Be hot, get married, get fat?

I don't understand that. I want to be hot for as long as possible. Marriage included. I want to make my future husband feel like the luckiest man in the world.

The blow jobs usually stop after they get the ring too. :)

Get hot, get married, get fat, get divorced, get hot

When you see a smiling women and a frowning man, she's got a ring in his nose and a ring on her hand.......

old blues song

They REALLY balloon if they pop out a kid or two!

Nah at my job I see quite the opposite. Seems like they get married and start feeling important and a lot of fatties got way good looking

Well GACA, you're spot on that when a woman suddenly gets fit, she's often shopping for new dick.

As for kids wrecking a woman's body, I'm oddly more sympathetic and I'm impressed when they seem to snap back into shape like a rubber band.

No one expects a woman to look the same after kids. But it's reasonable to expect her to not gain 20 pounds right after the wedding.

I would have blamed kids more so than getting married... although there are a rare few who can push a kid out and look like nothings happened.

I normally would have blamed kids too, but none of these women got pregnant.

It's a shame, one of them was super hot and dressed way too sexy for work, but 20 pounds heavier it's not as appealing.

I cannot argue against the fact that too many women become whales these days as they get older. That is why I am dating a hot 20 something stripper who values her appearance.

. A Woman marries a Man with hopes he will change. He doesn't. A Man marries a Woman with hopes she never changes. She does.

33+ years as a divorce lawyer and you guys crack me up. Most men I see are disgusting and their wives a few pounds overweight. My wife is weird, size 20 when we met and almost 30 years later a 6 on the bottom and an 8 up top due to large breasts. Great Union job; 30 dollar an hour part time job; better at bj's now than 25+ years ago; bisexual; skier; loves vegas; golfer and when I was in florida last month she remodelled the upstairs bathroom.

If your married for any amount of time then all of the sudden she decides to get back into shape "for you", be wary that there may be another. If she was really concerned about what you thought she wouldn't had let herself go in the first place. (Personal experience)

^That's not always true. Some women were raised right and will keep up her appearance (or improve it) for her man. Mine does. It appears skibum609's wife does, too. Skibum609 is also dead on. Often both spouses let it go. Which is too bad. That kills the mystery, intrigue, and the sexual fire / chemistry.

Many gyms open early at 5AM and some are 24 hours. Get you asses up and work out and eat right.

It's not like many guys don't let themselves go too. But agree with JamesSD that when it's a hot chick, who gets fat super fast, it's particularly jarring.

In my ex's family, there was one aunt & uncle who had 4 beautiful daughters ... I mean, genetic jackpot when it came to daughters, each really beautiful. The youngest daughter was, to me, the most beautiful of a beautiful family, incredibly cute face, cute voice, killer body. Then she got pregnant super young -- maybe 20? maybe younger? -- and after the pregnancy, permanently gained something like 40+ pounds (on a 5'1" frame), total tub at that size and weight. She was never able to lose it... I have to think that there was some genetic time bomb there, and pregnancy just tripped something to do with her hormones or metabolism or whatever.

I used to always wonder about her husband, who must be feeling like he should sue for fraud. Marry crazy young, to an incredibly beautiful woman, and now get the spend the entire rest of your life with an obese woman.

Works both ways. I've seen both the guy and girl let themselves go to shit. Kids are a big factor for women but it's not nearly as one sided as you portray.

@Subraman

i saw that exact same situation happen about 3 years ago. super, super, super hot young girl gets pregnant, balloons up and never loses the weight. a total tub of lard and after well over a year and a very physically active job, there is no question but that it is a permanent condition. she is not only huge but also on the short side which makes it all the worse. OMG it is almost like something out of a Grimm’s fairy tale nightmare. funny thing is her mother who had 5 children is very attractive and obviously never had that problem so maybe it is one of those skip a generation or recessive gene things. i felt so sorry for her and i never feel sorry for anyone.

Right. It is strange when it was a hot chick (or guy) who lets herself (or himself) go shortly after marriage. It can be a number of things/factors/solutions.

• sometimes they were just thin/hot/sexy without doing any work to achieve nor maintain it, so they never developed any good habits. so when the body changes .. it changes and boy does it! (This is common, IME)

• kids. suddenly kids consume all of the couple energy so there is nothing left for maintenance and the body goes as a result.

• She (or he) was only staying in shape/exercising/eating-right to land a spouse, get the ring. So now gaining 80lbs isn't a big deal (already have the ring).

• People (naturally) become accepting of "who you are". So now, why put energy into it? So now gaining 80lbs isn't a big deal (since the spouse loves you anyway).

• no time / no money / no motivation for the gym or for healthy foods now that she (or he) is married. (This is common, IME.)

• No fear of dying alone (aka "what French women think that lets them stay so thin as a culture." It's also applicable to guys.)

Dominic

Marriage Sucks!

The more ugly a girl is, the more likely she is going to do whatever it takes to get married fast.

SJG

It can be discouraging to see the little lady put on post-nupital weight, but I think you guys got it all wrong. Ron White has it in perspective- you can fix some of that (or she can with hubby's money), but YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID youtube.com

Basically if her appearance starts to go south I have to wonder what I look like- and with enough money in the pocket there's always incall or takeout at the strip club.

-->"i saw that exact same situation happen about 3 years ago. super, super, super hot young girl gets pregnant, balloons up and never loses the weight. a total tub of lard and after well over a year and a very physically active job, there is no question but that it is a permanent condition."

Weird thing is, two of her other sisters had kids. One chubbed up considerably (though not as bad as the younger one), the other one stayed completely slim and beautiful.

Instantly pregnant and then never losing the weight, I think that is pretty much standard in more conservative cultures.

One Filipino office girl refused to go out with me, saying that because I was American there would have to be a chaperone. So I got the message.

Then soon she is married, and then pregnant, and she looked kind of scared about it all, fearful of what she was losing.

I think at least in decades past, Roman Catholic women were quicker to become permanently fat once married.

SJG

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This Filipino girl, I ended up kind of feeling sorry for her. She really was pretty. But she was not allowed to go out with Americans. I talked to her on the telephone tough, besides face to face at her cubicle.

Beyond a point, once you realize that someone lives in that conservative of a reality, you've just got to back off. You can't shatter her world by intruding and using different rules.

SJG

@san_jose_guy “One Filipino office girl refused to go out with me, saying that because I was American there would have to be a chaperone”…”But she was not allowed to go out with Americans”

wow! just wow. your knowledge of asian culture is mind boggling. who would have guessed that those millions of Filipinas dating and marrying Americans were breaking cultural and social taboos. i’ll bet you even believe the asian sex slaves in AMPs aren’t really slaves too

hey psycho rapist idiot boy, another news flash for you. she told you that because she knew you were stupid enough to believe it. she didn’t want to go out with you for the same reason NO woman has ever gone out with you. because you are a creepy sociopath. that’s why you had to buy a mail order bride. remember now? the third world woman who dumped you and got a restraining order against you?

is any of this sounding familiar? take your meds dumbass. they won’t cure you from being a creepy sociopath but they will help protect innocent women and children from you

The girl was very nice to me, and we talked on the phone at length, and others from that office, including Filipinos, did go out with me. Its just that some were more deeply embedded in conservative families than others. A few years older makes a big difference, along with sexual experiences. Some had lived with white guys, some had kids and were divorced. But this one I mentioned had zero experience, so her family, I think her brothers, wanted to keep it that way.

There was another Filipino girl with whom I had to first be invited to dinner at their home. Her cousin acted as the hostess. Her father looked me straight in the eyes and firmly shook my hand saying, "name is my only daughter."

Again, beyond a point you have to let people be the way they are and respect their culture.

To divert a bit and get back to the OP. I saw long ago an episode of Benny Hill. There was this girl, the factory owner's daughter. She wouldn't kiss. She just kept pointing to her left hand ring finger. She wouldn't accept any food either, always making a gesture about her figure.

Then at their wedding reception she dives off a platform into a 10' high wedding cake and eats until she expands like a little blimp. Then she starts chasing Benny around and around, trying to jump him.

Marriage is Hell.

SJG

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^^^^ take your meds. you're starting to get drool all over yourself with your brain working overtime creating these fantasy memories