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rickdugan
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I have been seeing a girl off and on OTC for a couple of years now. But lately I've been getting some weird vibes from her. I'm not going to get into the specifics because I don't want to get bogged down in an analysis of what she said/did or how she said/did it. Suffice it to say that I've been doing this for almost 20 years and I've had vast numbers of romance, pity and other emotional hustles thrown at me in that time, but this is different. Frankly, this girl doesn't have skill set or the emotional makeup necessary to run a romance hustle. It has been subtle and, at moments, with fleeting uncharacteristic looks on her face. She is also starting to hint that maybe we could just get together sometime when she is not working. I should add that we are only about 15 years apart in age.
I have enjoyed OTC with her as she has been more reliable than most, but I think I am going to have to cut her out of the rotation now. If I wanted a mistress, I would get one. The reason I do this stuff with strippers is to avoid other complications. I have no idea whether I am reading this right or not, but I have no interest in chancing it. This sucks as I just had to cut another girl out of the rotation for other reasons, so I may go a little dry for a while during the rebuild, but that beats the possible alternative of having a girl get emotional about my time with her (Hell Hath No Fury...). I had this happen once several years ago (with a semi-civvie) and I will never put myself in that position again.
I'd be interested to hear whether anyone else has dealt with this and how it ultimately played out.
I have enjoyed OTC with her as she has been more reliable than most, but I think I am going to have to cut her out of the rotation now. If I wanted a mistress, I would get one. The reason I do this stuff with strippers is to avoid other complications. I have no idea whether I am reading this right or not, but I have no interest in chancing it. This sucks as I just had to cut another girl out of the rotation for other reasons, so I may go a little dry for a while during the rebuild, but that beats the possible alternative of having a girl get emotional about my time with her (Hell Hath No Fury...). I had this happen once several years ago (with a semi-civvie) and I will never put myself in that position again.
I'd be interested to hear whether anyone else has dealt with this and how it ultimately played out.
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She's not your girlfriend or mistress, she's a "friend with benefits," that you happen to pay for, and she wants to also participate in "friends" and not just the "benefits."
I've had some OTC connections in the past that would just like to be paid attention to a little. They'd like to go to a restaurant and have some normal conversation. That doesn't mean they're in love with me, they just want to feel like a normal adult now and then. I'd take them to places their boyfriends never would, mind you these weren't fancy places by any means but to some strippers, these places were a big deal.
Take it as a compliment, she enjoys your company enough to actually want to hang out with you, not just fuck you for money and leave.
I travel for work and all my OTCs occur away from my home. I just say "I'm divorced." In my 10+ years of doing this I have had 2 that wanted to become Mrs shailynn but most just want a pay for play or friends with benefits type of arrangement.
Lately I have been going through a phase of just one night stands. Less emotional attachment involved that way.
Should start a forum, Stripper/Escort Advise.
Now I am jealous, I got nothing. I understand that you are not attached to her and don't want to be, but in any long term relationship even a FWB/SD someone gets attached. I say if you are into her like the sex take her out invest sometime. And you may get some free bees.
I still think about the little hottie dancing for me in the VIP. I told her I was not married had a worthless G/F that didn't like sex at the time. She told me she loved being nekid and loved sex. Then slipped out that she liked taking co-workers (other strippers) home to share with her B/F. yeah, I am easy.
Didn't you say you were 45. Wow. Props to you, not that I would do it but good job on a 60 yo woman...
:)
Brilliant!
b) it could just be a phase till she gets her next unemployed/underemployed BF
c) does not mean she's gonna go wacko and show-up at your door-step - if it is what you think it is then maybe a simple conversation can solve the problem; and if she does not seem to grasp it; then cut it off; but o/w you may be jumping to conclusions
Lol!