Be hot, get married, get fat?
JamesSD
California
My company is fairly large, and has quite a few women 20-35 years old. In the past couple of years I've seen at least a dozen female Co workers marry off.
It amazes and saddens me how almost universally the women let themselves go after their honeymoon. There's this cliche pattern of attractive single women finding a guy, getting engaged, working out hard to look good for their wedding day, then just ballooning in the next six to twelve months.
Guys gain weight over time too, but for most it's much more gradual.
I can't help but feel like this isn't what those guys signed up for
It amazes and saddens me how almost universally the women let themselves go after their honeymoon. There's this cliche pattern of attractive single women finding a guy, getting engaged, working out hard to look good for their wedding day, then just ballooning in the next six to twelve months.
Guys gain weight over time too, but for most it's much more gradual.
I can't help but feel like this isn't what those guys signed up for
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No one expects a woman to look the same after kids. But it's reasonable to expect her to not gain 20 pounds right after the wedding.
It's a shame, one of them was super hot and dressed way too sexy for work, but 20 pounds heavier it's not as appealing.
A Woman marries a Man with hopes he will change. He doesn't.
A Man marries a Woman with hopes she never changes. She does.
Many gyms open early at 5AM and some are 24 hours. Get you asses up and work out and eat right.
In my ex's family, there was one aunt & uncle who had 4 beautiful daughters ... I mean, genetic jackpot when it came to daughters, each really beautiful. The youngest daughter was, to me, the most beautiful of a beautiful family, incredibly cute face, cute voice, killer body. Then she got pregnant super young -- maybe 20? maybe younger? -- and after the pregnancy, permanently gained something like 40+ pounds (on a 5'1" frame), total tub at that size and weight. She was never able to lose it... I have to think that there was some genetic time bomb there, and pregnancy just tripped something to do with her hormones or metabolism or whatever.
I used to always wonder about her husband, who must be feeling like he should sue for fraud. Marry crazy young, to an incredibly beautiful woman, and now get the spend the entire rest of your life with an obese woman.
i saw that exact same situation happen about 3 years ago. super, super, super hot young girl gets pregnant, balloons up and never loses the weight. a total tub of lard and after well over a year and a very physically active job, there is no question but that it is a permanent condition. she is not only huge but also on the short side which makes it all the worse. OMG it is almost like something out of a Grimm’s fairy tale nightmare. funny thing is her mother who had 5 children is very attractive and obviously never had that problem so maybe it is one of those skip a generation or recessive gene things. i felt so sorry for her and i never feel sorry for anyone.
* sometimes they were just thin/hot/sexy without doing any work to achieve nor maintain it, so they never developed any good habits. so when the body changes .. it changes and boy does it! (This is common, IME)
* kids. suddenly kids consume all of the couple energy so there is nothing left for maintenance and the body goes as a result.
* She (or he) was only staying in shape/exercising/eating-right to land a spouse, get the ring. So now gaining 80lbs isn't a big deal (already have the ring).
* People (naturally) become accepting of "who you are". So now, why put energy into it? So now gaining 80lbs isn't a big deal (since the spouse loves you anyway).
* no time / no money / no motivation for the gym or for healthy foods now that she (or he) is married. (This is common, IME.)
* No fear of dying alone (aka "what French women think that lets them stay so thin as a culture." It's also applicable to guys.)
Dominic
The more ugly a girl is, the more likely she is going to do whatever it takes to get married fast.
SJG
Basically if her appearance starts to go south I have to wonder what I look like- and with enough money in the pocket there's always incall or takeout at the strip club.
Weird thing is, two of her other sisters had kids. One chubbed up considerably (though not as bad as the younger one), the other one stayed completely slim and beautiful.
One Filipino office girl refused to go out with me, saying that because I was American there would have to be a chaperone. So I got the message.
Then soon she is married, and then pregnant, and she looked kind of scared about it all, fearful of what she was losing.
I think at least in decades past, Roman Catholic women were quicker to become permanently fat once married.
SJG
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Beyond a point, once you realize that someone lives in that conservative of a reality, you've just got to back off. You can't shatter her world by intruding and using different rules.
SJG
wow! just wow. your knowledge of asian culture is mind boggling. who would have guessed that those millions of Filipinas dating and marrying Americans were breaking cultural and social taboos. i’ll bet you even believe the asian sex slaves in AMPs aren’t really slaves too
hey psycho rapist idiot boy, another news flash for you. she told you that because she knew you were stupid enough to believe it. she didn’t want to go out with you for the same reason NO woman has ever gone out with you. because you are a creepy sociopath. that’s why you had to buy a mail order bride. remember now? the third world woman who dumped you and got a restraining order against you?
is any of this sounding familiar? take your meds dumbass. they won’t cure you from being a creepy sociopath but they will help protect innocent women and children from you
There was another Filipino girl with whom I had to first be invited to dinner at their home. Her cousin acted as the hostess. Her father looked me straight in the eyes and firmly shook my hand saying, "**name** is my only daughter."
Again, beyond a point you have to let people be the way they are and respect their culture.
To divert a bit and get back to the OP. I saw long ago an episode of Benny Hill. There was this girl, the factory owner's daughter. She wouldn't kiss. She just kept pointing to her left hand ring finger. She wouldn't accept any food either, always making a gesture about her figure.
Then at their wedding reception she dives off a platform into a 10' high wedding cake and eats until she expands like a little blimp. Then she starts chasing Benny around and around, trying to jump him.
Marriage is Hell.
SJG
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