So I'm at the show club in East st. Louis(country rock cabaret). Its early maybe 6:30 pm. I go to the stage and chat with this 30 y.o. dancer. A solid 8. She's super cool. I'm feeling her up(normal at this club), convo is good. She's a real cool chick. But not necessarily a 10. The rest of the dancers aren't exactly knockouts and Im bored so I leave and head over to penthouse a stone's throw away.(they usually have better dancers and the music at crc is unbearable at times). Well, I'm not impressed with the shift there either so after a few beers and some bullshitting with a couple dancers I head back to crc. So the 30 y.o.(dj nicknamed her booty butt cheeks) is on stage and I go over and tip her and she's on my lap(I'm the only one at her stage), pinching my nipples, rubbing my hands all over her, so I ask her for a dance. We head back and the dance is awesome. She's rubbing my dick, getting real close and personal, putting her lips real close to mine like she wants to kiss me.(this is not an extras club for reference). Anyway it ends and she's all "so you gonna come back and see me?" I say yeah every time I'm in st louis( in all seriousness). well of course.. I forgot her name at some point so I ask when she works(weekends) and her name again. At this point it all goes sideways. She gets visibly mad saying she might cry. She's rubbing on me saying "I'm rubbing your dick and you can't remember my name?" meanwhile I'm drawing a blank and eventually "ashton, damnit." I can see the shittiness in her face and now I feel 10 times as shitty for forgetting. So I pay her and we split but i can tell she was still really mad or upset.
So now I'm salty because I feel I blew a chance for an atf/ds at the least. I never knew I could feel this shitty over a stripper. I had no idea she would get so shitty over me forgetting her name. I doubt she will ever want to talk to me again after this. Anyway, rant over(I'm still mad at myself for fucking up what could have been.)
Thoughts, advice? Can I fix this? Has this ever happened to anybody else?
I'm a big advocate of honesty. Without being too cheesy, find the words to tell her that she was awesome. Tell her you like her alot and definitely plan to see her again. Also tell her you feel really bad about forgetting her name and that you'll make it up to her and won't forget again. If she sees you're sincere, feel bad, and really do like her, I think she'll appreciate it.
It can get worse. There is a girl who jumped from my #1 club to my #2 club and she blew a gasket over me forgetting her name at her previous club. Never mind it had been a year since I seen her and she has a different name at club #2 than at club #1. It's too bad because she is far and away the sexiest girl there currently, but my current club favorite for that club told me she has mental stability problems, which is a weird thing for a stripper to say, but she does seem like she's headed for a psychiatric ward or an early grave at some point.
Let some time pass and then go see her again. By then, she'll probably remember your face, but forget all about the name mixup. You'll probably have a clean slate.
I'm bad with stripper names - so I've forgotten many. I've only had one or two strippers actually get offended.
I think it goes with the territory. You stick your boobs in a guy's face - and tell him your name - guess what the guy will remember? So unless her stage name is boob, bazonga, melon-y, etc. she's out of luck.
If I forget a new dancer's name, I just ask. Never had an issue. I always tell them my name too because "sweetie" etc. gets old fast with me and they're too embarrassed to ask if I've told them.
Flagooner, you misunderstand. We had just finished 3 dances and everything was great. When I asked her name it went from 100 to zero. I don't think she was pretending. If this was ss, this a new impratical form of ss.
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As long as you like her, she can still be your DS.
All they care about is if you got money to spend on them.
I have had plenty of dancers forget my name though. That doesn't bother me either.
I think it goes with the territory. You stick your boobs in a guy's face - and tell him your name - guess what the guy will remember? So unless her stage name is boob, bazonga, melon-y, etc. she's out of luck.