CF wants me to be her boyfriend
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Monday, May 15, 2017 8:18 PM
Oh, geez. It's happening to me. I want to hear experiences and advice from the PL gallery on how to proceed.
Since our first OTC (https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=4…) I've taken this stripper out a bunch more times and each was at least as good as the first excursion. I switched to the 'subscription' pay model, where I don't pay her for the dates and just give her a damn good tip when I happen visit the club. Since each date went well, I've gradually made them longer/more involved. I hereby elevate her from CF to ATF.
On the last outing, I took her for a little trip to Las Vegas. It was an awesome time and we had so much fun. The days were filled with good food, dancing, low-rolling gambling, and of course tons of fucking. She was totally into the sex and I'd love to write some JS style reports of how it all went down, but that's a different post.
She told me she has special feelings for me on the second day and she brought it up several more times during the trip. Of course, you have to take everything a stripper says with a bowl of salt. But I believe she's honest about her feelings and not leading me on. One reason is, they always forget to fake the insecurity. Now she is asking me things like 'Would you leave me for a younger girl'? 'When was the last time you talked to [Old Favorite]?' 'Are you texting her?' 'Did you ever get a dance from [So and So]?', blah, blah. She also blurted out 'I love you' during sex, but of course Latinas are always calling you 'my love' or 'mi amor' and so maybe it doesn't have the same weight as if English was her first language.
She asks me if I feel special about her, etc. I have pretty much dodged the question so far. I dislike being elusive and would rather give a straight answer or have a clear discussion with her. But I have to sort myself out first. What do I really want with her? How could I have a girlfriend that works as a stripper in a full-service club?
I guess it's PL101 not to develop feelings for a stripper. But I do like her. Damn it! What the fuck do I do now?
Since our first OTC (https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=4…) I've taken this stripper out a bunch more times and each was at least as good as the first excursion. I switched to the 'subscription' pay model, where I don't pay her for the dates and just give her a damn good tip when I happen visit the club. Since each date went well, I've gradually made them longer/more involved. I hereby elevate her from CF to ATF.
On the last outing, I took her for a little trip to Las Vegas. It was an awesome time and we had so much fun. The days were filled with good food, dancing, low-rolling gambling, and of course tons of fucking. She was totally into the sex and I'd love to write some JS style reports of how it all went down, but that's a different post.
She told me she has special feelings for me on the second day and she brought it up several more times during the trip. Of course, you have to take everything a stripper says with a bowl of salt. But I believe she's honest about her feelings and not leading me on. One reason is, they always forget to fake the insecurity. Now she is asking me things like 'Would you leave me for a younger girl'? 'When was the last time you talked to [Old Favorite]?' 'Are you texting her?' 'Did you ever get a dance from [So and So]?', blah, blah. She also blurted out 'I love you' during sex, but of course Latinas are always calling you 'my love' or 'mi amor' and so maybe it doesn't have the same weight as if English was her first language.
She asks me if I feel special about her, etc. I have pretty much dodged the question so far. I dislike being elusive and would rather give a straight answer or have a clear discussion with her. But I have to sort myself out first. What do I really want with her? How could I have a girlfriend that works as a stripper in a full-service club?
I guess it's PL101 not to develop feelings for a stripper. But I do like her. Damn it! What the fuck do I do now?
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Remember that she will grinding on dicks and either tempted with OTC or ITC fun or delivering it with other PLs.
Not the best of situations for a GF. Better to keep her as your ATF. My two cents. - I've been there.
wish my CF, who is also Latina, would say this to me
Are you ok with your woman fucking other men for money?
I'm guessing the answer to both of those questions is No. So you have two potential plays. One is to keep things pay to play. When she brings up that stuff just say you think she's sexy and enjoy being with her but don't want a girlfriend. The other is to try to find that sweet spot where you have intimacy and fuck but aren't really exclusive. It's basically impossible to sustain long term.
Good luck.
My advice is run
She pays living expenses for herself, her mom, her adult son, one of her brothers, and her sister and her sister's children. This includes rent, food, school sypploes, laptops, phone bills, etc.
She mentioned on an earlier date how her last boyfriend wanted her to quit. She stopped for 6 months, then went back because her son was having money problems and this caused the breakup.
You're doomed. ;-)
Given the amount of family baggage this woman brings along, I'd say there is no way it could ever work out. She is obviously seeing you as husband material, and you are just as obviously considering it or you wouldn't have posted!
When my ATF was dancing, she had a very similar situation. Divorced, supporting a her in-service daughter and her grandson, and with another son who was actually very responsible.
I used to idly wonder if we could make a go of it if my wife were to somehow disappear from my life. The feelings were certainly there on both sides. The conclusion that I came to was that the drama in her life would inevitably poison the relationship.
Get tested. For everything. Pay to get her tested. For everything. Enjoy it while it lasts. Don't offer to buy her out and support her, especially if she's got a whole army of people she's whoring for. If they rely on her income they're going to want a say in things. That's a problem. It's okay to have feelings. Just don't let them wreck your judgment.
First of all do you really want to be in a relationship with her beyond her just being hot (since you can still be w/ her w/o being in a relationship) - do you really want to be in a relationship and everything that comes w/ it besides the fucking.
When you're with someone you are also with their baggage and strippers often have a good amount of it, not to mention she may want to dance less or even stop and look at you to pick up the slack - many of these girls' lives revolve around $$$ and they either get it thru dancing or probably expect to be taken care of.
No one can say that it will or will-not work out, but dating a stripper is usually not the hgme as dating a chick that works in corporate-America - as long as you go in w/ eyes wide open and know what it may entail, then go for it if you feel you are up to it.
You're either going to fall in love with her (because that's what sex does to normal people; it's a hormone thing, the way our bodies are wired up; nothing you can do about it), or she's going to fall in love with you. Maybe both.
Good luck.