Current Fave...now what.
goosman
On A Booty Hunt
Well I've reached a new milestone in my mongering, I officially have a CF. So much so, that at this point I'm kind of like, what is the point of going to any other club & spending money on any other dancer, until she has run her course. I know it sounds really sprung, but If I'm guaranteed to have a good time with her, what is the point of blowing my money anywhere/on anyone else? Side point: she works really inconvenient days for me, and my ability to get available time to club has decreased since this summer, so this may end up saving me money anyway, if I'm just holding my powder, for when the stars line up with her schedule.
Make sense or no?
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To play devil's advocate, you may want to continue seeing others so you don't get bored with her as quickly.
To echo some of the sentiments above: of COURSE it makes sense, and you're being silly to even question that... AS LONG AS you're not getting too attached. That last part sounds easy, but took me years to master. Everyone who CFs/ATFs gets caught up with their first few faves; I know I did.
In any case, once I have an ATF, I basically shoot to only see her. I arrange my trips to try to see her -- I go when I know she's working, and alternatively, she adds on on days she knows I'm coming. Reaping the amazing benefits of the ATF/PL relationship is my favorite experience in strip clubbing. Of course, sometimes it doesn't work out, she can't add on the day I'm coming, or she flakes, and I end up seeing someone else. But once I have an ATF, I'm perfectly happy not seeing anyone else until it runs its course
There have been times where it stuck on my side, though. That is the more difficult situation to manage to avoid ending up like gawker.
It is so easy to fall for some of these girls that give a great GFE.
Multiple CF's are interesting trying to manage, without any drama.
I went from 1 CF, to none when she quit last December. Finally found a new Fav in March.
Now, I have 3 favs. I find it difficult to manage 3 CF's, but each has their own special qualities and I like the variety!
Plus, since I recently started seeing CF#2 more often, CF#1 upped her game on my last visit, which was a pleasant surprise.
Starting to really like the slow summer months....it makes the girls more competitive, in a good way, lol.
I'm in exactly the same position.
My one word of advice is to cultivate a number 2 ( not a turd, a second favorite).
As a rule strippers are, if nothing else, flaky. You will not want to be left fav-less when she is not available.
The visit will not be as enjoyable, but at least it will not be a waste.
I'm relatively new to this though, so what I'm hoping is that with each favorite down the road it will become easier and easier to stay detached from.
And whoever said strippers are flaky, wow, truer words have never been spoken. It's as if it's a prerequisite for the job.
In my cynical mind:
1) don't forget you are a cu$ty & she does not see you as you see her - IMO 99% of the time PLs get attached while it's busine$$ for her - custies are a means to an end for dancers; dancers reserve their emotions for non-custies
2) you are a paying custy & should not accept half-ass treatment b/c she gets complaisant & you let her
Just my glass-half- empty opinion
While I do agree with you ...
Though I know better, sometimes the little head gets very persuasive and fucks with my big head.
When kept in check, I have found that getting close with a fav generally enhances my SC experience. Since I do enjoy variety I don't develop exclusive fav relationships. I'd say I spend about half my time with a fav and play the field with the rest of my visit. The thing that sucks is when some dancers see me as my fav's custie and stay away.
I don't really care how she sees me. Not really important.
Yes. I live near Orlando, hence the Disney references.
With my favorite I see the dynamics changing fast. Slower to respond to texts, if at all. Sweet comments both in person and through text are diminishing. Attitude in the club changing. Almost morphing into a person completely different than the one I thought I met. And believe me, it is not for lack of cash going her way.
Part of the fun for me is at least the appearance of a GFE. I'm not dillusional, I know it's not real, and knowing what I know about her I wouldn't want it to be real even if she did... but that is the way in which I enjoy my clubbing.
If things totally fall apart with my CF (who happens to be my first), I'm quite certain I'll immediately but methodically look for a replacement. I can totally grasp why many of you guys like complete variety and no attachments, but it's just not the most fun route for me. To each their own though. That's the beauty of it.
I think when I go back I'll play it more cool, play it like I did before I have a CF. Just there to have a good time. Responses from you veterans are what make this forum great. I signed up for the reviews, the forum has just been a bonus.
StripperWeb dancers state that regulars can often not be worth their regular cash b/c of the expectations developed by the custy, meaning they dont wamt to put up w/ the same custy on a regular basis especially if it's one they deem wants/requires too much effort/attention.
At TJ55, perhaps your fave may be one of those dancers that can't handle having regulars & what that entails & may want out even if she really wants your $$$.
Maybe a new CF, maybe the current fave comes back around, or maybe remaining in between CF's for a while and just enjoying some variety for a bit.
That CF started marking me down as a sure thing, and would go for hours with me waiting around while she mined for new money. I ended up figuring that drinking less and switching clubs more was a better way to go. Things with that CF reached a new level after I started leaving early to hit other clubs on nights when it was boring to sit around at her club for a couple of hours with nothing interesting going on.
dammit, they are all smashed! and what's up with all the used magnums and needles lying around?