Need Advice on Getting Strippers to Approach Me More Often
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When we enter we normally get a bucket of beer, a table close to the stage, and then just chill. Also we normally stay for a couple hours but the girls seem to ignore us and just go to a table with older guys or a larger group. I am 27 but look like I'm around 21 so they may just think I'm a broke college student. I always try to treat the girls with respect.
All in all do you all have trouble getting girls to approach? I normally go to the club once or twice a month and sometimes they approach often but lately I have had tough luck.
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The fact that you look 21 might be part of it, but again, if you've been buying dances and going once or twice a month, all the girls should know you're spending, and once they know that, they're paying attention to you... unless you haven't been spending, or are creepy, or are furniture, or whatever. Any way that could have happened?
I should have probably been more informative. The past four months, thanks to my work schedule, I have only been going once a month. Before that it was twice a month but I would alternate clubs. The clubs in Dayton Ohio seem to have high turnover. For the past few months I have only recognized maybe a girl or two but besides that it's basically a whole new roster.
When I lived in Lexington I was a regular at platinum and the girls, after a few months, would always approach me. I think it's the regular thing, and for the first few years I didn't have much trouble, but it's just the past few months things have been tough for me. I think when my work schedule changes again and I can go more often I can become better known.
I mainly made this post out of frustration for my recent luck and was seeing if anyone had any strategies especially for a club they are new to, or a club with high turnover.
I do end up approaching them eventually. Hey since you seem to be from the Ohio area don't you think the Dayton clubs have high turnover? Why is that? Back when I was in Lexington there didn't seem to be as much turnover.
When I'm new to a club, if the girl I want isn't approaching me, I go to her stageshow (usually during her last song, since I don't like sitting at the stage), and when she comes by to pick up her tip and thank me, I say to her, "If you're not with a customer right now, I'm sitting over there and would love to get some dances". Usually she'll come by, if she doesn't, I hit the stage for the next girl I like.
I'm one of those immature folks who likes being approached by the dancers, and this is a way I can get a dancer's attention, but still enjoy her sauntering over to my table as if it were her idea.
If I"m not feeling so inclined towards direct action, I sometimes just sit at the bar, which pretty much every girl eventually makes her way to, and then I'll talk with her while she's standing there, even if she didn't come back to the bar for me
For starts, make sure you stage tip girls you are interested in and preferably multiple times in the stage routine. If you want her to approach you after her stage show then don't just stand there as she dances in front of you on stage. Introduce yourself, tell her you find her attractive and ask her if you can buy her a drink. These are standard approach methods, but they play an important role. Tipping on stage makes you stand out in the sausage fest of guys and at least shows the girls that you have money and are not just there to sit around for a free show. Offering to buy her a drink is a positive offer for a dancer who has had a busy night.
The last time I was at the Harem, dancer drinks didn't cost more than normal drinks. This will give the girl a chance to take a break and relax over a drink. It will also give you a chance to stand out at the bar and will show girls even more that you are paying customer and at a minimum will show that you are a prospect for drinks and possible relaxation. At the Harem, the best place to sit if you want to snag a dancer that you're interested in are the seats a long the back wall near the lapdance room. If you take the dancer that you bought the drink for back to the tables closest to the lapdance room then as dancers walk in and out, you can casual smile and make eye contact for a few seconds at them as they walk by and look away and back at the dancer that you are with.
After, the girl is done drinking then head back for a couple lapdances. While you are getting lapdances from the dancer you are with, occasionally look around in a non creepy way and smile and make eye contact for a few seconds at some of the dancers as they wrap up their dances with their customers or when they are facing you while they are dancing with their customers, but make sure that you give your current dancer noticeable attention too. After your dance is done with the girl you are with then you should have a better image as a spender.
Most girls who have regulars will stay close to their regulars, because they don't want to risk losing that regular to another dancer, but they'll also keep their options open to customers with potential to make them money. Also, a lot of regulars and their dancers have a mutual understanding that the girl has to circulate to make money. Dress for success. On a crowded weekend night at the Harem, it is all about building up a positive image and working the room at least initially and in much in the same, but opposite way that dancers do to customers. Joke, laugh, rinse and repeat.
I've never had issues getting noticed in the club, but these are some of the questions I am aware of for myself whenever I go. I'd imagine they'd be questions you'd want to ask yourself in your present situation. While the odds are more stacked in your favor at a club because cash rules all, they are still girls and like real life sexual situations, will only often only settle for paying attention to guys who come off as betas if they don't have any other options.
I have a feeling that the things you outlined (e.g., super busy night shift) coupled with some of the things he mentioned (very young looks, fairly limited $200 funds), coupled with not enough direct action in engaging the girls at the stage, might be the ultimate root cause. Switching to day shift -- if it's feasible schedule-wise -- basically addresses all of these at once...
Sheesh, maybe I should go up north... Nah
I feel you on the strippers going to the older gentlemen, but in reality unless we're a Mark Zuckerberg those older gentlemen do tend to have more disposable income.
SHOWER right before the SC.
WASH YOUR CLOTHES/FRESH CLOTHES EVERY TIME.
MOUTHWASH+shave.
Fit, young men in shorts and tea shirt just look broke
Men that drink beer even in bucket loads is just telling women your poor.
Men that drink top shelf liqueurs tells others money ant no Thang
Tipping singles on stage looks week and unemployed
Tipping $20s on stage looks strong and well employed at a job with benefits
I started clubbing when I was 30 & also looked younger than my age (46 now) & particularly in the upscale clubs it was not rare for dancers to walk right past me to hit-up the silver-fox sitting one table over (did not happen as much in the dives).
If there are a lot of custies in the club then it's often gonna be a seller's market & many of the dancers are gonna look for what they perceive are the easiest marks & potentially the most lucrative custies & young custies often don't fit that profile.
In a busy club you are competing against other custies for a limited resource (the hot dancers) - best thing I've found that works is to approach them when they are on the floor & not busy w/ a custy - doing the stage-tipping thing is better than nothing but that has a pretty-high failure rate - IME the best way is to bring the business to them so they know you're ready to spend (get dances) - and even this is not 100% foolproof.
I suggest you find a better strip club.
I'm in that sort of situation a little and one dancer and her friend seems so attached to me she claimed I was cheating on her getting dances from other dancers and skipping her. There were some new girls I hadn't seen in quite a while and they approached me first.
your welcome for my help
A couple strippers fan themselves alot after stage dancing or even after getting up from sitting with a customer. I think either its being hot from drugs or they are convinced movement gives them a one up over other strippers to catch a customers eye.