Ladies - What ever happened to "thank you"
ididthisonce
North Carolina
I just posted a review which was critical of a dancer that I tipped $10 on stage and never saw her again. I think I was one of two tips for her set. Also read another review in NC where the gentleman was "put out" with a similar situation.
The old protocol was that regardless of the size of the tip (even as little as $2) that as a dancer left the stage and came back into the crowd that she would seek out the gentleman tipping her and whisper thank you as she passed by. Even with other dancers sitting with him she was not an intrusion or were there a lack of manners.
What is up nowadays?
The old protocol was that regardless of the size of the tip (even as little as $2) that as a dancer left the stage and came back into the crowd that she would seek out the gentleman tipping her and whisper thank you as she passed by. Even with other dancers sitting with him she was not an intrusion or were there a lack of manners.
What is up nowadays?
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@ rock - the clubs are in the South and are not dives. Just an observation as things have changed over the years.
Thanking people who pay you should be customer service 101. At the very least you'd think they would thank those who pay well above average and try to get dances from them. And it is often the case that the bigger earners are the ones who go out of their way to avoid an entitlement attitude.
But as we all know, customer service is very hit or miss in a strip club. You shouldn't let it bother you cause it's inherent in the strip club business model. Young girls working more or less independently and unsupervised often aren't going to have the best business sense.
Here's the thing that infuriates me (and if I am wrong, would the dancers that participate on this site correct me).
I go to tip a girl on stage, and it's someone I am interesting in getting some dances from, so I tip $10 or $20 or give her a wad of $1s which are somewhere between $10 and $15. I usually even say "please come see me when you get off the stage." Then she never does, and either disappears into the dressing room only to return and sit at a booth/table by herself or with other workers of the club. If the dancer goes back to a table with another customer I understand that.
What I also do not understand is when I tip a girl on stage, she goes back to a table, and sits there for the next hour with a group of guys and blows me off. Why is that? She's not making any money with those guys??? Note, this usually happens at lower scale clubs. At more upscale clubs this seems to be less of an issue, and I've also have girls at upscale clubs say "listen, I have a regular here tonight but when I can break free I will come over and say hi," which is a much appreciated gesture.
Sort of like pulling a thorn from a lion's paw I guess.
When I pull into McD's for my Iced Tea and Filet 'o Fish, I never get a thank you from the young ones. The older workers do say thank you, but they young ones - NEVER.
I also think it's the way SCs are now a days - I think w/ the higher mileage comes less friendliness/politeness from dancers and also custies - i.e. back when SCs where more Gentlemen's clubs there seemed to be better manners in both directions.
:)
"He only bought 5 songs last time ($20 a song)"
"he is (black/white/indian/hispanic), they never buy anything, so I dont talk to them"
"he looks disgusting, I bet he is disgusting [he is going to try to kiss/finger/fuck/whip out dick/slap me/ask me out without offering to party]"
"he looks like a creep, he isn't going to want to talk with me" (all strippers complains at my SC most the customers will not talk with strippers, as if it is degrading to the customer to speak to a stripper).
Very rarely do they come over to my table and thank me after their stage set.
It doesn't bother me, that's just the way it is in clubs.
When you go to Target or Walmart - and the cashier doesn't thank you - it's rude too. However - they don't give a shit - as they get a paycheck either way. But a dancer isn't paid by the hour. If she doesn't provide a reason for a customer to spend more on her - by acting rude. Then the customers won't spend. It's stupid.