During lap dances they... Smack it with their ass. Slap it around with their tits. Bounce on it with their pussy. Grab it with their hands like they're going to pull it off or light a match.
Do they think it's indestructible just because it's hard? I thought they would be experts at touching them because they do it so much for work and are probably very familiar with them in their private life.
Well... you can talk to strippers during the dance, you know. Specifically, you can ask them to not do those things.
Many strippers assume that the customer wants to reenact a porn flick scene, which often contains all the stuff you're complaining about. And some guys actually do want that in the fantasy setting of a strip club, so it's not an outrageous assumption.
It's up to you to to communicate what you want. You're paying for the experience and she's not a mind reader.
Also, keep in mind that in a lot of places guys struggle to get the sort of dance you're complaining about.
Honestly, no one knows how to manually handle a cock as well as said cock's owner. If I ever get a regular lap dance my hands start out on her hips to help set a more reasonable pace. Additionally, I've never been a fan of ol fashioneds for that reason and that's why I prefer strippers only handle mine with their mouth or pussy.
Grab 'em in the pussy!!!!
That'll stop them. Just ask our POTUS. It works for him!
None of mine are....pay attention to your choices.
look for a girl who dances slow and sensually on stage, and how she attempts to connect w you when you tip her. Those ones who dance super fast, and spend the entire time twerking will prolly do the same to your dick. Slightly older girls are a better bet too.
I usually tell the stripper to treat my dick as if it owes her money. But I can see how you delicate-dick types would have trouble with that :) :)
I know how to tell a woman the type of dance I like. That wasn't my question.
I was wondering why they do what they do when you don't start out by guiding them. I like to see what they do on their own initiative before I say anything.
So do most guys like it like that? Or most guys don't like it but no one has ever said anything to them? Which wouldn't be surprising going by how many guys won't even ask a girl for a dance. Inexperience?
Maybe you don't get hard, or it's very small and they don't know if they are grinding enough. It's hard to give a good dance to a guy w a tiny dick, especially if he has a big belly.
yahtz, in all seriousness, aside from the possibility of sheer cluelessness, I think there's an element of: "If I stroke it sensually, and I get caught on camera, I'll get in huge trouble; but the bouncers give us some leeway to bounce on it, slap it, and basically treat it like it owes me money". At least in areas of the club where sensual contact is frowned upon.
Well, that got personal and specific pretty quickly.
@yahtzee74 said: "So do most guys like it like that?"
I touched on that in my previous response.
I touched on
I'm a dancer lol. I don't have my own dick, so I can only say from a dancers view what can make it difficult to gauge.
Buying dances is a chump's game.
Engage with your girl in the front room. You can still feed her money, but act like you just met her at a party. Get a front room makeout session going. Save the booths and back rooms until it is time for your own pants to come down. Then after that, take her home with you to continue.
SJG
@bj99 Thank you for the insight. I better lose my gut so I'm not 0 for 2
^^^Do you have a dodicky ? That's when your belly stick out further than your dicky do
I have lost weight since I terminated my marriage. Overall gotten more physically fit too. Mostly bicycle riding. It is important, like a second chance at life.
SJG
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If a dancer is too hard on my dick, I have her kiss it and make it well.
Make sure you get a girl with more ass, easier on it..
Yes thanks for your opinion Ishmael.
I also think subraman has a good point about if they were to touch it too sensually. That would be too real while if they slap it around it's more of a performance.
Need to take charge of the situation, and make it happen with your girl the way you want. But you start that in the front room, instead of buying dances.
Otherwise you are just asking the girl to be a FEMBOT.
SJG
I've never slapped at a customer's dick lol. I'm imaging how a cat kinda slaps at a dying mouse to get to move around and be fun again.
"I'm imaging how a cat kinda slaps at a dying mouse to get to move around and be fun again."
Both as a metaphor and in practice, I think we can safely put that in the "don't do" column.
Ishmael, you are full of wisdom today. I won't slap at dicks to make them more fun after all.. unless I'm paid extra.
Bj99, to be clearer, my topic line should have read "why So rough on the erect penis." But I did mention the penis being hard in the text. "Do they think it's indestructible because it's hard?"
"... unless I'm paid extra."
Seems reasonable.
Yes, I do see it now!, "it's hard." :) I sometimes miss small details.
I blame hard core porn and (some) PLs who are looking for PSE.
Come to Ohio. We have no-contact laws. ;)
They can be pretty rough on vaginas too. And there's no excuse for that considering that they own one of their own and should know how to treat it properly.
@Bj99 that was mean. ; )
No way, I love helpful customers. :) strippers are notorious for overlooking details.
Dancers are often clueless or just don't give a shit and don't put much thought into their dancing (mechanical w/ no thought or care; not that it applies to all dancers but IMO more so w/ the young inexperienced ones as Bj99 mentioned).
I used to have more issues w/ lap-dance penis wear-down early on in my PL career when I usually wore Khakis w/ a zipper, and underwear.
These days I SC au-naturel (commando) and wear smooth athletic shorts that cause little friction and are roomy so I can easily adjust the angle of trajectory of the torpedo - I often adjust the torpedo so I can get a good-grind w/o it hurting; but this was harder to do w/ constricting Khakis, and also the snake getting entangled in underwear.
don't let this distract you from the fact bj99 accused you of having a little dick....
@Bj99 still mean, )
Being too rough with the dick is a particular problem for me since I go for the younger strippers. They correctly perceive that men prefer them to focus on the penis but they often incorrectly assume that it's made of stone just cause it feels like it is. The solution is simple. Tell them how do pleasure a man in the best way. Even better, do a phenomenal job of pleasuring them in a way that a young man would not know how to do. Then teach them how to do the same for you. Most are eager learners if you pay well.
Here's a novel idea. Talk to her. If you aren't comfortable give her a little instruction on what you like. If she isn't a complete moron she will want your repeat business ($$).