My experience would be more like 50%. I took one home and kept her about 4 years ago, still with her. But I now know how incredibly unlikely that experience is. I don't think I could repeat it. Sometimes it is better to be lucky.... the youngest and newest ones are often uncommitted. The 90 to 95% number is the answer to "how many have young children?" ;)
So I met this dancer a few months ago and she is my CF. Usual stuff like, "I really like you, I don't do this with other customers, Let's go out some night". She's pushing 40 and quite exotic looking. Yeah I like her but..... now comes the 4 year old at home and baby daddy isn't around. She went from CF DS status to who knows where. She's still nice but I'm not looking to play daddy anymore.
At least 75%...but it's a moving target. My regulars of over a year have had several B/F's and even husbands, so unless they are married it's hard to say what a "relationship" entails. I'm married on paper but we haven't had sex in 12 years and can go several days with not seeing or communicating with each other. Am I in a relationship?
I have no idea. You cannot trust what most of them say anyhow. But it doesn't matter. I once overheard a customer asking a stripper if she would fuck him in VIP and she replied "If it's OK with my husband" and pointed him out sitting at a nearby table.
First, I agree with RM that really, if this is something you care about, that's a blinking red light. That said, this is a strip club forum and it's on topic, so I'll assume you're just interested because it's fun to speculate.
Second, I agree with Dougster of >90% -- IF your definition of "significant other" is "some guy (or guys) she's seeing". Strippers are attractive, they have plenty of prospects, even if those prospects come and go.
But, if by "significant other" you mean "in a committed (at least in theory) relationship", it is absolutely much lower than that. 70%? I have an ATF whose group of strippers is, I think, pretty typical of my experience with strippers in general: they go through periods of casual-to-serious dating and sugar daddies (none of which counts as having an SO, for our purposes here), then they finally pick a boyfriend, and it's love-breakup-love-breakup. The girls are handfuls, and they often pick low-quality guys -- the relationships of these 20-something-year-old strippers reminds me more of high school relationships than post-college relationships, in many cases. So it's not uncommon that even the girls with boyfriends are on breaks (and fucking) often. Or, to riff on jackslash's comment:
jackslash-->"Hot women have no problem getting a boyfriend (or girlfriend). If your favorite stripper isn't in a relationship now, she will be by next week."
... and she'll be in love with him the week after, starting to fight the week after that, huge drama the week after that, then on a break for the following two weeks, before they're back in love again
If you have a group of 5 girls: Girl 1 is single, Girl 2 is in a committed relationship, Girl 3 is dating around, Girl 4 is in a shitty relationship and Girl 5 is a lesbian.
Is it fair to say a significantly larger proportion of escorts do not have a S/O than dancers, because IMHO I believe that to be the case. Not all dancers have sex with customers so having a relationship is a lot easier (aside from bad choices) than it is when sex IS the job.
@rockstar666 I only know a couple escorts but if they are in a relationship it's usually open or polyamorous. I'd think that those kinds of things are a lot easier to manage if you're escorting?
There ya go, duomaxwell said it with much more clarity than I did :) To me, out of 10 strippers:
3-5: dating and sleeping around
2: committed relationship that has the normal ups and downs typical.
3-5: in and out of a bad committed relationship, so technically sleeping around part time
Seriously now, is the percentage really that important? The point is that it is high.
All of which brings us back to an earlier thread you posted about being bothered by it and yet another thread where you thought that dating a dancer could be cool. Idk, but I suspect you have a romanticized view of strippers, which sooner or later is probably going to get you in trouble.
Honestly, I'm not sure which would be worse: Having your wallet cleaned out in some goofy attempt to chase after a stripper's affections or actually succeeding in becoming a boyfriend to one. The former sucks and can cause some harm, making you a sucker and teaching you a lesson that too many PLs learn sooner or later. But the latter can lead to extended periods of angst and never-ending drama.
I think you are harboring some romantic notion of "us against the world" with your stripper GF who comes to rely upon your kind heart and who you know, just know, you can trust. Maybe you even envision the two of you laughing over the PLs who throw money at her while you two are cuddling in bed, with you comfortable in the knowledge that she is only giving herself to you.
The reality is usually far different. Most strippers have a variety of emotional and other issues which keeps them stuck on their own heads and creates difficulty in normal societal functioning. You'll most likely end up insecure and miserable with a woman who, when she is not crawling all over other guys or doing who knows what, is all too likely to blow whatever money she gets and put you through endless drama. And she will no doubt sugar coat or downright lie about what she does with other guys, especially the ones who give her a lot of money. Oh, and dancing for a while and dealing with all the shit that guys do, her sex drive will probably crater out, at least when it comes to the SO who is not paying her for it. ;)
But you keep holding on to that dream larry and let us know how it goes if you actually land one of these girls.
Larryfishsticks always looking for love in a strip club. Just setting yourself up to fail. Looking for love in a strip club is like looking for something healthy on the fried appetizer menu at Applebee's.
larry --> "Interestingly some of you guys say strippers have a lot of options, but yet a lot of them go with the loser types?"
^^^ Careful, at worst, that sounds like Capt. Save'A'Hoe, at best it sounds like you are objectifying strippers for the wrong reasons. To quote a stripper, "I'm not a prize to be won!!" Or was that a Disney movie? LOL.
I'd re-read reickdugan's post. It has lots of good advice and guidance. Maybe unblock shailynn and flagooner, while you are at it.
If you want a Trophy Wife or a Trophy girlfriend, these all come in non-stripper models. The trophy wife is essentially top of the sex worker industry, anyway.
@Dominic- I'll pass on your unblock advice LMAO. I think you're misreading what I'm saying. I'm not on either sign of the fence, but you say strippers have a lot of options, but on the other hand they get with loser boyfriends and aren't good girlfriend material. I just find it a little interesting. I don't classify strippers as a whole, everyone is different. I was just busting Dugan's balls, he has some good advice.
Dominic77 is right about the trophy wife not being a dancer; in my case it was a trophy g/f because she was already the trophy wife. I met her on C/L actually (yes, it CAN happen).
She had a free pass card for one guy and I turned out to be he. They've been together for 10 years now, so she's not THAT young...but still way hot. Pity she moved 1500 miles away...we had really fun times. She would NEVER have been a dancer or escort in a million years even if she could have been.
At our local zero mileage clubs, many more on dayshift have SO's than on night shift.
Because these are just bikini bars, not 'sex clubs', the girls are just local girls. More with kids and SOs want the dayshifts. And then as the night shifts are more money, the unattached girls are more desirous of that. And management wants to capitalize off the young girls, so it gives them their choice of the night shift.
Some clubs say that to work night shifts a girl has to work at least one per week day shift.
So having SO's, say 60% day shift, and 10% night shift.
And it is always the girl's call too. To me, if she does not live with the guy, that means her pussy is not being supervised, and so she can quite easily be gotten to.
So I just always as at a suitable point, and after telling her about myself, "Do you live her in (Sunnyvale)? ... By yourself".
The girl might not be totally truthful in what she says, but it still gets her into a compromising position if she says she lives alone. She will always be getting shit from GF's about not being married. And so if she bends the truth and leads me to believe she is unattached, then she is already stepping over a line.
Works exactly the same way in AMPs and Viet Coffee too.
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Other than a escort agency or a porn studio I would agree with you :)
Second, I agree with Dougster of >90% -- IF your definition of "significant other" is "some guy (or guys) she's seeing". Strippers are attractive, they have plenty of prospects, even if those prospects come and go.
But, if by "significant other" you mean "in a committed (at least in theory) relationship", it is absolutely much lower than that. 70%? I have an ATF whose group of strippers is, I think, pretty typical of my experience with strippers in general: they go through periods of casual-to-serious dating and sugar daddies (none of which counts as having an SO, for our purposes here), then they finally pick a boyfriend, and it's love-breakup-love-breakup. The girls are handfuls, and they often pick low-quality guys -- the relationships of these 20-something-year-old strippers reminds me more of high school relationships than post-college relationships, in many cases. So it's not uncommon that even the girls with boyfriends are on breaks (and fucking) often. Or, to riff on jackslash's comment:
jackslash-->"Hot women have no problem getting a boyfriend (or girlfriend). If your favorite stripper isn't in a relationship now, she will be by next week."
... and she'll be in love with him the week after, starting to fight the week after that, huge drama the week after that, then on a break for the following two weeks, before they're back in love again
3-5: dating and sleeping around
2: committed relationship that has the normal ups and downs typical.
3-5: in and out of a bad committed relationship, so technically sleeping around part time
Seriously now, is the percentage really that important? The point is that it is high.
All of which brings us back to an earlier thread you posted about being bothered by it and yet another thread where you thought that dating a dancer could be cool. Idk, but I suspect you have a romanticized view of strippers, which sooner or later is probably going to get you in trouble.
Honestly, I'm not sure which would be worse: Having your wallet cleaned out in some goofy attempt to chase after a stripper's affections or actually succeeding in becoming a boyfriend to one. The former sucks and can cause some harm, making you a sucker and teaching you a lesson that too many PLs learn sooner or later. But the latter can lead to extended periods of angst and never-ending drama.
I think you are harboring some romantic notion of "us against the world" with your stripper GF who comes to rely upon your kind heart and who you know, just know, you can trust. Maybe you even envision the two of you laughing over the PLs who throw money at her while you two are cuddling in bed, with you comfortable in the knowledge that she is only giving herself to you.
The reality is usually far different. Most strippers have a variety of emotional and other issues which keeps them stuck on their own heads and creates difficulty in normal societal functioning. You'll most likely end up insecure and miserable with a woman who, when she is not crawling all over other guys or doing who knows what, is all too likely to blow whatever money she gets and put you through endless drama. And she will no doubt sugar coat or downright lie about what she does with other guys, especially the ones who give her a lot of money. Oh, and dancing for a while and dealing with all the shit that guys do, her sex drive will probably crater out, at least when it comes to the SO who is not paying her for it. ;)
But you keep holding on to that dream larry and let us know how it goes if you actually land one of these girls.
Am I getting deja vue or wasn't a very similar question asked not too long ago on this board and discussed in depth?
Lopaw as always with the wittiness!
Interestingly some of you guys say strippers have a lot of options, but yet a lot of them go with the loser types?
^^^ Careful, at worst, that sounds like Capt. Save'A'Hoe, at best it sounds like you are objectifying strippers for the wrong reasons. To quote a stripper, "I'm not a prize to be won!!" Or was that a Disney movie? LOL.
I'd re-read reickdugan's post. It has lots of good advice and guidance. Maybe unblock shailynn and flagooner, while you are at it.
If you want a Trophy Wife or a Trophy girlfriend, these all come in non-stripper models. The trophy wife is essentially top of the sex worker industry, anyway.
She had a free pass card for one guy and I turned out to be he. They've been together for 10 years now, so she's not THAT young...but still way hot. Pity she moved 1500 miles away...we had really fun times. She would NEVER have been a dancer or escort in a million years even if she could have been.
Because these are just bikini bars, not 'sex clubs', the girls are just local girls. More with kids and SOs want the dayshifts. And then as the night shifts are more money, the unattached girls are more desirous of that. And management wants to capitalize off the young girls, so it gives them their choice of the night shift.
Some clubs say that to work night shifts a girl has to work at least one per week day shift.
So having SO's, say 60% day shift, and 10% night shift.
And it is always the girl's call too. To me, if she does not live with the guy, that means her pussy is not being supervised, and so she can quite easily be gotten to.
So I just always as at a suitable point, and after telling her about myself, "Do you live her in (Sunnyvale)? ... By yourself".
The girl might not be totally truthful in what she says, but it still gets her into a compromising position if she says she lives alone. She will always be getting shit from GF's about not being married. And so if she bends the truth and leads me to believe she is unattached, then she is already stepping over a line.
Works exactly the same way in AMPs and Viet Coffee too.
SJG