Wife Not Sexualized Enough
san_jose_guy
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Friday, January 20, 2017 4:56 PM
There are many of us here who have gone through bad marriages. Some of us are out of them. But some of us are still dealing with the ramifications. And then there are some who are still in bad marriages.
Is or was a big part of the problem just that the wife was not sexualized enough?
In my case, the wife did not want sex to be too big of a part of the marriage. Before marriage, maybe okay. But after, no. She wanted to minimize the amount of sex, and its quality. She did not ever want to treat it as a fine art, something which should be further developed, ritualized, and cultivated. She wanted it to be as basic as possible, and minimized.
This was just the background she was coming from.
One result was that she was always sexually faithful. Sexual infidelity would never be a way she would try to strike back at me. But her lack of sexualization was a big reason that the marriage was not salvageable.
She really wasted her youth, and a large part of mine.
But it was also my own fault for being involved with such a person. I was short sighted and naïve.
Anyone else experience anything like this?
SJG
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