I have been going to strip clubs twice a month for six years but tonight is the first night by myself. The guy I normally go with isnt available and won't be available for two weeks and I don't want to wait that long to go back. Anyway any advice? I'm nervous about heading there by myself.
IDK I think it's going to be awkward just sitting by myself. Since I'm driving I can't get drunk, maybe a few beers max. However I'm looking forward to a different kind of experience.
I usually SC with buddies. It felt awkward being there by myself for a while, and honestly, probably took a year or so to totally adjust -- these days, I think it's ridiculous to think it's a big deal at all, but there was definitely a psychological shift from "this is just a social thing I do with my buddy" to "well then, I'm a bona fide trenchcoater". To this day, I also dislike not having someone to swap SC stories with on the drive up and drive down.
In the end, though, it's no big deal, you'll just adjust. Girls will come over a little more freely also, instead of having to work up the courage to approach 2 guys or find another stripper to come with her.
I like drinking at the club, so I often take the train to the city and then Lyft to and from the club.
I understand, it's really not a big deal though. Use the same approach you would when your buddy is there. If it's a dancer you like, talk to her and get dances. If not, say no thanks. Be careful with feeling like you have to get dances so you're not alone. It's fine to be picky. If you don't your money might disappear faster than you think. You might see an uptick in dancers stop by because you're not talking with a buddy.
Depends – if one's primary reason for SCing is the party/social aspect of it; then best to go w/ friends – but if one's primary reason is the women; they I think having buds there doesn't help and IMO kinda gets in the way (i.e. if one is distracted talking it up with their bud(s) then one is not totally focused on the dancers and can miss out on a hot-one).
I was the same way, shoot I even made a discussion about it. Nowadays I find it much more enjoyable going solo. But then again I grew up as an only child and throughout most of my life so far I tend to do most other things by myself, simply because people are unreliable when it comes to social events. So I am 1000% comfortable doing certain things solo.
I always found going with other people more awkward than going solo. Going by yourself, you won't have to think about splitting the checks, maybe checking out a dancer your buddy might've balked at, losing your table, losing your buddy, losing your ride. Whatever happens, happens, and you won't have anyone around to tell the world about it.
PhantomGeek---> "I always found going with other people more awkward than going solo. Going by yourself, you won't have to think about splitting the checks, maybe checking out a dancer your buddy might've balked at, losing your table, losing your buddy, losing your ride. Whatever happens, happens, and you won't have anyone around to tell the world about it."
PG, If those kinds of things happen to you, no wonder you don't like SCing with buddies. Hell, I wonder if you guys who don't like SCing with buddies, just have crappy buddies. Won't have to think about splitting the check? Each in our group just buys a round in turn. Losing your table? I never lose my table, because my buddy is always there sitting at it while I'm off getting a VIP. Losing your buddy or ride? In what universe do you lose your buddy or ride, I don't understand that one at all, you're all at the club, with cellphones, and would NEVER leave a man behind, period. And lastly, if your buddy would "tell the world about it" instead of a strict "what happens in the SC, stays in the SC", 100% got-your-back all the time.
JS69---> "If you are there mostly for the pussy, then going alone is definitely better."
JS, I realize this is partly a matter of personal taste, but I also am getting a feeling that it's strongly dependent on whether your buddies suck, or are awesome, at least as far as SCing goes. With the right buddies, not only do you get an awesome atmosphere, but easily as much or more pussy play. I'm going to resist my OCD tendency to write out an itemized list of why SCing with buddies (at least if they are avid SCers and not crappy SCers like most of you seem to have), but from the party atmosphere leading to the girls drinking more which leads to more bad judgement on their part, to your buddy's girl going and fetching whoever you want, to one of the pinnacles of my SC experience -- the buddy OTC with girls from the same club -- no matter where you lie on your SC experience goals, from relatively more party atmosphere to relatively more focus on a girl, SCing with buddies is better.
Obviously, completely & totally subjective, all just IMHO, but again, I'm not so sure this is just a matter of differences in our goals, I think some might be changing their minds if they had the right buddies
For me, I prefer going alone. The few time I've gone with someone who's not "in the know" about my activities, it was a buzzkill. Having to watch what I say, being unable to really enjoy a lap dance, avoiding VIP so as to avoid questions, etc.
The only enjoyable trips were with my wife, and a couple of other local mongers who didn't care what I was up to, other than the friendly competition for the girls' attention. :)
Never pick the first dancer to approach you. Be wary of any dancer that comes to you first, they are always the lower 50th percentile in looks. Any girl you'd wanna fuck doesn't do rounds, they prefer regulars who they know have $, and 1 regular will pay their house fee in 30 mins and after that they will be picky for the rest of the night. You might need to walk upto them at the bar and say hi. They still might not want anything to do with you. YMMV. Waitresses aren't strippers. Dont confuse them. Female customers aren't strippers either.
Keep drinks to 1 per hour, or better yet, no alcohol and 1 non-alcohol drink per hour. keeps costs low (more $ for LDs or extras, I can drink from my 1L in my car and save 80%). You can't get ripped off if you are sober. If you need beer vision to find her hot, guess what, she aint hot!
There are 4 things to take into a SC in your pockets. 1st, your phone, no headphones or substitute a watch for your phone. 2nd start with an empty wallet. Add ONE piece of ID and green paper cash to it, try to keep alot of $5/$10/$20s so its not "That will be $20" "Why thank you for the [$80] generosity sweety". You can get a strap of $1s at the bar. That is it for things in your pockets. No keys. No coin change. No business cards, no dozen CCs, no CCL, no loyalty cards. You dont want anything that you wouldn't mind being robbed of or loosing in the SC. Also LDs with keys are painful. Your front pockets should be empty during a LD. I add chapstick to the list. Others might add condoms. Leave your coat in the car to save the coat check fee.
Never ever use a CC in a SC. Never use the SC ATM. Your bill will have bogus charges from the SC, or be cloned and used a couple counties away for Nordstrom shopping by the stripper's BF. Dont keep your CC in your wallet. You can wind up in a clip joint with security mugging you.
Always ask the price of something before buying it. Some SCs have no standards and dancers will go above the standard prices at the SC if they think you a sucker or new. Ask the doorman when you walk in what the prices are, but he might be forbidden from telling you or not know. Ask about touching before buying a LD, different strippers have different standards, sometimes between different custies. Most SCs have cameras everywhere. You dont want the night to end in a chokehold. Follow what other customers are doing.
Be very slow before buying anything at a SC or you will be as disappointed with the LD as Santa is. Pay attention to song counts or ask the stripper to tell you when each song starts. They will try to rack up a bill without you realizing it.
About clubbing solo, atleast in my home town, it is a worse experience since most of my local SCs are too upscale caberts or gentlemens clubs. Solo SCing has the same discrimination as solo dining. Security makes solos wait in a line outdoors, groups walk in freely. One SC has a solo custies aren't allowed to sit policy unless they are paying for a LD. Solos have no money. A group will have 1 guy with a tab on his C level expense account. Some SCs have a policy that dancers MUST entertain groups even though the group isn't actively paying for LD for the dancer to be there. If a bouncer sees a girlless group he will grab a stripper by the arm and tell her to walk over. Solos dont get any of that. Also going solo means you will loose your seat easily, and you've gotta piss and goto the LD corner, although going solo at a multi stage multi dancer SC means you can move from pole to pole to get front row with the best dancer.
I agree with Subra that clubbing with a friend can be fun but only if he understands the strip club game, and only if he doesn't interfere with my pursuit of happiness. The only people I've found so far who fit this description are fellow tusclers. My friends are mostly old married guys who'd cum on the spot if they ever even saw one of my girls strip. I don't have the kinda time it would take to train such a newbie.
I agree with some of what s88 says, but disagree with an awful lot of it, more than half. That doesn't make him wrong and me right, or vice versa -- we may have just found different ways to have a good time...
JS: exactly... I have a couple of buddies who I don't seek out for SCing anymore, or if we do go SCing now and then, I set my dial from Trenchcoating PL back down to Boys Night Out mode. With my main crew, it's not just that they don't "interfere with my pursuit of happiness", their presence actively improves it. We occasionally get an FNG, and I'm the designed FNG Trainer, so I get to walk them through how they're expected to behave (really! It's a pretty fun job)
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In the end, though, it's no big deal, you'll just adjust. Girls will come over a little more freely also, instead of having to work up the courage to approach 2 guys or find another stripper to come with her.
I like drinking at the club, so I often take the train to the city and then Lyft to and from the club.
Hey, it work's for me
But then, if you have a hot escort, why go to the club? ;-)
If you are there mostly for the pussy, then going alone is definitely better.
If you are there mostly to hang out with friends, then you need to start going for the pussy.
So, yeah, just chill and enjoy.
PG, If those kinds of things happen to you, no wonder you don't like SCing with buddies. Hell, I wonder if you guys who don't like SCing with buddies, just have crappy buddies. Won't have to think about splitting the check? Each in our group just buys a round in turn. Losing your table? I never lose my table, because my buddy is always there sitting at it while I'm off getting a VIP. Losing your buddy or ride? In what universe do you lose your buddy or ride, I don't understand that one at all, you're all at the club, with cellphones, and would NEVER leave a man behind, period. And lastly, if your buddy would "tell the world about it" instead of a strict "what happens in the SC, stays in the SC", 100% got-your-back all the time.
JS, I realize this is partly a matter of personal taste, but I also am getting a feeling that it's strongly dependent on whether your buddies suck, or are awesome, at least as far as SCing goes. With the right buddies, not only do you get an awesome atmosphere, but easily as much or more pussy play. I'm going to resist my OCD tendency to write out an itemized list of why SCing with buddies (at least if they are avid SCers and not crappy SCers like most of you seem to have), but from the party atmosphere leading to the girls drinking more which leads to more bad judgement on their part, to your buddy's girl going and fetching whoever you want, to one of the pinnacles of my SC experience -- the buddy OTC with girls from the same club -- no matter where you lie on your SC experience goals, from relatively more party atmosphere to relatively more focus on a girl, SCing with buddies is better.
Obviously, completely & totally subjective, all just IMHO, but again, I'm not so sure this is just a matter of differences in our goals, I think some might be changing their minds if they had the right buddies
The only enjoyable trips were with my wife, and a couple of other local mongers who didn't care what I was up to, other than the friendly competition for the girls' attention. :)
Keep drinks to 1 per hour, or better yet, no alcohol and 1 non-alcohol drink per hour. keeps costs low (more $ for LDs or extras, I can drink from my 1L in my car and save 80%). You can't get ripped off if you are sober. If you need beer vision to find her hot, guess what, she aint hot!
There are 4 things to take into a SC in your pockets. 1st, your phone, no headphones or substitute a watch for your phone. 2nd start with an empty wallet. Add ONE piece of ID and green paper cash to it, try to keep alot of $5/$10/$20s so its not "That will be $20" "Why thank you for the [$80] generosity sweety". You can get a strap of $1s at the bar. That is it for things in your pockets. No keys. No coin change. No business cards, no dozen CCs, no CCL, no loyalty cards. You dont want anything that you wouldn't mind being robbed of or loosing in the SC. Also LDs with keys are painful. Your front pockets should be empty during a LD. I add chapstick to the list. Others might add condoms. Leave your coat in the car to save the coat check fee.
Never ever use a CC in a SC. Never use the SC ATM. Your bill will have bogus charges from the SC, or be cloned and used a couple counties away for Nordstrom shopping by the stripper's BF. Dont keep your CC in your wallet. You can wind up in a clip joint with security mugging you.
Always ask the price of something before buying it. Some SCs have no standards and dancers will go above the standard prices at the SC if they think you a sucker or new. Ask the doorman when you walk in what the prices are, but he might be forbidden from telling you or not know. Ask about touching before buying a LD, different strippers have different standards, sometimes between different custies. Most SCs have cameras everywhere. You dont want the night to end in a chokehold. Follow what other customers are doing.
Be very slow before buying anything at a SC or you will be as disappointed with the LD as Santa is. Pay attention to song counts or ask the stripper to tell you when each song starts. They will try to rack up a bill without you realizing it.
About clubbing solo, atleast in my home town, it is a worse experience since most of my local SCs are too upscale caberts or gentlemens clubs. Solo SCing has the same discrimination as solo dining. Security makes solos wait in a line outdoors, groups walk in freely. One SC has a solo custies aren't allowed to sit policy unless they are paying for a LD. Solos have no money. A group will have 1 guy with a tab on his C level expense account. Some SCs have a policy that dancers MUST entertain groups even though the group isn't actively paying for LD for the dancer to be there. If a bouncer sees a girlless group he will grab a stripper by the arm and tell her to walk over. Solos dont get any of that. Also going solo means you will loose your seat easily, and you've gotta piss and goto the LD corner, although going solo at a multi stage multi dancer SC means you can move from pole to pole to get front row with the best dancer.
So with that one exception, it has always been going alone for me.
I go there for the women.
SJG