If a stripper tells you when she gets off work, is it a sign that she likes you?
I have been a strip club enthusiast for many years now, and it is true that the vast majority of the women who work there have shown no interest in me personally. Some of the few that I have felt a personal connection with have mentioned when they are getting off work, or taking a break. It has never happened with any of the ones that haven't shown interest in me.
I have never asked any of them out, but I am wondering if anyone else has noticed this.
I have never asked any of them out, but I am wondering if anyone else has noticed this.
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Proceed with caution, but by all means proceed.
Either that.
Or she needs a ride to her loser boyfriend's house or to her drug dealer after work...
+ if she was not a stripper; would you be able to score w/ her – i.e. is it fairly common for you to date girls of her caliber – are you close in age; if you are 20+ year her senior; pretty much forget about her wanting to “date you” for genuine reasons other than fleecing your-wallet
+ 99% of dancers are JUST interested in your money and NOT you; NO MATTER how it may look and how friendly and flirty she treats you as a CUSTOMER
+ w.r.t. the first bullet above; if you can score w/ non-dancers of similar caliber; then why mess with a dancer – 99% of the time you don't want to date such women nor be their BF; IMO
“... I have been a strip club enthusiast for many years ...”
I believe you – but the question you are asking means there is A LOT you don't know about strip-clubs and stripper; I'd stick around here if I were you so you can get educated and learn the real truth.
So – if you don't mind – you don't have to say though – how old are you and and how well do you do w/ civilian women?
And by asking them out; do you mean as a regular date; or you paying them to be w/ you?
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99% of the time it's a sign she is taking you for a ride and her intention is to bleed you dry out of every cent you have – hear me now and believe me later
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I'm actually very leery about dating a stripper. I like having a low drama life, and I know it would be very strange dating someone much younger than myself. I also don't know if there would be anything to talk about outside the club. As far as getting sex goes, if she would have sex with me, then I would be a little afraid that they would give me something else I didn't want.
I'm mostly just curious, because it seems as though it is something that women say that may show they are interested. I have searched the internet for the signs that a stripper is interested in you, and this is not on any lists I have found. I believe in fairly compensating the dancer for their time, especially if they show me a good time, but I am not lavish with my spending, so I doubt they would be looking at me as a great source of money. I also don't dress in such a way as to indicate that I don't have a lot of money.
I really do get the impression that these women like me, and I wanted to see if anyone else has had that happen to them, and what happened after that.
The best way to go about it is treat as business – at you do in the club – you pay her for her time and let her know exactly what you want/expect (e.g. sex) and let her say yey or nay; and even when paying her there are still things you need to know so you won't get ripped off – do a search for OTC (Outside The Club) in the TUSCL search box neat the top.
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Of course if they tell me they want money, then no surprises there. I've only run into one female customer like that. I was very suspicious, plus had a beer buzz because I was not planning on leaving for hours but it was last call and I drank like 3 or 4 beers in 15 minutes.
Customer: "hey cutie what time you get off work? We could ditch this place and go to some hotel and have some real fun "
Me: "I don't get off work till 3 am and well I'd have to get to know you better first. Perhaps we could talk more if you get a lap dance.?"
*he will then get the lap dance or not*
Customer: you know this could be more fun if you let me do _____
Me: I'm sure you'd like that. (I just ignore his want for said action)
Customer: so what's your number hot stuff. Your so beautiful.
Me: I don't have it memorized new phone and I don't use it often.
And well you get it I just keep dodging and weaving. However, there is a chance she could want something from you looks are not everything. I'd ask her casually if she'd be interested in dinner after work at waffle house or I hop or something. Strippers love food!!! We are always hungry after work at least I am and other people I know usually are. Worse thing could happen is she will decline or not show. Best thing you guys have a great time and maybe go again and maybe it will lead to more. And for things to talk about find common interests while your at the club. Hell talk about the food and places you like to eat.
I couldn't date a dancer for that simple fact.
I love SCs but I know my limits.
I go for entertainment. I would proceed with caution.
If you can handle her occupation, go for it.
Now you're making some sense, man
---> " I like having a low drama life"
I can tell you from firsthand experience, you date a stripper, you will get to savor the experience of an extremely high drama life. Maybe it's time for a change man, you're in rut! lol
---> "I'm mostly just curious, because it seems as though it is something that women say that may show they are interested."
One of the rookiest of rookie mistakes you can make, is take something that would be interpreted as interest if it were uttered by a civilian woman, and assume it means remotely the same thing when a stripper says it. If you internalize nothing else from this thread, that's the thing. Guys who get taken and heartbroken, start off making that mistake. As long as you realize what it is, all part of her hustle, you can sit back and enjoy it.
Telling you what time she's got her break or getting off means absolutely nothing when it comes from a stripper, without more context. Well, actually, it does mean something -- that she trusts you enough that she might entertain some OTC action.
What's it mean?
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Most of the time, it means she's open to OTC sex
At certain clubs I go to, particularly if she's telling you about her break, it means she's inviting you to go out drinking with her (you're buying for her, and any of her friends she brings). This actually is a bit of a vote of confidence, the girls would rather drink by themselves than with a customer they dislike, even if he's buying. And it can be pretty fucking fun -- I used to take them up on it, also. That doesn't mean she sees you as anything other than a customer, but just like you have fave customers at your work who you treat a little better (even though they're still jsut customers, and you have no interest in socializing with them outside of your job), you may be hers. Lots of the guys here don't believe this, but I assure you it's true.
The rest of the time? Maybe some long-term or romance hustle. Or maybe real -- I've ended up fuckbuddies with a small number of strippers, so it does happen, super rarely (at least for me)
Strippers come into contact w/ dozens of men per week – it's their job and what they do – you are not the first “special custy” and won't be the last (and you're most-likely not the only one she may be currently playing; it's their job; it's what they do).
That said, a dancer would need to jump through hoops of fire to convince me that she has genuine feelings for me, or even a "personal connection." It's not impossible, but it's a rainbow unicorn dancing on diamonds in terms of rarity.
Letting me know when she's off work or on break does not qualify. Not even close.
Ishmael
That said, a dancer would need to jump through hoops of fire to convince me that she has genuine feelings for me, or even a "personal connection." It's not impossible, but it's a rainbow unicorn dancing on diamonds in terms of rarity. "
I like to ATF the girls, too. All good strippers make you feel like you've made a special connection, so that means little. I don't make the girls jump through "hoops of fire". I use a single, simple measure to determine if she's interested beyond stripper/customer, and that is: Is she fucking me for free? And my measure of how interested she is, is: To what extent is she pursuing me?
I've built relationships liek this asmall number of times, and in all cases, we spent a lot of time OTC without compensation, and she pursued me as much as I pursued her (that is, she initiated calls, texts, "want to hang out tonight" type interaction)
There was local place where the money was much less, but most of the girls only worked there to set up OTC's. So if you talked to them they would just smile and nod and listen attentively, while they listed for the place to cut in and tell you which city they lived in. Then usually after they'd danced a couple of songs for a guy, only $5 a song, the guy would leave and then the girl would be seen in her street clothes heading for the front door.
The first time one of their girls talked to me like that, "I live in San Jose". I thought, "She must be getting a bit tipsy and not realize how that sounds." But then the next time, "I live in San Carlos", and I could see what the intent was.
And then at the Pink Poodle a dayshift girl was like that with me, telling me what time she gets off. With her I don't think her offer was restricted to P4P either.
And then there was a Viet Coffee Girl who talked to me and others like that. She was a young hottie. I'm sure she didn't mean that as P4P at all and would have been angered if someone took it that way.
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We strongly part ways there, sjg. Any vaguely competent stripper is going to out of most customers' leagues, as far as how good she is at appearing genuine, versus his bullshit detector.
Anyway, I reckon most guys who get hustled would say "it was clear that she liked me" ... Right until they realize they've been hustled. Certainly, the girls in the story above with my buddies, they were bubbly and friendly and you would have sworn they were really digging t heir time and were looking forward to OTC fun.
The Viet Coffee Girls are totally civilian. With the strippers it will vary. But when some of them were talking to me, they probably were wanting to keep it entirely civilian. So as this would mean that they and I would be spending time together and coming to know each other, before inserting Tab A in Slot B, it did become like a dream which could not be realized. I was not available and I had to keep my act clean. AMP sessions yes, but getting more involved and being in motels and all, no.
Papi, ColdnShallow supports monogamy only. My own position has moved even further from her's. I am now saying that monogamy, at least as a societally favored lifestyle, is immoral. What do you think?
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One case I would apply this to was a stripper at the Pink Poodle. She most definitely did like me. Whether she was wanting P4P or Civilian would have remained to be seen. But if I took her up on her offer I know that I would have been flexible, doing whatever seemed to make her the most comfortable. I believe that for her it would have been the same way.
Another case was with a hot looking young Viet Coffee Girl, a total Good Girl. The ones that work in those places do not do P4P. Most guys ruin their chance with these girls because they refuse to see this.
Those coffee shops make plenty of money as it is. The owners know where the lines are and what would get them in trouble. A girl who was setting up P4P wouldn't last 20min.
She was just like lots of beautiful young girls. She spent too much time sitting home alone. So this girl, with zero P4P experience and never ever thinking about that, decided to sometimes plant suggestions of outside civilian dates with customers. "I get off at 3 o'clock."
In such places some of the girls often have really gone for me. I don't know what I could say which would prove this to you. Maybe it would be the number of times strippers have been talking to me for hours and hours, for free. Or in the Viet Coffee shops where they don't do P4P, the amount of face time and attention some girls have given me.
SJG
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