I guess it's different personality traits but if I'm with a dancer I find attractive I just hate it when she moves fast. Switching positions every three seconds it feels. Even during a blow job she is just plowing through.
How do I request her to slow down and be polite about it ? Do I offer more cash for a non rushed experience ?


I've had discussions about this with dancers stage side. One I told that she moved too fast for me to even watch. ( Black hip hop oriented ).
But if you mean she is on you, dancing, on your lap, well, buying dances is a chumps game.
Engage with her in the front room. Give her money and talk with her and flatter her, but politely decline buying dances.
Far easier for you to lead it in the front room, when neither party has agreed to anything.
Let her get softened up with you and get a front room makeout session going. Save the back room and that money going to the house, for when it is time for your pants to come down.
SJG