how much to tip dancer "for her time"?

32 comments

• ButterMan

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  8 years ago

  You don't tip her anything for her time. This has been discussed here before. If anything in this situation ask her when she is on stage and tell her you will come see her then. Never pay a dancer for just sitting or speaking to you, you are a PL not in human.
• dancer0307

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  8 years ago

  Be honest with and tell her your not interested in a dance but would offer a drink. This is should be done after 5 or so minutes so you both don't feel like you wasted your time.
• maho

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  8 years ago

  Depends. If she is genuinely cool and I'm initiating parts of the conversation, but for whatever reason am not interest in a trip to VIP, I give her a little something - maybe $20-$60. At some point I'll make it clear I'm just going to hang out for a while or am waiting on someone so I don't waste too much of her time.
• lopaw

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  8 years ago

  If a dancer is sitting on my lap for more than a few minutes, then that means that I like her and I am going to buy dances from her. I'm not going to keep her on my lap or at my table and waste both of our time if I am not planning on buying dances, and I am certainly not going to pay her for anything other than dances (or extras, of course!) Didn't we just talk about this?
• Ch3ll

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  8 years ago

  Its up to you, but the consensus seems to be not to. There is only one recurring stripper i pay for her time only because Ill get dances from her on a different visit. Like someone said earlier we've recently talked about this. Go back a few discussion pages until you see "How much to charge for talking."
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  If you are going to take up her time b/c *you* want her company; then she should be compensated by either you getting some dances or tipping her – she is there to make $$$; not be a girlfriend by-proxy. Hard to know exactly how much; would have to put some thought into it – perhaps the equivalent of 1/4 a lap-dance cost – e.g say the avg song-length in most clubs is 3.5 minutes; if you talk to her for an hour that would be the equivalent of ~17 songs and if you pay her 1/4 the dance price that would be a total of ~$85 for her time of 1-hour of her company or about $45 for 30-minutes (assuming $20/dance). This I think is “fair” but may not work for a dancer in a busy club where there is a lot of potential $$$; and may not work if she's hot and can make in 10-minutes what you are paying for convo for an hour.
• Subraman

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  8 years ago

  Easy to overthink this. You have lots of ways to compensate her for her time, and for me, it depends heavily on the club culture. I specifically seek out the slowest times of slowest shifts I can -- but shifts that still have attractive girls. And there, I'll spend easy 3+ hours with her and buy a couple of VIPs ($200 cost) in compensation, plus keeping her in alcohol and food the entire time, is a winning proposition for both of us ... I've had lots of fun and had great value for my money, she's made far more than most other girls in the club if we're talking about (say) the Monday 6:30-9:30 timeframe when the club is dead. Note that I haven't tipped her for time at all, I pay her in VIP dances, but we're both still happy with the deal. That, of course, doesn't remotely work for the Saturday night 11pm-2am shift, when the club is packed... which is why I rarely go to those shifts. Once in a while, I'll invite a girl to stay at the table and drink even though I am not planning to do any dancers with her (and I always make that crystal clear). If she chooses to stay, my only cost is buying her drinks. But, if she's awesome at the table -- super fun, funny, bringing other girls over, etc. -- I'll almost always tip her at the end. I never feel obligated, but a tip both expresses my appreciation, and very often, gets her back to my table again next time.
• JamesSD

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  8 years ago

  If she goes on stage I might throw her a few extra dollars. I don't go to clubs with drink hustles, but if I did I might buy a drink for a girl I liked who spent a lot of time with me.
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  I pay dancers $20 per song plus a $5 tip to talk to me. Minimum. Cause I'm too shy to talk to girls in real life. Plus I like looking at their cleavage while they talk. Sometimes I can almost see a nipple. This is so hot. Should I be paying more?
• Cashman1234

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  8 years ago

  I recommend reading the discussion mentioned above. Remember - she's working - and time is money. If you aren't interested - let her know up front - so she can move to another more interested customer.
• motorhead

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  8 years ago

  "Didn't we just talk about this?" lopaw, Men have short term memories. Blood flow to the penis deprives oxygen to the brain and it affects memory. Do women experience a similar thing?
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  I pay dancers $20 per song plus a $5 tip to talk to me. Minimum. Cause I'm too shy to talk to girls in real life. Plus I like looking at their cleavage while they talk. Sometimes I can almost see a nipple. This is so hot. Should I be paying more?
• Dominic77

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  8 years ago

  OK, I'm on a boring conference call straight off of another boring call, so I'll take a crack at this . . . -- -- How long is a piece of string? --> The answer to this is really a philosophical question/answer. /s -- -- Definitely offer a drink (alcoholic or nonalcoholic is her choice). IMO, it's rude as fuck to not offer her a drink. For 20 minutes, most customers who tip would give her $10 if they really enjoyed it. For a so-so time, just give $5. A classy move would be to comp her for one LD price as a tip, for the 20 minutes clothed convo ($20 or $30). Generally I would cap my tipping for clothed convo at $100-120/hr. That's only if she's blowing me away and/or offering GFE in the front room. There's no reason to spend more than that unless you are whale. Plus if you offer too much, and you are trying to use The System(tm) to get OTC/P4P, you still want your OTC $$ offer to look attractive. Rarely does it make sense budget-wise or from a budget-conscious standpoint to buy BOTH dances AND tip for time. Doing so makes for a rather expensive SC visit. Fun, but expensive. Happy SC mongering! PS: /s = sarcasm tag, for non-Reddit readers.
• chessmaster

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  8 years ago

  ^ha! Good one.
• skibum609

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  8 years ago

  If a dancer spends time with me and I enjoy it, I tip her. If I want to drink with her I buy her drinks. My favorite club caters to regulars so we treat the dancers differently. Probably why as customers we too can get naked in private dances. The one caveat? Its winter so i like to leave my socks on.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  8 years ago

  This has been discussed recently. Go here: [view link] "All of this has happened before, and all of it will happen again." /Galactica
• 4got2wipe

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  8 years ago

  "$5,000." Brilliant!
• Dominic77

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  8 years ago

  Last trip, about $40-50/hour in fives, about two at a time, after drinks arrive.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  $5,000 sounds like too much - for w/e reason $4,999 sounds cheaper
• twentyfive

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  8 years ago

  How about if you enjoyed her company and you hung out for a while give her a reasonable tip just so she will remember that you were a good guy and maybe you might enjoy her company again any where from, $25- $100 . Not saying you have to tip at all, but why be a cheapass . Being nice hasn't ever hurt me at any of the clubs I go to regularly, that when I do show up I always have a few girls that really treat me well.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  Just give her some good DATY as her tip :)
• twentyfive

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  8 years ago

  ^^^ That too.
• NinaBambina

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  8 years ago

  It really depends. If a stripper asks to sit with you and you say yes, you should compensate for the cost of her time. It depends on your budget of course, but I'd say a $20 every 20 minutes or so.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  I’m guessing a lot more customers sit w/ Nina than w/ HotStuff :)
• JohnSmith69

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  8 years ago

  I've said yes to a stripper sitting with me hundreds of times in 20 years and never once has she ever asked for money to sit, and never once have I ever offered to pay her to sit. I often buy some dances after a bit or at least buy her food or drink cause I wouldn't say yes unless I was interested in her, but strippers get paid to strip not to talk. Nevertheless, I don't doubt there are some idiots out there who actually pay for nothing.
• Papi_Chulo

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  8 years ago

  Should we charge dancers when they *insist* on sitting w/ us and using our time.
• Dominic77

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  8 years ago

  JohnSmith69 --> " but strippers get paid to strip not to talk." --> end quote JohnSmith69 Depends on the state and local laws. The club I go to they have to stupid ordinance where they have to wear four articles of clothing. so there's no real "stripping" going on. I miss the old days and I miss Florida. :-(
• Estafador

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  8 years ago

  unless she actually wants to be there and your kind of leading her on because we all know she'd rather just be making money elsewhere than talking to some PL. I'd at least offer her a drink for 20 minutes of her time. She could have made over $100 by then. THough unless she wants to keep talking to you, then don't tip shit. She's happy conversing with you in that case.
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

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• flagooner

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  8 years ago

  I agree. I will tip her extra if she spends time with me. But on my own, not if she asks for it.
• IHearVoices

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  8 years ago

  Zero. I have plenty of people I can call if I want to talk.
• san_jose_guy

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  8 years ago

  Yes, "on my own". That's the thing, just taking care of your girl, not paying fees. Same for making it rain. SJG