PL is a term we loosely use tongue-in-cheek; not to be taken too seriously and we kinda use-it to bust each other's balls a bit in a self-deprecating way.
"Technically" - one you step foot in a club and pay a dancer to be w/ you; you have joined the PL-ranks - being a PL is pretty-easy to achieve - what a PL needs to be careful of is becoming a RIL (regular in love) - this can be costly emotionally, psychologically; and financially.
Trying to find "love" in a strip-club is the proverbial trying to fit a square-peg in a round-hole (very high failure-rate) - most dancers are not interested in finding a love-interest in da club and on top of that they are flaky as hell often making them a bad-choice for dating unless one knows what they are getting into and is willing-and-able to roll w/ the drama.
It's ok to be into a dancer - just don't get all emotionally tied up - treat it like being really into pizza and just enjoy it for what it is - one needs to see it for what it is o/w one often ends up getting pennies on the dollar - i.e. spending more does not necessarily mean one gets better service and often can lead to being taken for granted b/c often times RILs jump whenever their fave says jump and the fave figures she has him wrapped around her stripper-finger - i.e. often times the more one does for a stripper, or civvies really, often times the more they want and the less one gets - a PL needs to know what he is doing and since he is the one w/ the $$$ he needs to be the one in control not just be a pussy-whipped puppet.
w.r.t. how to deal w/ this bitch that has you by your PL emotional balls - I pretty much don't know shit about women; but IMO one thing that I've noticed in my personal PL-career is that indifference often works best, i.e. having a "don't give a shit attitude" - often times the more one chases a ho the farther one gets from having her - and this can apply to strippers even when we pay them.
We PLs need to learn how to stand-up to the pussy - running away (going to different clubs) just means one has not learned how to deal w/ them and this often means one will repeat the same mistakes w/ other strippers at other clubs - IT'S ABOUT YOU - she's there to entertain you; not for you to be bending backwards and forwards for her which IMO/IME is often actually counter-productive - be fair but don't be a pushover.
The only lever we PLs have is the $$$-lever - IMO you have the following options:
- stay w/ the level of service you've been receiving if she's not willing to go beyond that and it stills satfies you
or
- give her the cold shoulder but in a mature way - i.e. stop spending on her if you feel you are not getting enough ROI - if it's me and she asks why I don't wanna get dances from her I tell her that I'm already bored w/ getting dance after dance w/ her and want to see her outside the club - if she says no then I'm willing to let her walk, or as I mentioned above keep getting dances if I still enjoy it and feel I get decent value out of it
OTC is like batting in baseball - if you are hitting 300 then that's near All-Star level - i.e. there are many reasons why dancers do not do OTC many of which are valid - but at some point a PL needs to put hit foot down else it becomes Einstein's definition of insanity (keep doing the same thing and you keep getting the same results) - being the one paying the $$$ and also given the dancer all the control is a sure losing proposition 99% of the time IMO - most dancers want to do the least for the mo$t - if it was up to most-dancers they would like to walk out of the club every night with $1k for just sitting and talking and having a few drinks w/ PLs.
It probalby won't get better by itself - as w/ civvies, one often has to meet many different strippers till they find one that gives you what you need - we don't owe strippers anything and they don't owe us anything - most strippers will move-on in a NY-minute when it's in their best interest and so should PLs.
