I haven't been to the strip club in weeks (don't have any desire as of now).
Looking back, there were 3 strippers that stick out in my mind that I wouldn't have minded being fuckbuddies with or dating them, but it didn't work out aka they rejected me.
I'd like your opinion on what I did wrong.
All three of them said I was cute. It could be SS, but I keep myself in shape, I'm young, and I'm not bad looking, so I don't know. I had developed good conversation with all of them, pretty much talk about anything. With the lapdances it started ok, but it got better and better. Eventually I was sucking tits and sucking ass (I'm thinking this is where I fucked up), I didn't try for FIV or DATY or anything like that. So after a few different visits with really good lapdances, I asked them out. All three of them kind of blew me off.
There's a few different scenarios which could have led to this IMO
- I treated them like a object in the lapdances, they don't mind since I'm paying them, but that automatically crossed me off as boyfriend material in their eyes.
- I spent too much on them ITC, now they just see me as a ITC regular/ATM (although some people on TUSCL said they were regulars of their favorite dancers before they ended up dating them/FWB)
- I go to the strip club too much for their liking. I would be in there once a week.
- They are all about the money. They wouldn't have minded fucking me OTC, but they wanted to be paid for it.
- Similar to 4. Them letting me suck their tits, kiss their ass during lapdances meant they were paid providers ITC and OTC.
- They lied to me (shock!). They weren't into me, they were just interested in my money, they said whatever I wanted to hear.
- Other?
What do you think?
I know I'm over analyzing this shit to death, but the time away from the strip clubs makes me reflect on things.


You spend more time analyzing your relationships than a woman. You pay her to provide a fantasy. She gave you the fantasy. Man up. if you want to fuck her tell her clearly and make an offer. Your method is clearly failing you.