Are strippers basically hookers?
FTS
I'm posting this because I went to my local club last night for the first time in about 3 months. Let's just say, the new management improved the place. Lots of new, young, hot girls. One in particular is like a fantasy girl for me; blonde, thin, total spinner, a perfect little teenage ass.
I got a few dances from her last night and at this club, I don't know about other guys, but if I'm into the girl I really let myself enjoy the dance. And with this gorgeous teenager, I let me hands roam all over her, and basically made it a rough lap dance. Slapped her ass, grabbed her waist...
Anyway, this chick got aroused, I felt her nipples get hard as diamonds. Unfortunately, she lacks a personality (or, she shuts down her personality with clients, or just me idk). I asked her to sit with me and there was very little conversation. After the dances she just took the money an left.
But that's beside the point. I can't help but wonder if I could have been a little more rough with her, fingered her, and if I could have basically whipped my dick out during the dance and let her sit on it.
I know if I want to get my dick wet then there is OTC, but I have yet to pull an OTC session with a stripper. Closest I got was another 18 year old girl gave me her number and I tried to set up a date kinda last minute, but it didn't happen. JohnSmith might remember giving me some tips after I posted about that night.
tl;dr I can't stop thinking about slapping this gorgeous 18 yr old spinner stripper ass and how great her pussy would feel.
I got a few dances from her last night and at this club, I don't know about other guys, but if I'm into the girl I really let myself enjoy the dance. And with this gorgeous teenager, I let me hands roam all over her, and basically made it a rough lap dance. Slapped her ass, grabbed her waist...
Anyway, this chick got aroused, I felt her nipples get hard as diamonds. Unfortunately, she lacks a personality (or, she shuts down her personality with clients, or just me idk). I asked her to sit with me and there was very little conversation. After the dances she just took the money an left.
But that's beside the point. I can't help but wonder if I could have been a little more rough with her, fingered her, and if I could have basically whipped my dick out during the dance and let her sit on it.
I know if I want to get my dick wet then there is OTC, but I have yet to pull an OTC session with a stripper. Closest I got was another 18 year old girl gave me her number and I tried to set up a date kinda last minute, but it didn't happen. JohnSmith might remember giving me some tips after I posted about that night.
tl;dr I can't stop thinking about slapping this gorgeous 18 yr old spinner stripper ass and how great her pussy would feel.
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Obviously enough, we can't tell you if you could have been rougher with her or fingered her or whatever. You're going to have to work up the balls to explore this yourself, every stripper has her own personal rules. Perhaps my only advice would be, instinctively it sometimes feel like you should just keep pushing if she doesn't stop you, but after years of doing this, I'm absolutely convinced that building consent and trust get super super far with the girls. Obviously, a girl who will just do anything with anyone may not care either way, but with a girl who makes case-by-case decisions, "is that ok? Can I do it a little harder?" "okay if I touch?" etc. goes very very far, and if she's convinced you won't take the next step until you ask, she's more likely to say yes. Besides being overall the right thing to do, for my personal morals, such as they are.
For the rest, only you are going to know what the vibe was like with the dancer. I saw that you'd stopped by HK in TJ. That's a tough thing to live up to anywhere else. I don't really have a plan about what's going to happen with a dancer. At least one I just met. For any of the stuff you've got in mind, all I would say is try to not surprise a dancer. You can try whatever you want and hope it works.
I don't know how many times I've heard complaints from dancers about guys going too fast. Best case she responds like you want. Worst case you get royally fucked up. Communication works. I can't remember how many times I've just looked a girl in the eyes and told her it was my last night in town (usually true) and let her decide where she wanted to take things. If the vibe is there she'll figure it out.
I myself have pushed the envelope many times & has worked more times that I would have thought - not saying that it works most of the time but that it works more thsn I would hsve thought & I've not yet ran into a dancer that has made a scene, the ones not interested in playing have just told me so & I've respected their wishes.
One favorite doesn't. Another favorite uses her time at the club to develop a OTC customer base so she doesn't have to dance with random strangers at the club. She hit the dancer lottery. She hooked up with a wealthy customer
who she dates now so she rarely works at the club anymore.
I'm a little conflicted, I'm 26 yrs old and I'm fairly good looking, so I feel like I could potentially get a good looking 18 yr old civie girl and have no need for the strip club, but at the same time I've had limited success with civie girls in the past and going to strip clubs and seeing hookers is just 100 times faster and easier.
If you are not suave, join us at the strip club, lol
But the success is so infrequent, which is why I do join you guys!
The moral of the story is $$$ rules.
I once had a favorite at a small-town club that had $20 lappers and a semi-private VIP room costing $150 for 30 minutes. After I had gotten lap dances from her a few times, I took her to the VIP room and touched her *all* over for half an hour -- breasts, back, belly, butt, thighs -- basically everywhere but the coochie. When we were done she thanked me for being such a gentleman! It's a sad commentary on what these girls have to put with that I was considered a gentleman because I didn't try to insert fingers or other body parts into any of her orifices.
As far as what might have happened between you and this girl, who knows. Lap dancing used to mean lap sitting. If you feed her money and engage with her in the front room, it is more flexible. Don't let her "sell dances" to you. Save booths and back rooms until actually needed.
SJG
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on the other hand if she offers a menu up front... then it is sex for sale.
Being able to be open and non-judgemental about people is a real gift. When I first observed this in the ones I call, the "Beloved Latina Escorts", I knew what a treasure they were.
SJG