happening more organically, for lack of a better word, the more one chases OTC the more possibilities of of finding duds.
Thus it could be that with more OTC frequency the more duds you will find and also th higher you will be setting the bar since you've been there done that a lot - perhaps scaling back and going for quality vs quantity but even then one may feel they gotta swing the bat more often b/c one does not know who's who - but still perhaps slowing down may get you better results if the current pace/method is not yielding the results you want.