Girlfriend used to work at Sapphire in Vegas. Was she a ho or not a ho that is t
Mrbigstuff
So my live-in girlfriend, after having a few drinks the other night, spilled the beans that she used to be a stripper at Sapphire in Vegas about 10 years ago. She said her dead beat husband gambled away all of their money and she had to support him and her daughter so she was a stripper for a year .This girl wants to start a life with me. So what I'm wondering is if it this money was relatively clean thru lap dances in this club that is topless only, or was this club like so many that I've been to in Los Angeles area where the girls routinely give hand jobs and blowjobs in the VIP area to make money?
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SJG
Just enjoy the willing females and treat them right and take good care of them.
SJG
long lasting relationships are based on honesty and trust. She did not tell me she was a stripper until after I had already fallen in love with her.
Extras do happen there but that it not an easy club to do such activities in. Any guy in his right mind would never do their skybox VIP because I think to even enter that room costs upwards of $800. Most of the guys that wind up in the skybox are extremely intoxicated enhancing their poor decision makings.
Ask her what she knows about the Palace Station, and if she acts funny, then you have your answer if she did extras. True Vegas mongers will know what I am talking about.
If I were you I wouldn't want to know. That was a long ass time ago. Let it go and either accept her with her past, or let her go to be with someone who can look past a time in her life that I'm sure she isn't proud of and would just as soon forget about herself.
If she's not charging you to have sex then she must think you're pretty special. I'd hold on to this gem tightly if I were you.
You should thank God that she trusted you enough to tell you her history. Like rockstar said, if you can't love her unconditionally, then do her a favor and get out of her life nos.
To the OP, don't be a d-bag! If you love this woman it doesn't matter what she did 10 years ago! Hell, it doesn't matter what she did two days before you met her! The only thing that matters is how you treat each other! Be brilliant to each other!
I don't know you at all. I merely suggest it as an exercise before you potentially discover and react to information you don't like.
Good luck,
Ishmael
Take it from a guy who tried to convince himself that his stripper girlfriend wasn't hooking. It'll never work if that bothers you. If you can't love and accept her regardless of what happened back then, it's better to let her go. You will never know what really happened.
None of us should judge if you knew and decided you were ok with it. But if she didn't tell you and give you a chance to say what you want from her then she was being seriously non-brilliant! :(
I wouldn't want a girlfriend to hook while we were going out, but what she did in the past is the past. I wouldn't care!
1. Can I handle the fact that she worked as a stripper (and I have absolutely no way of knowing what services she performed during that time) 10 years ago? I know the answer for me: I certainly could (in fact, I think it's somewhat retarded that someone couldn't), but I"m not the one dating this woman. If you can't handle it, if it will gnaw at you over time, then the first time you get into a huge fight and you call her a filthy whore, it will all be over. Best to move on right now, if you really can't handle it.
2. Am I sure she's healthy? Many strippers weren't particularly emotionally healthy when they started stripping, and the strip club itself can be even unhealthier. But there can be a lot of healing in 10 years. If she is healthy and happy, I'd say you're the unhealthy one for obsessing over this. But if there are aspects of her personality that you've been questioning, the stripper history could help explain and clarify it (and possibly be a warning).
She said she wanted to settle down with me and change her life telling me about all of these things. A couple weeks ago I caught her out with one of the non sex friends (he's ugly and little money). I kicked her out the next day. She now wants to come back. so my dilemma is I might be willing to put up with a little bit of crap if she is trying to change and give her some time, but if she really was a hooker basically that will be a deal killer for me because that is such a massive lie.
You have no way of knowing if she was a hooker, period, end of story, no reason to keep asking. You're going to have to make your decision based on what you know now, which does not sound like someone I would remotely consider getting into a relationship with, regardless of whether or not she was ever actually a stripper.
I'm def no expert on women nor relationships – but I think ti's pretty obvious to anyone with a little life experience that if you get involved w/ her “hoping she will change” or become the person you or her want her to be; you will probably fail miserably – i.e. IMO she needs to change her ways b/f you commit else you are making a highly risky and speculative investment and most of the time these investments do not pan out and one is out some serious resources ($$$, emotions; etc).
IMO – it's bad enough when the guy is the bad-boy in the relationship – but IMO it's even worse when it's the woman that is the bad-girl.
BUT.....
With the new info here are more things to consider:
1. She seems materialistic to still be leading these guys on or "non-sex" friends. I mean she seems to be in a "sugar" daddy type situation with no sex.
2. Will she now be looking at you for all the financial needs she has?? Can you handle this?
3. Her past seems like she is a woman with the attitude with the grass is always greener thinking...... so has she given this same BS to the guys she is now "non sex friends" with that she is giving you about changing???
Now some advise:
1. If you want to still have a relationship with her..... you need for her to show you she is changing before I would make any type of commitment. What I mean is you can still hang out, fuck, etc. But tell her you are not going to go "all in" unless she shows significant changes to what you want.
2. RUN LIKE HELL.... This is what I would do.
You always hear people say to A woman... you know u cant change a man. Well same goes for women. They have to want to change.... you cant change them.
How fuckin insecure are you ?
Marriage if it goes wrong and it will is a major financial set back for a man
Run like hell Forrest Gump!!!
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SJG
Honestly, (1) dump her and (2) re-evaluate your standards ASAP.
How do I know, my CF2 is lying to her boyfriend about seeing me.
She was hooking while we were dating. That wasn't the problem though. I've been in open and polyamorous relationships and can handle my girl fucking other guys. The problem was that she put a great deal of effort into trying to convince me she wasn't hooking (and wasn't doing a bunch of other stuff that she didn't know I knew about). I wanted to believe and trust her, but trust is impossible when you know deep down that you're being deceived.
I hear you. without some sort of trust you have nothing. Just a shell of a relationship with maybe some good sex. there's good girls out there that are also good in the sack. I just wish they were easier to find lol.
You can lead a stripper to water (common-sense); but you can't make her drink it.
She's the one that has to take the initiative – you trying to better her life and be the one doing the heavy-lifting will most likely end in failure – trying to “help” these women is more often than not the proverbial pushing on a string.
Not that one should not help them; but they (woman/dancer) needs to want it more, or AT LEAST, as much as you do.
Yeah the sex was great. You haven't lived till you've had a naked spinner sitting on your dick while she drives your car.