Define ATF
It has been said that what I have described is not an ATF. I don't understand how someone can set the criteria for another's preferences. If she is that to me, she is exactly that to me, I accept the good with the bad, it's the total package that counts... in bed.
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The one tricky thing here is that it's your ALL TIME favorite, so there should just be one. But, we've been a little lazy and often just use the term to mean "one of my most favorites ever", rather than "my one and only most favorite ever". That's certainly how I use it. I call my favorite a CF is she's my fave at some point in time; she gets a boost to ATF if I'm wild and crazy about her.
What threads have people been arguing with you about how you use ATF?
most label what we call a CF aka current fav as a ATF aka all time fave
some have been so blasming as calling the DS dream stripper then adding more then one lol
but not ever one has the same logic or reasing so I would say without a divine word from founder the creator and God of our blessed site its all realitive
its up to your own def being honest
That's how you define an ATF.
Even worse, I have my ATATF stripper, but my true one-and-only out of the entire sex industry, is an ex-bodyrub girl, not a stripper.
The GFE business relationship / friendship with my ATF is one that not only puts every past one I've had with a dancer to shame, but I honestly cannot fathom any future one getting close to it. I personally think that concept is what makes a dancer an ATF, even if time proves me wrong. That's my opinion on it anyways, though others will feel differently.
So young, so naive :) Seriously, almost adorable how you think this way, I remember when I had that mindset, way back when. Now, having gone from "never to be repeated" to "never to be repeated" experience, I realize that unless YOU decide you no longer want such experiences, they are out there to find. It might not be EXACTLY the same experience, of course, but you'll find just as amazing and mind-blowing relationships. And not only that, but you'll get better at identifying women who might be more open to such things (of course, strippers are hustlers, and they can fool anyone, but you'll develop skills at upping your chances).
Ah! Is that the issue? With the term ATF, there is definitely a connotation that she treats you well. I suppose if she's truly your fave, you can technically say she's you're ATF even if she treats you badly, but it's cringingly pathetic.
Slowly but surely with age, mid(ish) life crises, money and maturity, I am broadening my horizons. Give me time. I've never looked for longer term investments in dancers before, so despite my time invested in the hobby, this is a new playing field for me.
Anyway, wasn't criticizing you, you should savor the experience. But when you get super bummed when it ends, take solace in the knowledge that there's just as good -- if not better -- coming.
In my two newbie months at the club scene, it feels like finding a 'favorite' is like a goal or achievement to accomplish. I've taken dances from a total of five dancers thus far.
A petite Latina who is just fun to be around with her cheerful personality.
A thick Asian/Latina who has a natural beauty but with strict rules.
A petite Latina/Black who is sexy and rough in her own style.
A petite Asian mix who is wild and adorable that I connected best with.
A tall Black beauty who is the most intelligent that gave the most contact.
The funny thing is that every time I come back, the last lady I've had my dances with wouldn't be working the night which is how I'm just experiencing a different dancer each visit. I'm probably close to finding a favorite at this club but unless I achieve an experience that both the petite Asian mix and tall Black beauty would actually coincide...then I may have to check out the other local clubs. Still a long road until that happens though especially when I'm not sure if I've had their full experience based on a single visit. However, I may just take it for what it is and enjoy my time at this local club because of the convenience of having the bouncers/hosts/bartender know me. Can't beat the 3-5 minute local drive either.
I feel like it is something that takes years to establish. If you could replace her in 6 months, she's not an ATF.
For me, it's not so much time, but how I feel about her. If she's my fave girl at the club and I look forward to seeing her, I call her my CF. If I"m crazy about her, not really interested in seeing anyone else, can't wait to see her again -- she's probably reached ATF status. Typically, that'll be 10-ish trips? Keeping in mind that I probably spend 4 hours per trip, that means I've spent 40 hours with her (!!!). That many trips might take anything from 2.5 to 6 months. I've had at least one ATF who, by the time I'd seen her 5 times or so, I already knew.
ATF - All-Time Favorite.
Plenty of people gave a great definition, but I will explain my ATF compared to yours.
For starters she has retired from the stripping game so I will refer to her from time to time as my Retired-ATF.
I think it is highly unlikely that I will ever find someone else that I had the same connection with. She loved me, she fucked me for free and to this day we are still friends even though we live on opposite sides of the country.
She was a stripper so of course there was drama at times, but she was never malicious or mean to me, EVER. That, combined with that she would fuck me for free, and was hot as fuck was the reason she was my ATF.
I think he laces it with Angel dust